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Playground etiquette, who was rude her or me?

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 22/06/2013 16:39

Not really sure who was being unreasonable here.

Took dd to the park today (dd is 2.4 park was very busy). One of the swings became available, the one on the end of the row, so I put dd in it and started to push her.

After about 5 minutes a woman and her daughter (would guess 4 year old) came and stood right next to me. Woman started talking to her dd "you can have a go on the swing soon" "this little girl will be finished soon" "it looks like you might have to wait awhile."

Dd did not want to leave the swing so I kept pushing her for another 5 minutes. Eventually the hinting got to me and we abandoned the swing.

So was she being unreasonable or was I taking too long on the swing and should have shifted sooner?

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Itaintmebabeitaintmeyourlookin · 23/06/2013 08:25

YABU for three things

For keeping dd on for five long mins while someone wanted a turn

For being extra difficult because the mum was annoying you

For saying its the mums fault for standing next to you

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nancerama · 23/06/2013 09:40

I find those who genuinely haven't done anything wrong either wouldn't notice heavy hint dropping or wouldn't feel guilt about it...

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FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 23/06/2013 09:45

If someone is waiting you have a reasonable time on the swing and then let them have a turn. Surely that's obvious.

It's hard to tell from your post whether her tone was pa or if she was simply explaining to her child. Bit either way you should have shifted before 10 mins.

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lottieandmia · 23/06/2013 09:51

I think you were both a bit unreasonable.

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IsThisAGoodIdea · 23/06/2013 13:42

Apologies if this has been covered, but, assuming there was more than one swing - does this mean all the other children were swinging for more than your 10 mins? Given you were the last to arrive bit apparently the first to finish.

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FoodieToo · 23/06/2013 14:45

I think you are being unreasonable.

Five minutes is long enough for any child.
It is good manners to finish up when someone else comes along to wait for the swing.

I think it teaches your child good manners and respect for others also.

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FoodieToo · 23/06/2013 14:48

Sorry I see now that the woman stood shoulder to shoulder with you.

Then she was also rude. I might have done the same as you in that case.

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SauvignonBlanche · 23/06/2013 16:17

YWbothU

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everlong · 23/06/2013 16:21

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DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 23/06/2013 16:32

I don't think anyone was BU this used to happen a lot in out local park, I'm sure I may have even said it to DS2 whilst chasing him around and keen to restrain him, I also used to get pissed off pushing him after 3-5mins...

We used to go every day after collecting DC1 from school and it was very busy, I'm sure we formed a queue.

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katydid02 · 23/06/2013 16:37

YABU, so was she to a certain extent.

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