to think Oh shouldn't have done this without asking me first?

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Basically, it's my birthday this weekend and I had planned to go out for breakfast with my parents, and sister, BIL, nephew and OH.
We were round at FIL 's last week and my parents called to say they couldn't make breakfast, I told OH and we got on to the topic of how nice the breakfasts at this particular place were. He then proceeded to invite his DF and partner to my birthday breakfast. I don't have any problem with his family but would have preferred he asked me first. I've since mentioned this to him, he went off in a strop, accused me of not liking is DF and has stormed out the house an hour and a half earlier than normal saying "I'll just wait in the car park, it's better than being here" after calling me selfish for not wanting any of his family there (which I never said). Now, I have this group of people coming who barely know each other when all I was looking forward to was breakfast out with my sister and her family. Am I just being petty and over-emotional?

Alpaca,

It is not a question of birthday "denying", it is a question of the concept of entitlement. It is lovely to give someone a fantastic birthday with treats and presents. And sometimes that should happen. On the other hand, there are going to be birthdays where it is just not convenient/possible. My problem is with adults whinging that a particular birthday has not come up to their high expectations.

And, yes, the other stuff is real crap! Especially where people expect husbands/wives to give one another treats/presents for mothers/fathers day. That is the most ridiculous of all. People should appreciate you for you every day, not on specially marked days of the calendar.