to ask what you would say to people...

[whatacrappyweekendthatwas]

If you could tell them exactly what you thought with no repercussions. Just speak your mind for a few minutes.

I have PMS btw and am in a bad mood. Yes this is pathetic I know. But better I say it here than in RL I guess.

PILS, I hate the way you treat my dds like second best to DSD because she is your 'real' GD. I hate the way you phone her on her birthday and not my dds, who notice and feel hurt. I hate the way you give her special presents and cards. This is one of the reasons you do not come on holiday with us in the summertime even though you invite yourself every year and we make excuses. That, and the fact that FIL is an alcoholic weirdo. PS FIL, your beard makes me ill and I hate when you kiss me and hug me when we haven't seen each other for a while.

Cousin who I see regularly - I think leaving your young baby dd to 'bawl for half an hour so she learns to self soothe' is cruel and horrible and much worse than giving my dcs sweets sometimes that you judge me for doing.

DH - you need to floss your teeth.

World - I will BF my DS for as long as we both want to so please stop asking.

That is all. If anyone else wants to join me in saying what they would like to say to people in their lives but can't please feel free.

[cleoteacher]

Goodness, this thread is great, the rubbish other people have to put up with makes me feel lucky i have a great family.

DH- I do love you and fancy you even if I don't want sex as much as you would like. I know we are going through a rough patch at the moment but I hope we will get through it. I want us to me married until we die (although sometimes I do doubt this will happen) I don't mean to nag you but I am finding it hard because you are not quite the dad i thought you would be. i wish you would prioritise your family over work and put your ds before yourself. please,please,please spend less so we can save.

Certain friends- Why do you feel you can treat me like a door mat? Why am I the one you cannot be bothered to call or attend a birthday or birthday, why am I always the one making the effort. Please tell me as I want to stop this pattern of always making friends with the 'wrong' people.

[CrapBag]

Ooo I have another.

Neighbour. Why oh why the fuck do you play 3 different musical instruments in a fairly new terraced house where the walls are unbelievably thin?! Yes I know its your home but one day I am going to rip my ears off and come and stuff them in the end of your trombone. I can just, and I am saying just because its the quietest of the 3, about stick the trumpet. The cello and trombone though? AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

One day you will hear this screamed at the top of my voice. Or maybe not because you won't hear past your instrument. Which you also have an uncanny knack for playing as I am having a daytime nap (I have M.E./CFS and struggle in the day with 2 children) or just as the kids have gone to bed and I can sit down and relax. I know you don't know this, but it is uncanny how it is all the time at these times (and yes I have been listening to your trumpet for quite a while this evening, stop it now).

[AdmiralData]

Dear ex-sister - I could care less that you aren't speaking to me but not letting me see the kids is just fucking evil, I love them and you fucking know it. You wouldn't hate me so much if you hadn't trashed my wedding you jealous spiteful cow.

Dear ex sister in law - I hope you realise what you have lost by not being able to accept my DNiece as your stepdaughter you awful vile creature.

Dear Grandparents in law, I love you dearly but you have TWO grandsons and also a GREAT grandson. You were not painting your house you were taking the other grandson out on daytrips :(

Dear brother, I love you to bits and I appreciate that your stbxpartner is giving you grief but on top of taking care of BOTH our parents medical, emotional and physical care your washing and ironing is a bit too much for the me right now!

DM, I hope you finally realise you need help for your addictions. I am supporting you at the expense of my three month old son at times, you had better not fuck me over and let me down.

Dstbexboss - I am not coming back in September so you and your 18 month campaign of psychological abuse can go fuck yourselves.

Dear docter - I TOLD YOU MY DAD WAS ILL!!!

Rant over.

[MrsLouisTheroux]

DH: I'm a good actress. I know what's going on but I choose not to confront you. I will one day.

[whatacrappyweekendthatwas]

Just back to see this thread. As someone else said, there is a lot of sadness and hurt and anger here but I hope it has also been helpful.

I have some more!

Neighbour... you are a disgusting, rude, foul mouthed chav and an awful mother. In two years I have not heard you say one kind word to your kids and I hear everything through the wall. The way you speak to them is disgusting. You are disgusting and I wish I had the courage to stand up to you and tell you to keep the noise down as it disturbs my kids.

DS..I love all my children but you are my youngest and maybe I feel the most protective over you. Sometimes I lie and look at you for so long when you sleep and know that no one, wife, child or otherwise could possibly love you as much as I do. I dont think any kind of love could compare to what I feel for you, my beautiful boy, and your sisters.

