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AIBU?

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WIBU and rude to have cleaned this mess up?

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freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:21

Had some friends to stay over the weekend. They asked if they could bring their dog with them as friend's mum was away and didn't really have anyone else to leave the dog with.

We were fine with it, we have a dog ourselves, both dogs know each other and get on well, so not a problem.

On our way out on the Saturday their dog got really over excited and peed on the landing carpet. I really wasn't annoyed, we have a dog ourselves, accidents happen, friend apologised, I got the 1001 out, cleaned it up and we went about our day. Nothing more was said

Get an email from friend thanking us for a lovely weekend and again apologising for the dog wee.

I replied no problem, accidents happen, and not to think anymore about it, see you soon, blah, blah

Then I get a reply saying good, friend was worried as she thought I was very rude for clearing it up straight away and felt like I was making a dig as if it were her she would have left it until we had left so not to embarrass us.

Her, or her DH could have cleaned it up themselves, or at least offered but they just continued getting ready to go out and I didn't want it to dry/stain/stink. I didn't jump on it straight away and make a huge deal out of it, no tutting or sighing or making a fuss.

Leaving it for 2 days is just minging is it not?

So, WIBU and rude for cleaning it up?

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YouStayClassySanDiego · 31/07/2013 14:54

Text 'you are kidding , right?

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freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:55

Are you going to invite her back?

Er..no and I think I'll give any invites back a swerve

They've been to stay before and were hard work, not sure what possessed me to agree to DH inviting them here again.

We're really more "chinese takeaway, a bottle of wine and go home" friends than holiday friends if you see what I mean

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HazleNutt · 31/07/2013 14:57

Please tell her that SHE was the one being very rude as SHE didn't clear it up right away and left you to deal with her dog's piss.

Honestly, she's nuts.

greensmoothiegoddess · 31/07/2013 14:57

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Keztrel · 31/07/2013 14:58

Good freddie! Glad she's not an long standing friend who's suddenly turned odd! Is she a bit, erm...up herself? The kind of person who thinks social niceties and etiquette should come before everything else? If not, then I am stumped as to why she would think you were rude.

greensmoothiegoddess · 31/07/2013 14:59

Plus I'd be fucking steaming at said friend instead of wondering if I was being unreasonable.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 31/07/2013 15:00

greensmoothie what?

usualsuspect · 31/07/2013 15:11

I wouldn't be fuming , I would just think she was a little odd.

I wouldn't call her a bitch.I'd just laugh I think and keep my distance for a bit.

BrianTheMole · 31/07/2013 15:12

How bizarre, if you don't clean it up right away it sinks into the underlay and its impossible to clean up the stench. I'd turn it back on her and ask if she would really leave it to fester in her carpet for two days? If she says yes then take a piss on her carpet next time you're over there. She obviously won't say anything to you for fear of embarrassing you!

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freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 15:16

I'm not fuming or steaming, I will be giving her house a miss though.

It's just a bit bizarre. You learn all sorts of new ways you are merrily going about your day, unintentionally offending people.

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usualsuspect · 31/07/2013 15:21

It's true,freddie.

I think its funny how people find offence in the oddest things.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 31/07/2013 15:28

She wanted you to leave dog piss soaked into a high traffic area of carpet that would be trod in and walked around the house? For two days??

(rhetorical question I've RTFT )

I have no words.

My dog once shat in my friends hallway behind the door so when my friend opened it, it smeared. I was mortified. We were both on our hands and knees scrubbing, heaving, and pissing ourselves with laughter. (may have been drunk)

CocacolaMum · 31/07/2013 15:35

LOL she would leave a pissy carpet?!! WTAF? you were more than reasonable to clean it up.

BiscuitDunker · 31/07/2013 15:39

Is your friend for real?! They thought you were rude for not wanting to leave dog wee to soak into your carpet for a couple of days?! IMO they were the rude ones for leaving it and making no offer or effort to clean it up themselves!!

Its your home and your carpet why on earth wouldn't you want to clean it up asap?!

If your friend thinks its ok to just leave a puddle of piss like that for any length of time then I dread to think what the state of their home/carpets are in not to mention the stench of piss which much be rife in their home if that's the attitude they have towards the matter!

lunar1 · 31/07/2013 15:51

I have committed the same crime before op. My friend came round with her toilet trained DD. She had 6 accidents on my carpet before she had to go home as i was making her feel uncomfortable chasing her dd with carpet cleaner!

In case you are reading you muppet, taking off a nappy and putting pants on is not toilet trained!

Poledra · 31/07/2013 15:56

lunar a friend's little girl once ran across the room at my house trying desperately to get to the toilet but peeing all the way - left a lovely little trail right across the carpet. I found it quite funny, TBH, but then my friend was already looking in cupboards for cleaning stuff to mop up the wee even as we both laughed and reassured her DD it was just an accident

lunar1 · 31/07/2013 16:04

That i wouldnt mind Poledra, and i was very light hearted about it. but my friend didnt want her DD to know she had had any accidents.

I just cant believe the OP was supposed to leave the mess for 2 days! my brother and SIL have dogs, when they got their puppy last year he had an accident on the tiles in the kitchen. Just as i was getting up to sort it, my sil pulled an emergency cleaning kit out of her bag with everything you could possibly want for floor emergencies.

KurriKurri · 31/07/2013 16:22

Presumably she has a book of etiquette which states 'if a friend's dog pisses on your carpet, under no circumstances should you clean it up, instead. Leave it to go rancid and festering, smile cheerfully and say 'Dog piss - how delightful, do come again'.

quirrelquarrel · 31/07/2013 16:32

If she sees herself as such a good friend of yours that she feels comfortable enough to say that, how on earth could she be offended by it?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 31/07/2013 16:44

If cleaning up dog wee is wrong, I don't wanna be right. am IABU to be channelling Millie Jackson singing If loving you is wrong

Jan49 · 31/07/2013 16:50

YANBU

But I think we need more examples of her being very vocal about perceived slights and rudeness for our entertainment.

I think you should text back AnnabelleLee's reply.

HeffalumpTheFlump · 31/07/2013 17:02

KoalaFace · 31/07/2013 21:10

StepAway that is exactly what I was thinking when I wrote it What a meeting of minds!

RenterNomad · 31/07/2013 22:03

You have to reply with KoalaFace's " If cleaning up dog wee is wrong, I don't wanna be right." I can't stop giggling about it!

MidniteScribbler · 01/08/2013 00:56

WTF?? Seriously, WTAF??

There are some seriously messed up people in this world.

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