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WIBU and rude to have cleaned this mess up?

111 replies

freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:21

Had some friends to stay over the weekend. They asked if they could bring their dog with them as friend's mum was away and didn't really have anyone else to leave the dog with.

We were fine with it, we have a dog ourselves, both dogs know each other and get on well, so not a problem.

On our way out on the Saturday their dog got really over excited and peed on the landing carpet. I really wasn't annoyed, we have a dog ourselves, accidents happen, friend apologised, I got the 1001 out, cleaned it up and we went about our day. Nothing more was said

Get an email from friend thanking us for a lovely weekend and again apologising for the dog wee.

I replied no problem, accidents happen, and not to think anymore about it, see you soon, blah, blah

Then I get a reply saying good, friend was worried as she thought I was very rude for clearing it up straight away and felt like I was making a dig as if it were her she would have left it until we had left so not to embarrass us.

Her, or her DH could have cleaned it up themselves, or at least offered but they just continued getting ready to go out and I didn't want it to dry/stain/stink. I didn't jump on it straight away and make a huge deal out of it, no tutting or sighing or making a fuss.

Leaving it for 2 days is just minging is it not?

So, WIBU and rude for cleaning it up?

OP posts:
Jan49 · 01/08/2013 02:17

There are some seriously messed up people in this world.

Yes, and someone needs to clean them up, but they had better do it when they are not there to avoid offending them.Grin

WafflyVersatile · 01/08/2013 02:39

People are great aren't they?

Sorry for sleeping with your husband in your marital bed. However I do think it was rude of you to call me those things in front of your neighbours whilst ejecting me. It made me feel distinctly uncomfortable.

slapandpickle · 01/08/2013 03:34

I have a similar story! Hosted a party for a friend once and one of his mates dropped a bottle out of a crate he had balanced v precariously a moment before onto tiled floor - full and it went EVERYWHERE. I was made to feel v rude for shooing people away so I could clean it up - and then the fucker just walked off and left it there leaving me to pick up glass and do all the mopping! What is wrong with people??

belatedmaybe · 01/08/2013 04:34

I think my response would be "glad you had a good time. I appear to have got confused though as it appears that your last email suggested I was rude to not leave dog urine festering in my carpets for several days. Haha but obviously even you couldn't be batshit crazy enough to think that is correct behaviour. Take care Op."

Or you could be all sensible and reasonable and just avoid the situation happening again Grin

ZacharyQuack · 01/08/2013 04:58

Text back "Are you on glue?"

MissTweed · 01/08/2013 05:15

Our friends dog peed on our new rug when they were over for Christmas dinner (we have two dogs) we cleaned it straight away..... Friends apologised.... No problem!! Your friend is making an issue out of nothing!! Yanbu!!

RappyNash · 01/08/2013 05:21

Someone's probable already pointed this out, but as you say they we're preparing to go out, she probably means she would have expected you to wait until then, not for two days until they had gone home.

Still rude though.

Thumbwitch · 01/08/2013 05:25

Good God, she is barking! Shock
You don't leave wee on the carpet for any longer than is absolutely necessary (i.e. the time it takes you to find the cleaning up stuff) so you can get rid of as much of it as possible before it starts to stink! Leaving it for 2 days is BEYOND gross and I can't believe she thinks YOU are the rude one!!
Avoid from now on. Too weird...

Thumbwitch · 01/08/2013 05:26

Oh and yes, if it were me/my pisser, I would have been wrestling the stuff out of your hand to clean it up myself too, not leaving you with it.

itsaruddygame · 01/08/2013 06:01

She is a weirdo. I would not leave dog pee soaking into my carpet whilst my guests unpacked. She is the rude one for sending the e-mail.

ZillionChocolate · 01/08/2013 07:20

As you didn't cause a big drama, you were absolutely not rude. She was rude for not offering to clean it up and very rude for the email. Maybe you should contact an etiquette column with the wwyd and then send her a link if they answer.

TolliverGroat · 01/08/2013 08:37

RappyNash - OP said "on our way out" so presumably both families were going out together and that wouldn't be an option.

EatYourCrusts · 01/08/2013 08:42

She is mad!

maja00 · 01/08/2013 08:44

Message back saying "sorry you felt I was rude, I was just so embarrassed for you that you didn't offer to clean it up yourself that I wanted to save your blushes (and my carpet)"

Original poster
freddiefrog · 01/08/2013 08:49

Rappynash - yes, we were all going out together.

I've sent

"Sorry, I'm confused, are you saying I was rude to clean your dog's piss off my carpet straight away rather than leave it for two days? Righto"

OP posts:
KoalaFace · 01/08/2013 08:51

Good reply! She'll be reeling from that "slight" for weeks!

Original poster
freddiefrog · 01/08/2013 09:00

I really wanted to send the "if cleaning up dog wee is wrong, I don't want to be right" reply, but she's not known for her sense of humour.

It's all a bit odd really

OP posts:
YouStayClassySanDiego · 01/08/2013 09:03

I like that! Grin

Do you think she'll reply or give you the silent treatment?

LaurieFairyCake · 01/08/2013 09:13

Just when you think you've heard everything a thread with the maddest loon comes along Grin

KoalaFace · 01/08/2013 09:33

I think your reply was better freddie ! The other one is just for us MNers to arf over!

woozlebear · 01/08/2013 09:43

Oh wow. I don't think it needs saying again, but YADNBA. She sounds totally out of her tree and vvvvv rude for not offering to clean it up herself.

There do seem to be a lot of mad friend threads on MN recently! Can't wait to hear how she responds....I love maja00's reply.

imnotmymum · 01/08/2013 09:47

Oh my God wonders never cease...She should have offered to clean it up anyway. Am I on planet earth this morning?

MamaChubbyLegs · 01/08/2013 09:47

I can't wait to see what she says back. Maybe dog piss on carpets isn't a big deal in their household

Manky cow.

Rowlers · 01/08/2013 09:52

Can't see this "friendship" lasting!

Sollers · 01/08/2013 09:55

What a complete loon. Please let us know if she replies.