[RogueRebel]

Dear Best Friend- I love you but you really need to stop sleeping with men you've just met. I don't have a problem with it but I do have a problem dealing with the aftermath of them ignoring you after. BTW he's mugging you off, its not a coincidence he's really busy with the gym/suicidal brother/work since you slept with him and stop making excuses for him on why he's unable to let you know he won't be meeting you after he's attempted to make a time/date, stop being so desperate he's taking advantage and I don't like seeing you hurt.

Ex- Your a twat, you actually mananged to destroy everything good in me. you made me feel less than a human. every day of those 4years was like being trapped in my own personal hell.
You are the worst father in the world, you treat our DD's differently based on hair colour and your not even subtle. Go Die in a hole somewhere and the world would be better off.

Crabby Assistant manager at work. I'd expect you to have a bit more empathy with parents as you are one. if I can't work over time because I can't afford to payback any WTC because I've been over paid just get someone else.

DSis - Just because you had a child a 14 because of your choices doesn't give you a free pass to get pissed off when that beautiful 11yr old calls your mother mummy. You have had 11years to step up to the plate and not once have you. Stop blaming our mother for things you've got wrong. stop eating all her food, taking her money and sleeping in her bed leaving her on the sofa. Stop acting like a spoilt brat and having tantrums when you don't get your own way, our mother is too exhausted from working ft, bringing up your dc ft, suffering from epilepsy and fibromyalgia to continue to stand her ground against you which is why you get your own way, not because you are right!

DNan - stop picking on grandad he's old and deserves a rest every now and then. I love him like a dad I'm so scared of loosing him.

World - I'm not a bad mum because I'm a lone parent, I didn't have children to get money. I work, i try. I may not be rich or have nice possession but I have my children and they are loved and cared for equally. I know I've done the right thing in leaving my ex, I know I was stupid to of stayed so long but its easy to judge from the outside.
I would love to have a fairytale love story but all faith in men has been destroyed so ill stick to watching it in Disney films instead.

actually feel good to get some of that out

[LimitedEditionLady]

Dearest neighbour-please turn your fire off.Its not cold and it makes me feel ill sat on my sofa next to your blazing heat coming through the wall.Stop checking your back door and slamming it over and over again every hour.It is definately still locked.I also know what the weather is like,I am alive too.Why do you care anyway,you choose to stay inside?Neither you or I needs to know about the weather in Africa as I am nit going and as i mentioned you dont go outside.why are wearing wellies?Is there a flood that noone else knows about?No i dont like train records.People purposely avoid living near train tracks as they dont want to hear them,i dont want to either.Please cut your hair you look like captain birdseye after being stranded on a desert island for 40 years.

[freddiefrog]

DH - you are becoming a super-critical, sanctimonious moaner and I'm am beyond bored of listening to you. Remove your head from your ass

DD2 - shut up, please, shut up. Just for 5 minutes. I love you dearly, but please, just shut up!

MiL - fuck off!!!!

[freddiefrog]

Oh, and next door neighbour - if you can't work out how to get in your car without setting the alarm off every bloody time, perhaps you shouldn't use it. Every single time you go out in your car you set it off. Not too bad during the day but when you leave for work at 4am every day I am about ready to kill you!

[ladymariner]

Mil......you are a vile, ignorant, sad old bag. Couldn't care less what you think about me but I will never forgive you for the way you ignore ds.

Ds......you are the most important, most precious thing in my life and you always will be. For the past 17 years 8months everything I've done has revolved around you and.making sure you're safe and protected. I know you're all grown up and can make your own decisions and it's your life, yes I know all that, but just humour me....I'm really trying to let you do your own thing but it's really hard learning to let go when I love you so very much!

Ds' best friend......if I find out you've been lying and being a two faced bastard to him I will make your life hell. You've been like a second son since you were both six, if you are now calling him and generally being a shit to him because he's too nice to call you on it I will make you suffer!!!! hopefully I'm wrong and it's just teenage hormones.....(yes I know this completely goes against the previous paragraph but we did say this was something we wouldn't say/do in rl so let me vent!!!)

Sil.....you fucking drama llama. Don't go posting your stupid crappy statuses all over fb about how much you love your big brother just so all your 'virtual' friends can read it and foolishly believe you to be a loving caring sister. We all know it's a complete sham....actions speak louder than words and your love and care have been completely absent ever since me and him got together and especially during these last particularly crappy 8 months. We are now through the other side and back on the up....no thanks to you and your self absorbed parents!


Wow, feel better for that!!!!!!

