DPs ex insisting on having MY address?

[GirIFiend]

DP and I been together 10 months.

His DS who is 8 has always stayed with DP and DP's parents at their house which is where DP lived until 6 weeks ago when he moved in with me.

Last month DSS came to stay at my house to meet me and my DSes on his agreed contact weekend.

The plan was the same for this month but out of the blue DP's ex has texted saying she wants MY address or DSS will not be coming She says she has the right to know where her DS will be staying.

Can she insist on this?

Sorry x-post

Pointless arsiness on your part, OP.

(and that applies whatever your motive for starting the thread)

FFS

People like you shouldn't get involved with someone with kids.

Mum has a right to know exactly where her child is staying. Anyone who thinks otherwise is crazy. My ex tried to pull that with me when he moved once because he was worried I would give his address to debt collectors. Sorry, my kids weren't going anywhere until I had that address, my solicitor said that was perfectly acceptable for me to deny contact until he gave it to me.

Lunatic - i have put im GirlFiend into search and it came up with the other thread. You cant have 2 posters with the same name.

If I type GirlFiend into the search, it finds the other thread, which is actually by Girlfiend.
If I copy and paste, it finds this thread.
Weird!

the name of this OP is girifiend and not girlfiend. It is an I not an L.

Ahhh! Thanks scripsi that makes sense!

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Ahem why? Must admit when there's a spate of deleted messages my curiosity goes into overdrive.

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A lower case L and a capital I look the same on my phone :)

What'd I say

Op wouldn't you want to know where your sons were staying in similar circs? I would!!

notanyanymore I asked the same upthread but she hasn't bothered to reply. Leads me to think she's not a real poster tbh

Okay okay. I confess. I am the ex, not the new g/f, and I am a n/c-ing regular because I strongly suspect the g/f uses MN and I don't want her to know my posting name.

I am sorry, because I know everyone hates reverse AIBUs, but I was starting to think I was going fucking nuts because after requesting the address I got a snarky message (clearly written by the g/f not by my ex, though purporting to be from him) telling me I was not getting it under any circumstances, and that I was obstructing contact out of plain nosiness, and that it would look bad in court

And I wanted to know if that was okay, because I am actually losing my mind a bit over this.

Yawn

Why didnt you just ask from your point of view?

I am pretty sure you would have gotten the same answers.

That rather depends on the circs though. If you have history of being obstructive etc.

Don't sweat it,clearly you feel under a lot of pressure
I hope you got what you needed from the thread
Do you have any good pals to confide in?

Horrid situation for you and the DC.

Can you not try a civilised chat with your ex?

Hope you resolve it; I'd be wary of sending mine off somewhere unknown.