to think that most women would rather have a girl/girls than a boy/boys?

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I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds and in real life I find that mothers who have all boys or boys first, tend to denigrate them to mums of girls and put their daughters on pedestals. Mums of girls tend to not mind having no boys whereas all boy mums seem to feel sad that they have only boys. I have never come across any women who only wanted boy(s).

Am I right in thinking that most women want to have girls and wouldn't mind having all girls if they have more than one child, whereas boys are almost always seen as second best and not the desired choice of most women?

YABU. I love having boys. I quite wanted a boy when I was first PG although I'm not sure why. If I'd had girls I'd have loved having girls, I expect. Your experience conditions how you feel but most people are happy with either IME.

YABU.

Nope. YABU. And an idiot.

Handy rule of thumb - not all women think the same things you do.

I've honestly never encountered that amongst actual mothers in real life, although I've met one older woman who seemed to think I would be disappointed about having a boy. Maybe I've been lucky?

I love having a boy and wouldn't be bothered if I never had a girl. I'm guessing this is slightly cultural (I'm Irish - the Irish stereotype is that sons are close to their mothers, whereas mothers and daughters fight like two cats in a sack), but mostly personal - I've zero interest in stereotypically 'girly' things, so wouldn't feel the lack of a girl to do them with. In fact the thought of pink, princessy shite terrifies me .

No. I really wanted a boy

Of course I would have been just as happy with a girl if I have another I am happy with a boy or girl I would be happy just to have another baby but blessed with my wonderful little boy

Not at all. I have one dd who is very little at the moment so no plans for little brother or sister for a few years, but I would've been happy if she was a boy, girl, twins of each or both, whatever the combination was. Same for when we have dc2.

Don't get me wrong I'd find it interesting to see what it'd be like to have one girl and one boy but that's by the by if I have two girls that'll make me as happy as anything.

I think it depends on the parent though.

OP you're an idiot.

HTH.

Is anyone else experiencing déjà vu reading this thread? Have had to check the posting date because I'm sure I read a very similar one not too long ago. It even had the smug, nasty "yes, you keep telling yourself you're not bitterly disappointed you don't have a DD" style posts

nonsense

For those who say they couldn't cope with all the pink and glitter around girls - news flash. Pink and glitter is not compulsory for girls - only for retailers and people in marketing.

My 2 ads (now grown up) would not have been seen dead in pink and glitter and on the odd occasion dresses were required would almost have to be surgically removed from their jeans.

I've got one of each. DS is the eldest and I was surprised and a wee bit disappointed. I'd always assumed I'd have a girl first (no reason).
With DD, I assumed she would be a DS. I was surprised and a wee bit disappointed.
Now I'm happy with what I have. On lucky to have 2 beautiful, clever, healthy children who are a PITA some of the time. But they're 5 and 2, so I don't really expect different

ads? DDs for FFS.

Note to spellcheckers. If I had wanted to say ads I would have said it. Gah!

I have three boys and a girl bbgb
I find my dd the most difficult though I love her dearly and if were to have another and could choose I would probably choose another boy.

YABU - I wanted a boy for dc1 and was lucky and got one. For DC2 I had originally wanted one of each before having kids but when I was pregnant I ended up in years to a friend worried that I would be disappointed if it was a girl. 'It' turned out to be a boy but in reality I would have been happy with either after some adjusting to a girl.

I can't stand the sex bias that some people have either way and think it's a real shame for the kids if they're not be desired sex.

Not me. I am SOOO happy I don't have girls. Too much worry! Love boys, sporty, fun, cuddly, perfect.

Yes YABU and ridiculous. FWIW My mum wanted six boys. My best friend wants 3 boys (only has one so far). I couldn't care less, but I realised this morning that whenever I picture my future child it's a boy who looks like DH.

I also think it's only a certain type of woman who is desperate for a daughter. The type who will lap up the pink shit, daddy's princess rubbish*

What a nasty generalisation. What would you call the countless posters who have said they were desperate for boys?

Sad the way these threads always end up having an anti-girl tone (girls are bitchy, terrible teenagers etc)

I have dd and 2 boys and I have to say I have definitely noticed a preference for girls IRL. ON THE WHOLE, men are not as close to their mothers as daughters and to be called a mummy's boy is still an insult after a certain age.

I have high hopes that my boys and I will always be close but seeing most of the men I know does worry me! Without exception they adore their mums but from a distance iyswim. They are all much more involved with their wives' families

Note to spellcheckers. If I had wanted to say ads I would have said it. Gah!

My spellchecker likes to change 'fucking' to 'ducking'. Because I am SO much more likely to use the word 'ducking' regularly.

Not me. I am SOOO happy I don't have girls. Too much worry! Love boys, sporty, fun, cuddly, perfect

I rest my case!

As if all boys are sporty (ha!), cuddly etc. Bollocks.

Why the wild generalisations about either gender? There are as many boys who are little shits as there are girls

Yabu. You must have a very small sample group!

I have one of each . Honestly couldn't have cared if I'd had 2 boys or 2 girls.

I look at them and just see their personalities not their genders.

Oh - name changer / first-time poster.

Not remotely suspect at all.

OP, are you going to come back and discuss any of this - or should we expect an article in the DM or an item on Matthew Wright in the next few days?

In my experience, women who go on about having girls and not wanting boys want a little friend/dolly rather than a child to parent. And they don't have any children yet.

Most people don't particularly talk about gender preference at all, and if they do it is in a vague and general way. I have never encountered anyone make unfavourable comments about the sex of their own children - bizarre!

Some women want boys, some want girls, some want a mixture, some aren't bothered. Is it that hard to understand?

Haven't read the whole thread. YABU.

I know a woman who cried every time she had a baby girl. She hated women with sons and would do her best to be spiteful towards them because of it.

I wanted a DS after dd just so I had one of each. I wouldn't mind if I had another son. I'm not fussy for either sex as I know I love all my children the same.

Have finished reading the thread, and am now cross.

It is still shit to be female. It is still a massive advantage in terms of expectations, opportunities, body autonomy, etc to be male. Frankly I wouldn't wish a vagina on anyone.

I can be a better feminist, and make more of a difference to gender equality, by raising boys than I could by raising one or more girls and being chronically torn between ideals and reality.