[elQuintoConyo]

DM: stop boasting about my DSis, she's freelance and very successful, has a HUGE house with a HUGE garden and a pool and lots of animals and two beautiful DC.
I love my DSis. I love my DNiece&DNephew but you make it very hard to not resent them.
I don't have much, but I love what I have and what I do.
DH is also a very successful freelancer. If you don't see him, it's not because he's 'gone for a coffee/to buy bread', it's because he's in the office fucking working. Y'know, just like DSis.
When you visit us, pay some attention and shate some love with your DGS, don't just waffle on about your other DGS the other side of the world, how you miss him, how he says'nana, I miss you' over Skype and it breaks your heart while you barely give my DS the time of fucking day.
Stop being a narc. Stop being a killjoy over everything. Stop being a snob. Stop being so cold. Stop punishing me for still speaking to my DDad, your exH, even though you've managed to poison the very close, special connection between him and my DSis - they no longer talk, and he has NO contact with his DGC. You did it out of spite yet still you're not happy.
I love you, but I don't like you, and it kills me to have you stay here 2-3 times a year. If you helped out, y'know, maybe wash up once or offer me/DH a tea when you're making one, it might oil the wheels.

[heavensabove123]

Sister no one talks to you anymore it's because you're a first class bitch, shit mother, and nasty cunt face nobody don't know how you sleep at night. The thing is you really can't see it can you? Friends mum would be nice if you helped your daughter out, maybe spent some time with her sons, your grandsons such a shame never mind as far as we are concerned they have me and dh so with our two grandsons they make four don't understand how you don't want to enjoy them shame on you. dh stop forgetting to do diy round the house, fucks me off no end feel like shoving a hot screwdriver right up your lazy arse. Everybody else just bloody tidy up after yoursel, not too much to ask is it?

[BeeMom]

mother - your DGD is terminally ill - I KNOW you can't handle it, and you have decided to pretend she doesn't exist instead. Don't get your knickers in a twist when I don't acknowledge your existence, either. She doesn't even know who you are. Sorry your sob story is falling on deaf ears - my sob story would rock your world... if I tried to play that card. However, if I find out one more time that you are playing the pity card about how poorly your beautiful granddaughter is I will travel to your home and let all your friends know what an attention seeking bitch you really are. By the way - you said I was angry at you for not dying when you had lung cancer? No, I was angry that even the lung cancer wasn't enough for you to stop lighting those goddamn fags. NO ONE believes that the house you lived in for 6 months when you were 20 and might have had asbestos in it caused the cancer - you have been smoking for almost 55 years, FGS! You want to kill yourself with the damn things, go ahead, but don't ask me for sympathy, or help.

sister - sorry you couldn't make your marriage work - but that's not my fault. If you really need to place blame, look at our parents. One divorced 4 times, the other 3... and being "in a relationship" 2 months after your stbx left definitely teaches your little girls that they are not complete unless they are part of a couple. Great lesson you are sharing...

[kiwimumof2boys]

FIL - You really have no social skills. Its taken me a while to realise this, but bluntly telling me to have an abortion when we found out there may have been abnormalities with DS1 - was really off and thats why I didn't speak to you for several months. Oh and stop banging on about my family's catholicism. I NEVER push my religious beliefs on you so shut the f up. Your DS was perfectly happy to get married in my family's church, (I was happy to have a non religious wedding) there was NO pressure from me or my family at all. In saying that, I did get the kids christened slightly just to pi$$ you off. Te he. Also, your DS2 (my kids uncle) really had no social skills when I met him and blames everybody else for his problems (like you, sound familiar?). Oh and inviting yourself around to our house 3 days after I'd given birth and turning up at 8:30 am, and letting me run around making you coffee and snacks (provided by us, would've been nice if you'd brought some food ya know ?) without you lifting a finger (Despite me being up all night with a newborn) was kinda . . . rude. Making the comment about me being in PJ's was maybe why i was a little short with you, as was the comment when I decided I needed a rest. Grrr. And having successfully brainwashed your DS into believing your breakup with his DM was totally her fault is really mean and I sincerely hope my own DH never does that with our DS. Would also be nice if you remembered our DS birthdays too.
DSMIL - You are lovely but are totally controlled by your husband. Break away and stand up to him FGS !
DF - Yes I do love you to bits but someone being 'ambitious' does not make them a better being, and telling me that my lifestyle and children's school choices are 'alright for you' in a patronising manner is just not nice. I know you are an uber achiever and your children are going to all be PM and CEO's at 30, but again that does not make you (or them) better.
DH - Yes I know you work hard and are great with the kids, but you COULD buy me flowers occasionally.
PHEW !

[HerRoyalNotness]

BIL you twat, pay back the 5k left on the car loan you owe us. Not our problem that you someone stole the car and burned it out. What did you do with the insurance money, hmmmm?

Sadly as we don't speak, it can't be said

[MatersMate]

Dad, I know I have dc now which you are a great gp to, but I still resent you for my childhood when you were totally pissed the whole time, and made my dms life hell.

dd please stop trying to say'shit' it's very embarrassing.

