To think all of this hand holding bollocks is going a bit too far now

[nenevomito]

It used to be that when something bloody awful happened to someone, they'd ask for a bit of hand holding, but its getting ridiculous now.

All it takes is for someone to post summat like "I've burnt tea" and the first sodding responder says "ooh you must be so worried, I'm holding your hand". This is then followed by a million other "I'm holding your hand too" posts.

How many fucking hands does one person have?

Seriously. Sheesh. Knock it off.

Perhaps a hand to hold Bobyan?

I see nothing wrong with holding the hand of a young mother who has a poorly child who is away from her.

It's actually useful to be told to get a grip

People don't say 'get a grip' though, they say 'hands OP a grip' the former is ok the latter is really irritating.

Oh heck. I feel the need to hold your hand now babyheave!
But seriously, I presume you are A ok and wish to be left alone!

Hmmm.

But then someone comes and says 'cop on to yourself, only stupid twats try to make broccoli souffle anyway, it's rank as Badger flap' and an army of nice folk tell you them to fuck off because ackshually broccoli souffle failure is responsible for up to 20% of kitchen centred mental distress and only a sociopath would dare make light of it.
No winners.

It's hard if you're a bit of a tosser .

One of my favourite things about MN is the not being kissed. People who it would be deeply awkward to kiss in real life kiss me in texts and FB messages. How am I supposed to reply to that? I want to be polite and usually really actually like them, but I cannot imagine why I would ever kiss them. Bloody hell.

I think that

Many support threads can be made into support pants.

Make of that what you will.

Fuck off with your softest of soft hugs MrsG

I have hand-held though.

I think that ... what Mrs Geologist said.

akiss - true, that's rude.

I meant, it's useful to be told when it's obvious to everyone else you need to get up and do something, and people are busy say 'ohh, don't worry darling, it'll be ok'.

I'm not advocating entire threads of being rude to the OP for the sake of it or everyone calling twattishness 'straight talking'.

Hand holding doesn't have a limit.

People don't have to respond.

A post is a request for interaction. It isn't a demand.

I'm all for hand holding when there is a GOOD REASON yams but its now being used everywhere and for everything, completely devaluing the sentiment.

Folk now don't bother so much with practical advice cos they can't type when they're holding someone's sodding hand.

Support = good.
Hand holding during a real crisis or horrible event = good
Hand holding because its the new MN meme and you've seen folk doing it so you think you should too as it makes you look like you give a shit = stop it.

And only you get to decide what a good reason is, babyheave?

Who died and made you Queen of Mumsnet?

babyheave I do agree that there is too much of the 'there, there' stuff and not enough of the 'why not try thinking about this?' stuff on some threads.

"You" might, everlong. I am happy to give as much support for as long as someone needs it if they think I am helping. To some people what you perceive is tiny could be huge. Thankfully we aren't all the same. Would be a boring world if we were.

Also (while mid rant), it doesn't irk me so much if someone posts "x y and z has happened, I need a hand to hold" and there followeth lots of hand holding. It's when they post "x y and z has happened" and the first posts, are a load of "I'll hold your hand OP".

What's wrong with creative advice & support?

i find it rather nauseous. i would rather hear/see "oh dear that sounds awful" etc rather than a "hand holding" comment.

And tbh, everlong, it isn't for you to decide if someone needs genuine help or not.
Some posts are cries for help because the poster doesn't have anyone else to ask. You only have to read the many many threads where the OP has posted that her husband/partner didn't bring milk home and it ends up where it comes out she is being abused to see that you can't just read the OP about not being able to make the baby some porridge and know it is all fine as baby can have toast.

Oi oi! Where did I say that I didn't like folk giving support?

Saying that hand holding is becoming overused and trite isn't saying don't offer support FFS. Good grief.

Tee the last queen of mumsnet, obvs.

Do you have someone irl you can express your negative feelings to, babyheave? You sound like you need a bit of support. :o

I not a hand holder in real life (except involving the under 5s) so would prefer tea and sympathy.