Why do some of the comments posted have to get quite so bitchy?

[Reedybookworm]

I must be naive, but have been shocked at some of the bitchy comments posted by others on here, really new to this, and its quite fascinating how there are people who seem to search out others and keep replying to their threads with just bitchy comments? What has happened to good old debate? Happy to learn, to be given more information so I can maybe reform my initial opinion. Now i am wondering How do these people respond when their family say something they disagree on? Do they swear at them? Hope not! So please don't reply to this thread unless you are going to be reasonable about it.

OP, you have now started 3 goady threads in the last 24 hours. Are you here for debate? If so, stop whining. Are you here for support? If so, AIBU & FWR boards are discussion/debate boards, don't use them.

Welcome to AIBU

Here is my second ever

Now i'm going to go back out side to enjoy sufferhorribly in the sun

I don't think its right to get annoyed with people who simply disagree with you.

However, I do think some posts are unnecessarily cruel at times, and almost designed to dig the boot in rather than further debate or get the OP to reflect.

But, jumping over the fence again , I've come to believe that just because I wouldn't phrase things a certain way, doesn't mean other people are wrong for doing so, just different.

If anything, its a good exercise in learning how to weed out the unhelpful, and focus on the feedback that does make you think, or points things out in a different light.

I am not at all offended at posters with different opinions. I'm fine with blunt.

I don't like showing off for the sake of it ...to other poster mates .I have been here a while, I'm quite used to certain characters doing this, and I ignore!

Reedy are you looking for a bunfight?

Your threads in the last day or so would appear to suggest you want to be confrontational and unreasonable.

Are you bored?

I must be naive...

Yes you are.

I am being super-dim here so apologies in advance, but what's FWR?

Most people aren't. Most people are aiming to be helpful and are being nice. As everywhere, there are some people who are not nice, but they are in the minority here.

fwiw, most of the 'bitchiness' is actually in response to unreasonableness or stupidity or something highly offensive, rather than as a response to someone saying oh what a nice day it is today...

And I would rather people are direct than behave as you find on some other sites, where they will hun and lol you half to death and then finish you off with a pm flurry of stabs in the back.

Here at least you can be sure that if someone's got something to say, they'll say it to your face. I prefer that.

Even if they're just a twat, I'd prefer them to be one outright so I know who to avoid.

Thank you kim, I will do that.

I was called a bitch yesterday, I hadn't even been particularly bitchy, IMO of course.

I've arrived.

YABU. Until you've been called a c**t, been flamed and had your thread deleted you know nothing of the viperism you speak of.

Ha ha ha. Evil witchy cackle and all that.

People here are honest and give their opinions freely which is what the OP seeks when they pose a question. That's not to say I haven't been a bit put out by some responses, obviously it can be a get a bit heated at times but I think most of us would rather have that than the alternative....people not speaking their minds. In 2 years on MN I think I have only seen one thread where the OP was really, truly bullied and ridiculed. Otoh loads of MNetters stood up for the OP.

If I behave like a twat, I expect to get my arse handed to me on a plate, in RL as well as here.

I'm still trying stop laughing at your request for reasonable comments in AIBU

That's true, Cherries. Saying something someone doesn't want to hear/not agreeing with someone does not in itself = bitchy.

I like a good debate, proper reasoned debate, but not everyone is me.

It U to expect everyone to conform to how you'd like to see threads progress.

It's not U to ask the question though.

maybe this isn't the place for you then OP - not everyone likes it - there are tons of other websites to choose from :)

I also like to swear a lot but do try to be a good viper

If you want calm responses maybe don't start goady threads?

I think you're confusing bitchyness with honesty. Imo if you post something on here you want lots of different opinions. If you only want to hear opinions that agree with you then just talk to yourself. MN is one of the most supportive places on the Internet, however people won't sugar coat things for you.

Don't flounce Reedy. Find some of the light hearted threads for a bit. There are innocent subjects that get everyone frothing for some reason, just avoid them.