To think all of this hand holding bollocks is going a bit too far now

[nenevomito]

It used to be that when something bloody awful happened to someone, they'd ask for a bit of hand holding, but its getting ridiculous now.

All it takes is for someone to post summat like "I've burnt tea" and the first sodding responder says "ooh you must be so worried, I'm holding your hand". This is then followed by a million other "I'm holding your hand too" posts.

How many fucking hands does one person have?

Seriously. Sheesh. Knock it off.

Again, everlong, what you deem as trivial could be huge to someone else.

Offer support to everyone you want till it comes out of your ears, but posting for everything stops having meaning if its used every 5 mins.

I don't like any of the stuff that isn't really happening,

No.

Yes.

Isn't there a certain irony in saying 'but it isn't for you to decide' while you're saying 'but it is for me to decide'?

How do you know what's trivial and what's huge either?

Shouldn't we all maybe just respond as helpfully as we can?

It annoys me when there's a thread where someone has tried to sit down and work out a comment on the OP's problem, and is drowned out with cries of 'but that's not very nice! Holding your hand, OP, ignore her!'

Personally when I've been a bit down (no doubt over trivial stuff, but it doesn't always feel like it), I find it helpful to have proper replies not guff.

(Still think MN is immensely better than other forums for this, though.)

What everlong said.

Frankly if you can't tell the difference between hand holding when someone is v ill, has died, has been made redundant, homeless, or is abused and hand holding because someone has a cold, that's your problem!

Why is there always a few people who take a good moany bitchy thread like this and try to turn it into a morally superior, overly earnest judgefest?

God's sake, leave us to be bitchy, cynical, grumpy arses please

Oinkment. Gin, yes, at last some practical help

Malenky - I just said some things might be more serious to others. I did not specify anything.

everlong, I don't need to do a search. I have read a lot of your posts over the time I have been here.

I also have been through huge trauma but would never belittle anyone who is worrying about something that someone else might think is irrelevant. We all feel differently.

So? You're still saying you think you can judge what's serious, others can't.

While criticizing them for saying the same.

It makes my head hurt.

I don't see what belittling has to do with it.

The only alternative to 'holds hand' isn't 'nah nah ne nah nah, you think that's a problem', is it? You can also point out what you think to the situation and if you think the OP's getting herself het up about nothing sometimes it's helpful to say that.

I mainly lurk admittedley, but i thought everyone was ok with the use of "hun" as it as handy way of identifying members of the working classes, making it easier to disregard their posts....

Oh Baby is this all you have to worry about?!

No, I am not saying what is trivial and what isn't.

I am saying what SOME people might say is trivial, SOME people, others will feel it is the end of the world.

I have seen many times people who think they have a monopoly on hurt and while FOR EXAMPLE losing a partner is obviously worse than a car being stolen for the person who hasn't lost their partner but has lost their car it is a big deal for them.

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Ok then, that totally makes sense.

You've enlightened me and I feel so free.

This isn't about what should and shouldn't be supported. Heck - start an in growing toenail support thread if you want.

This is about pretty much every sodding minor little trauma having a load of posters respond with "I'll hold your hand OP

No need to be rude.

Anyway, I knew what I meant.