to think that most women would rather have a girl/girls than a boy/boys?

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I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds and in real life I find that mothers who have all boys or boys first, tend to denigrate them to mums of girls and put their daughters on pedestals. Mums of girls tend to not mind having no boys whereas all boy mums seem to feel sad that they have only boys. I have never come across any women who only wanted boy(s).

Am I right in thinking that most women want to have girls and wouldn't mind having all girls if they have more than one child, whereas boys are almost always seen as second best and not the desired choice of most women?

I didn't care when I was pregnant. Everyone assumed I wanted a girl which I found surprising. I was just hoping healthy.

DD1 was born and there was a small part of me that did think, just after she was born and I was holding her, that I was very lucky to have a daughter. Maybe I would have felt the same with a boy, who knows.

Surprisingly when pg with dd2, I wanted a girl. I don't know why. I am about as far as girly as you can imagine. Maybe its because I knew what to do with a girl?

I am now pg with dc3 and we both want a boy. I look at boys clothes and long for a little boy.

I have bought my girls up as gender neutral as possible. They have 'boys toys' as well as 'girls toys'. I don't do princessy. Dd1 went through a stage of picking pink as her favourite colour (I think it was an unconscious rebellion thing because nothing in our house is overtly pink as I avoid where possible), I let her get on with it and now her favourite colours are blue and yellow.

There is really a lot of horrible stuff written on this thread. From both mums of boys and girls.

Just as an aside, why do mums of boys hate pink? I'm pretty sure mums of girls don't hate blue.

I have the most amazing children in the world and they are boys.

What would you have done had they been girls? Had them adopted?

Have two boys, always said I'd like a third boy. OP - you talk rubbish & I'm utterly delighted to have my wonderful sons. Never specifically wanted a girl, that's the truth.

precocious princess thing a bit nauseating

Yes because at least 70% of all girls are raised to precocious princesses

Mums of boys that complain of the pink, princess thing just end up sounding bitter.

Leave the stereotypes at the door. You love your sons. You don't need to put down girls to show how much you love your sons.

Nope. Never cared either way. Would be happy with another boy, or a girl.

YAB(incorrect)

YABU to assume.

I LOVE my two boys. When I didn't know what I would be having my 'fear' was a girl (though I'd love her) and I was very happy to have a boy, followed 4 years later by another. YES, I would like to have a girl if I ever have another (unlikely) but only because I haven't had one, and I'm curious!

My fears about having a girl were founded in not wanting to put my issues on another female, coupled with the fear that I would have the relationship with my dd that I have with my mum (good, loving but very complex and sometimes negative).

On a very shallow level, I like being the Queen of my castle.

I'm a good mum to boys. I suspect I'd be a good mum to girls, BUT I could also very easily be an overbearing mum to a girl... she wouldn't be a 'princess', she wouldn't wear pink, I'd be constantly striving to rid her of princess-like tendencies and although being averse to gender stereotyping isn't a bad thing, I think I'd go too far the other way... I mean if my dd WAS a girly girl, I would struggle, and it would be unfair to disallow her to be who she was. Not sure if that makes sense, and not sure if I am reasonable to fear that.

I simply find my boys easy because I am not one.

Yes, stop with the slagging of girls!
Nowt wrong with girls, I was was one!
I have wonderful nieces, wonderful nephews. They are all different. My eldest niece runs rings round my boys, she is feisty, bossy, athletic and rather wonderful.

I love my boys, but girls would have been lovely too. I didn't and don't mind either.

I mean if my dd WAS a girly girl, I would struggle

Why would you stuggle?

I have no idea how to be a girly girl. But if one of my daughters turns out to be one then I'm sure we'll be just fine.

Its not rocket science. There are worse things to overcome and deal with.

What if some of you end up with an effeminate boy, how will you all cope? God forbid he doesn't like climbing trees or throwing a ball. What if he likes clothes? Or dancing?

Not only do some of you like putting other peoples girls in boxes, your quite happy to put your own sons in boxes as well.

I don't know why we're bothering to engage with this - the OP is evidently a goady fucker who isn't coming back now he/she has stirred everything up

Also, so many people can't have any children at all, so to my mind being that picky about the sex of a child is fucked up.i might never have another one, so if I did I would just be immensley grateful for him/ her. All those Frickin weirdos who would be " devastated" to have children if the "wrong" sex- perhaps you shouldn't have risked having any. After all, imagine being born a disappointment..

I don't think you can make a statement like that. I was thrilled when I had DS, my first-born, and equally thrilled but in a completely different way, when I had DD.

Retro, not sure who that was aimed at but I absolutely don't put my boys in boxes - nor do I slag off girls. I have two gorgeous goddaughters and lots of lovely friends with girls.

I just can't bear this patronising shit that mums of boys are all weeping behind closed doors about our lack of daughters!

retrorita I think it's the fear of the thing rather than the thing itself... not sure if I'm clear?

I'm equal parts tom-boy and princess... lol (insert rolly eyes)

But thank you, you're right. I have two boys, very different from each other, one is very much a mud loving, no fearing, stereotypical boy. The other is sensitive, deep, thoughtful, bookworm.

I strive not to box my boys. I 'fear' that I would try to box my girl, unwittingly... perhaps that is because I don't have one?

My dd really wanted a boy first and that's what she got.For dc2 she didn't mind but had a fancy for another boy which it was.A sweeter, happier family you could not find and no one would swap either boy for a gaggle of girls.

IfNotNowWhen: hear hear. I was told off for expressing dismay at the sentiments of the "I want this type of baby" brigade but I agree with you.
How can a baby be the wrong sex? It's totally barking.

Just as an aside, why do mums of boys hate pink?

I have 3 boys and I adore pink, at least for me, its my favourite colour and lots of my clothes are various pink shades. Funny seeing DS1 (whos 20) wearing a pink T shirt to, obviously "trendy" but it wasn't that long ago he wouldn't have been seen dead in pink

no one would swap either boy for a gaggle of girls

Or even just a group of girls.

Or maybe just girls?

Why the need for the disparaging 'gaggle'?

I love pink.

My youngest loves pink.

My eldest simply doesn't like it.

Both boys. I'm female. I don't like pastels...

I honestly don't think it would matter to me. I have one dd. But would have been just as happy with a ds. They're just people - regardless of sex.

Pointless thread .
I have one of each
I adore my daughter
I adore my son

If you read the thread MrsDeVere, there are numerous disparaging remarks regarding the colour pink from mums of boys.

I was asking why they seemed t0 hate the colour pink so much.

Its ridiculous.