It's a stupid thing to do, but I can't help having this little voice in the back of my head saying that men are also responsible for contraception, and if he doesn't want a child yet he should also be doing something to manage his fertility too rather than relying on her.
I am teaching my son to take an active not passive role in contraception. That if he doesn't want children he needs to know that contraception is in place and the only way he can know that it is, is if he is the one applying it in an appropirate fashion. And best case scenrio he is providing belt and braces becuase no single contraception is failsafe. I am making such a fuss about it becuase he will be going to the Uk for his higher ed, and there appears to be a vastly different mindset re the conception of children compared to here. A mindset he won't be prepared for by his peers attidudues and expectations here, so it's up to me to clarify that different cultures have different quirks and foibles that he needs to be aware of.
But this is a two way street. If men don't want to be parents then they need to take personal responsibility becuase some people lie and contraception can fail. Ditto if women do want to be parents then they need to take personal responsibility becuase some people either lie or don't have a crystal ball.
If you accept at face value it is more likely to be women, by dint of biological time constraints, who are more at risk of "don't know when or if I will ever want children" partner issues timing them out of parenthood, then it is up to them to take control of that situation and pick their priority.
A question of what do you want more, this man, (even if it means never having children, or his desire for them coming so late that he decides to go off with somebody still caperble of providing them...) OR motherhood, and leaving a realtionship which offers no firm hope of that in a timely fashion so you have enough time to find somebody suitable that is on the same page.
But yeah, finding a workaround to condone deception, that is stupid.
Becuase the people most at risk paying the price for that stratagy are the small powerless people who got no say in the matter but have any fallout as the landscape of their lives. Actively choosing the greater risk of rejection, strife, economic disadvantage and loss for your yet to be concieved children doesn't reek of a maternal investment in concept of children's needs coming before parental wants to me. And if that is the mindset from the beginning, god help the kids, becuase a wonky radar from the very onset on what consitutes priorities doesn't bode well.