to think that most women would rather have a girl/girls than a boy/boys?

[jellysandwich]

I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds and in real life I find that mothers who have all boys or boys first, tend to denigrate them to mums of girls and put their daughters on pedestals. Mums of girls tend to not mind having no boys whereas all boy mums seem to feel sad that they have only boys. I have never come across any women who only wanted boy(s).

Am I right in thinking that most women want to have girls and wouldn't mind having all girls if they have more than one child, whereas boys are almost always seen as second best and not the desired choice of most women?

I have 1DD & 2DS's I was honestly never upset that I had only 1DD like others have said I was just glad they were born healthy and tbh I hated being pregnant and was just so grateful not to be pregnant anymore!!

A mother of 3DS's told me she was glad not to have a DD as she wasn't a girly girl and she was the queen in her house ??

well unreasonable yes but..
I have 1 girl and 3 boys (girl first). I was quite shocked at myself when my last ds was born as I was disappointed he wasn't a girl. I had not cared less with the previous 3 so the emotion took me by surprise. Looking back I think this was because Dd so wanted a sister but mostly because I could see her growing up so quickly. Ds3 is now nearly two and a joy. He is hilarious and of course none of us could imagine or want a different scenario. He is definitely our funniest child! Having 3 the same sex certainly illustrates to you there is little point in stereotying them as you watch their personalities unfurl.

In terms of the son for life thing, judging by our family it does not work at all. i am close to my mum but we live much closer to my dh's family and see his mum pretty much every week. my dh and his brother are very close to their mum thank you very much.

(I do miss the pretty summer dresses though)

You have never met a woman who only wanted boys? Do you live under a Very Small Rock bychance?
I have ALWAYS wanted boys and only boys and would have been absolutely devastated if I had a girl.

To be honest I find it fucking insulting to suggest that I'm not happy with my DS and that I would have preferred a girl.

I always wanted a girl I have to admit. Dc1 was a boy and I was a bit upset at the scan when we found out. I did get over it quickly though and he was delicious when he arrived!

Dc2 was a girl and I was so happy when I found out as I knew she was our last. She is amazing as well!

I didn't want a girl because of pink/ princess etc. I am pretty hardcore in that I hate pink- told everyone not to buy it!

It was more the mother/daughter relationship I wanted. (plus I love doing hair/ pleats etc!!)

I have to be honest, I don't believe mums who say they only want boys, only because it is so outside my reality! Not saying they're lying, I just can't understand!

would have been absolutely devastated if I had a girl

Do you think getting pregnant was a very selfish thing to do? Seeing as you had a 50/50 chance of having a girl and then ruining her whole life by not wanting her and being devastated by her existence.

Can people actually hear themselves on this thread?

I desperately wanted a girl and was very surprised - though not disappointed - to find out I was having a boy. Wouldn't change him for the world. Have just miscarried my second pregnancy but honestly had absolutely no preference for either gender this time - I know how much I would/will love either if/when it happens.

Hahaha, bollocks.

What a load of crap...
I have a dd and a ds and I would absolutely love, more than anything, another boy if I'm lucky enough to have a third :)

Yes, we live close to Dh's family as well. Closer by about 120 miles.
Both my boys are so different. Equally fabulous but chalk and cheese personality wise.
This boys are like this/girls like that crap is stoopid. We are all people, with our own distinct personas.

Navada, what patronising bollocks! Is it so hard for SMOGs to get their heads round the idea that some women didn't give a shit about not having daughters.

And, once again, yes I'm generalising and no not all mothers of girls are SMOGs but yes I've met lots. Just to make that clear .

I have a DS and two DDs (in that order), and I can honestly say that I did not mind which sex they were. I would have been thrilled either way...I was shocked recently when a friend's husband broadcast that she was very disappointed to find out that she had had a second Boy! She admitted to this very matter-of-factly.

I also have friends with all boys and friends with all girls and these parents don't seem to have an issue ...

Blimey I never denigrate my sons.

They are fabulous, cheerful and loving little beings, unlike many of the girls we know that age!

I adore my boys and I wouldn't swap them for the world.

I feel quite glad that all the people who didnt want a boy here only had girls because thats one less child risking emotional damage by not being the gender their Mother wished for

You should be equally glad that the people who didn't want a girl only had boys for the same reasons.

Devastated to have a girl! Really? Thank fuck you didn't have sons.

"I don't believe" means you're saying we're lying Rowan. Jesus, how hard is it for some women to understand!

"I didn't want the princess thing" and then in the next breath you say you like doing plaits! I can't think of a more shallow reason for wanting a girl!

I wouldn't have minded either way, but what I'm saying is I am genuinely not the LEAST disappointed that I have two boys.

Or thank fuckety fuck you didn't have any girls rather.

hey are fabulous, cheerful and loving little beings, unlike many of the girls we know that age!

Yes because boys are always better behaved than girls

What nonsense.

Honestly astonished at this thread!

I am fairly confident that everyone I know loves all the children they have and appreciates that their friends/family love all the children they have. Whatever combination of sexes.

Sorry for your loss jellyandcake .

Do bugger off. I have the most amazing children in the world and they are boys.

I have 2 boys and feel utterly grateful for them. I honestly. Feel in the long run they'll be MUCH easier to deal with than girls. I'm nor a girly girl myself and find the whole precocious princess thing a bit nauseating.

You should be equally glad that the people who didn't want a girl only had boys for the same reasons

Yes of course, but I was just thinking of the main points raised by OP.

That was for the Bampot thing.

I have two brothers, who are closer to my mum than me and my sister are, its just the way its always been. So I don't agree that once a mans married the mum gets left behind.