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WIBU and rude to have cleaned this mess up?

111 replies

freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:21

Had some friends to stay over the weekend. They asked if they could bring their dog with them as friend's mum was away and didn't really have anyone else to leave the dog with.

We were fine with it, we have a dog ourselves, both dogs know each other and get on well, so not a problem.

On our way out on the Saturday their dog got really over excited and peed on the landing carpet. I really wasn't annoyed, we have a dog ourselves, accidents happen, friend apologised, I got the 1001 out, cleaned it up and we went about our day. Nothing more was said

Get an email from friend thanking us for a lovely weekend and again apologising for the dog wee.

I replied no problem, accidents happen, and not to think anymore about it, see you soon, blah, blah

Then I get a reply saying good, friend was worried as she thought I was very rude for clearing it up straight away and felt like I was making a dig as if it were her she would have left it until we had left so not to embarrass us.

Her, or her DH could have cleaned it up themselves, or at least offered but they just continued getting ready to go out and I didn't want it to dry/stain/stink. I didn't jump on it straight away and make a huge deal out of it, no tutting or sighing or making a fuss.

Leaving it for 2 days is just minging is it not?

So, WIBU and rude for cleaning it up?

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Original poster
freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:34

Sorry, crossed loads of posts.

Erm, yes. I had no idea cleaning up your friend's dog's piss from your carpet was such a faux pas Shock

I guess you live and learn!

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KoalaFace · 31/07/2013 14:35

If cleaning up dog wee is wrong, I don't wanna be right.

Groovee · 31/07/2013 14:35

She thought you were rude? I think she was rude for not cleaning up after her own fecking dog!

runningonwillpower · 31/07/2013 14:35

Well, I think you may have hurt the dog's feelings.

But the bitch friend is definitely unreasonable.

TolliverGroat · 31/07/2013 14:38

She felt you should have left your carpet soaked with dog piss and gently sizzling away in the heat for NEARLY TWO DAYS to be polite?

You could text back and say "Oh God, I'm so sorry. I washed up the dishes you used, too -- I know I should have left them until Monday so as not to embarrass you but we just don't have enough plates to do that."

Poledra · 31/07/2013 14:39

Jesus, if it had been my dog, I'd've been wrestling the carpet cleaner out of your hand to do it myself! Who leaves pee on a carpet (from whatever species!) to clean up later? That's what would be minging!

My SIL dog's have been known to mess on my carpets. She always always cleans it up immediately, and I'd be pissed off if she didn't at least offer.

Salmotrutta · 31/07/2013 14:40

Your insane friend is wrong.

She doesn't clean up the wee but let's you do it.

Then complains that you were rude?!

Confused
Poledra · 31/07/2013 14:41

please excuse my aberrant apostrophe is my previous post - take it as an indication of just how gobsmacked I am!

Angelico · 31/07/2013 14:42

Your mate is maaaaaaaaaad! :o

ActionLog · 31/07/2013 14:43

If they were going to have left in 10 minutes then I can see how it might have looked like you were making a point but 2 days? No, YWNBU.

anonacfr · 31/07/2013 14:45

It was HER BLOODY DOG!!! She should have been cleaning it up straight away the rude b*tch.

Send a reply back saying 'funny you should say that I thought it was rath rude of you to let me clean up your dog's piss off my floor'

MegaClutterSlut · 31/07/2013 14:45

tbh I think your friend was rude for not offering to clean it up imo and you should say that to them aswell, cheeky bugger!.

Htf can anyone think it's ok to not clean up dog piss for 2 days Confused

Original poster
freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:45

Tolliver Apparently so.

I would have been embarrassed and apologetic and wrestling the cleaning stuff off my friend to clean it up myself.

Even if she insisted on doing it, there's no way I'd expect her to pretend she hadn't noticed for 2 days to be tactful.

She can be uptight but not quite this odd. She's always been very vocal about perceived slights and rudeness.

I suppose living in close proximity to each other for a few days brings out people's true colours

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DadOnIce · 31/07/2013 14:46

Good grief. Who in their right mind does NOT clean up wee - animal or human - as soon as it hits a surface? I personally find the whole concept of sharing your house with live animals to be an odd one, but if you must do it then for god's sake keep it clean. DW and I once went to view a house where people had dogs and we were retching our way around - the place was covered in animal hairs and stank of animal.

AnnabelleLee · 31/07/2013 14:47

Hold on, her dog pissed on your carpet, and she messaged you that you were rude to clean it up?

Where do you find these people? Just lately I read Mn wondering if I'm actually living in another dimension.

Crinkle77 · 31/07/2013 14:48

YANBU and I can't understand why your friend thought that you were. If I was your friend I would have been mortified and offered to do it myself immediately

Keztrel · 31/07/2013 14:48

She's always been very vocal about perceived slights and rudeness. She sounds flipping annoying to me. Are you going to invite her back?

Original poster
freddiefrog · 31/07/2013 14:48

And yes, I dread to think what's really lurking in her carpets.

I haven't replied yet, I keep typing a response and deleting it. If she thinks me cleaning up her dog's piss is rude, she'll have a coronary if I send what I really want to say!

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JaffaMyCake · 31/07/2013 14:49

She was bloody rude not to offer to clean it up herself!!

coldwater1 · 31/07/2013 14:49

Not rude at all. One thing though... I wouldn't be rushing to stay at their house, like ever, if that is her attitude to cleaning up after her dog. Ewww

MegaClutterSlut · 31/07/2013 14:50

you really should tell her she is the rude one for not cleaning it up tbh. Don't let her walk all over you and tell her what a minging cow she is Grin

Floggingmolly · 31/07/2013 14:51

Rude?? Shock. She was bloody rude to leave it to you to clean up, and ruder still to mention it again after they'd left!

coldwater1 · 31/07/2013 14:51

I would reply... I'm sorry if you think cleaning up your dogs wee was rude but that is how i do things, would do the same if it was a split drink.

AnnabelleLee · 31/07/2013 14:52

I'd send something like this "I'm sorry, I must be misunderstanding, you don't mean to say that I was somehow rude to clean dog piss off my carpet rather than leave it for two days? I'm confused"

HighBrows · 31/07/2013 14:53

Ok honestly OP you are not being unreasonable to have cleaned up the dog wee straight away. It is not rude, you were not making a 'dig' and you could not have left it.

People are fucking nuts. This post has confirmed this long felt belief I have had about people.

Flowers for you OP your friend is nuts.