[MatersMate]

oh and MIL please stop being a poisonous cow. blaming me for dd coming early when she was still in nicu was beyond cruel. stop or I'll tell you to fuck off and that really will be that.

oh how I wish I could say that to her!

[SpecialAgentTattooedQueen]

Mumsnet, delete that male troll you KNOW is a troll and posts carefully worded, hurtful comments on every relationship thread

DH, I love the kids but I'm not 'grateful' you do half the slog, you're bloody well supposed to so stop hinting you're fucking superdad!!!

MIL, I've realised you don't like me. You're a passive aggressive bitch. One more nasty little comment about my supposed eating disorder and I will inform you of the reason the kids cringe away when you want to cuddle. You SMELL because you're MORBIDLY OBESE

World - My DS is SEN, fuck off judging us!!!!

[Cravingdairy]

Husband's ex boss - Pay up the money you promised him NOW or we will see you in the small claims court.

[MatersMate]

dd go to fucking sleep, please child.

[McGeeDiNozzo]

DD: learn how to go to sleep in the car seat, please.

MIL and FIL: I am from Northern England. I know what the cold is and it isn't what you think it is. I do not need a coat. I can cope.

DSis: Please stop changing your name, so I can find you again!

[SpecialAgentTattooedQueen]

This one is one I really wouldn't dare say in real life.

FIL: You are a kind man and DH adores you. Which is the only reason I never told him how uncomfortable you made me when I BFed the twins. I actively avoided feeding in front of you because I knew you were leering. That time you came to our house when DH was at work (which you FUCKING KNEW YOU CUNT) I was exhausted and didn't bother to have a top on. I will never forgive the way you looked at me and especially not your comment.

In fact, you're not that great. MIL might be a bitch but the way you treat her is horrible. If you are EVER stupid enough to make a sexual comment to me again, I will tell DH and he will destroy you. Which you damn well fucking know which is the only reason you keep yourself restrained, even though it's so obvious to everyone except DH how you stare at me and SIL (not his daughter!!) and basically any woman who has cleavage or tight clothes on.

I think you're a fucking pervert. The fact you only keep your comments to yourself because your son would never speak to you again after most likely punching you in the face speaks volumes.

DM: I know you're extremely high strung. But it hurts I have to treat you like my child and never talk about things I need to because of how you'll react. I know you can't help it but you need anxiety medication and therapy.

DF: Stop enabling mum!! I know she's the centre of your world but she REALLY does need help.

Not-So-Friend: STOP pointing out the height and weight differences betweens DTS and DTD, they're both perfectly healthy and I don't know WTAF you are trying to imply by your comments!!

DH: You know I have insomnia. So stop snoring. >Unreasonable

[Veryunsure]

Lady 2 doors down: yes you might feel entitled to park your car outside your house, however it's not an allocated parking space and if you managed to park with a little more consideration I too could park outside my house.

I am not the other woman by the way dh was very single when we met not that it's your business but as you're still friends with his exgf thought I'd clear that up so you can stop looking at me like a home wrecker. You're husband left you for another my dh did not.

Also your child is a complete degenerate, just saying.

DH exgf: I have never disliked a person more, the way you shout at dsd and the things you say to her have not only damaged her self esteem but made her believe she's not very clever. She's a child and you should know better, I'm tired of cleaning up your shit because you're bored of being a parent.

Friend, stop telling me what I need to/should do, I'm a grown woman I'll do as I please.

Cat; I love you, I thought you loved me..I had to go away with work but I'm back now. Stop sulking.

[KittyTwatknicker]

DM: please stop going on and on and on and on about stuff that really doesn't matter. I've made it to 40 without killing myself/being a druggie/alcoholic etc etc. I am a successful working mum and capable of looking after myself and family. And I don't need to be reminded about 'thank you' cards one day after my/DDs birthday.

Friend A: stop 'forgetting' to go to the cash machine every week, leaving me having to pay for your lunch when you earn twice as much as me. It pisses me right off that you NEVER buy it back or repay. I know you're in debt, so make your own sarnies FFS! You are so transparent.

Friend B: you do not have an original idea in your head. Start thinking for yourself and stop copying me. You are an adult with choices, grrrrr!

DB: Fuck the fuck off with your selfish ways and thoughtlessness. It annoys EVERYONE. Not to mention the parade of scan/pregnancy photos of your wife on FB, when you have friends/family struggling to conceive.

DH: help me more with the housework and stop shouting at the girls. Enjoy them. And can we have more sex please.

Neighbours: stop coming round all the time. I am busy with a new baby.

ILs: behave yourselves on holiday with us

Phew, that feels good!