to think that most women would rather have a girl/girls than a boy/boys?

[jellysandwich]

I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds and in real life I find that mothers who have all boys or boys first, tend to denigrate them to mums of girls and put their daughters on pedestals. Mums of girls tend to not mind having no boys whereas all boy mums seem to feel sad that they have only boys. I have never come across any women who only wanted boy(s).

Am I right in thinking that most women want to have girls and wouldn't mind having all girls if they have more than one child, whereas boys are almost always seen as second best and not the desired choice of most women?

I would never ever denigrate my boys to other mums because I'm enormously proud of them - they are bright, funny, kind, generous and beautiful.

I however have to listen to plenty of mothers of girls or girls and boys denigrating boys all the fucking time and it drives me mental. "Oh that's boys for you", "boys will be boys", "that's what boys do", etc, etc. Always about some negative behaviour that one boy has exhibited that is then extrapolated out to all boys .

I adore my husband and he is an amazing father and a wonderful man - why would I not want to be part of raising two more amazing men like my dh?

It's about time we stopped running boys down all the time and putting girls on a pedestal - I see it all the time with mums who had a boy/boys first and then a girl/girls, the boys are suddenly pushed to one side while the girls are worshipped. So sad.

YABU.

I have a DS, I was terrified I might have a DD and refused to find out the sex as I was scared it would be a girl and I wouldn't want her.

I have always wanted boys, preferable 4, and I hope I never have a girl.

I feel quite glad that all the people who didnt want a boy here only had girls because thats one less child risking emotional damage by not being the gender their Mother wished for. And before anyone says this is rubbish I work in psychotherapy and I often see adults who have experienced this.

domesticCEO Im sorry but that is SUCH a generalisation. I could give you examples of the exact opposite.

I have one of each, but was shocked to the core when dd turned up after ds as dh is part of a family with dozens (literally) of boys. Was thrilled to bits she was a girl, but had to re-calibrate my thinking a bit. I then realised how much dh had wanted a girl second time around. He said the only combination he wouldn't have opted for (given the choice we never have, of course, quite rightly) would have been 2 girls. 2 boys yes, 1 of each yes. But not sure about 2 girls.
I'm sure he would have been fine if it had worked out that way however,.

I said it was a generalisation didn't I - quite clearly put a disclaimer at the bottom. Just because you don't feel like that doesn't mean I haven't seen it countless times.

Agreed, needaholiday.

So .

I only wanted girls, I'm not sure why, fortunately I had two dd's which I was thrilled about. If I'd had boys, obviously I would have loved them just the same.

Wow, how ridiculous!

I have a DS, I adore him. I can't imagine having a girl and would be quite happy having another boy. If I get another healthy baby then that's all I can ask for. Having a preference is just madness.

My DS is great, I'm lucky to have him.

Let's me honest, no mother of boys will agree with you here, whether they agree with you privately is another matter.

Personally, if I could only of had one sex I'd defo have chosen girls.

domestic What I recounted about feeling was an extra. I also alluded to the fact that I've seen the opposite attitude as many times.

Yes that's right Nevada, in private we are all pining for girls. Only mothers of girls are able to express their true feelings on an anonymous internet forum

Personally I am glad I have a DD and would rather have all DDS if I had more, but while I would prefer girls, I'm sure I would adore a son as soon as he arrived. I think it is based on personal experience, my brother was a nightmare and him and my mum have no relationship so I think that has put me off the idea of DSs a bit.

Equally I think a lot of men (from people I know) have an initial preference for a son, but I don't think it means they will love a daughter any less, just that they think they will relate to a DS better long term and have more common interests.

Oh yes, definitely OP. All women want girls, all women love to wear makeup, all women love pink, all women... What absolute rubbish!

My first ever

I wanted boys tbh I've no idea why other than I'm not very girly. Numbers 3 and 5 are girls though and I'm very happy to have them and it doesn't matter at all that dd1 is very girly, we seem to get on regardless.

So many twattish posts, so little time!

I have 2 boys, if I had gone for a 3rd my preference would have been for another boy.

I am truly thankful that I have two healthy, happy adorable children, I am extremely lucky.

Ok the fluffy mules bit was a lie

I havn't read all the replies but I am sure others may of said the same as me.

Some women are more than happy to have CHILD..... of whatever sex.

My OH and I have 3 boys between us and our 1st child together on the way... I have my scan next Friday and hopefully will be able to find out what we are having, the reason being if its a girl I will need to get my head round this fact as I can't imagine myself with a daughter... I'll love whichever flavour we get as long as they arrive safely. But I'm preparing myself just in case it's a girl. Boys rock! xx

"I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds ..."

Where?

Where have you read 'so many posts' seeing as you're new to Mumsnet?

Boys all the way here, I am queen of an all male household.
Wouldn't have it any other way.

YABU

I have no preference either way. We have 2 DSs and are likely expecting a girl. I got what I got - goodness knows I had very little say about it!