sharing food....reasonable or not?

[DonutForMyself]

I won't say which side of the fence I fall on until I've had some responses!

But essentially, do you share your food or are you a bit territorial about it?

If your DCs want what you have ordered in a restaurant instead of what they have ordered, would you swap?

Would you swap with your DP if they weren't keen on their meal?

If you are having a piece of cake etc would you offer others a bite of it?

Perhaps I'd be more willing to share if kids' food was more inspiring too? na probably not

It is depressing how many restaurants offer the same pizza/pasta/nugget combo rather than a small portion of anything else on the menu.

Depending on the venue they very well might. Obviously the better, cooked from scratch places are more likely to than say, Wetherspoons.

I've swapped dishes if someone really wants to swap. eg his fish had the head still on and it put him off the big baby.

I'd only share cake if it wasn't actually that nice or if I really really wanted to taste their dessert.

i dont like sharing, dont like giving other people a taste either. if you wanted what i have you should have ordered it...

I would definitely not swap with anyone. i ordered what i wanted to have - if i wanted what someone else had i would have ordered it.

also dont like the sharing thing as i dont want someone else eating off my plate or cutlery - makes me feel sick at the thought.

Actually I don't see it as a pecking order thing, I wouldn't pinch food off my kids' plates either unless at home & they'd finished of course, nom nom Everyone has a right to not having other people rummaging in their dinner!

I don't like sharing food.

Always hated going out for tapas with friends because everyone is conscious that they don't want to be seen as greedy that the food gets taken away half eaten and everyone is still hungry!

I wouldn't swap food with my children, I make sure they order food that they like. And no I wouldn't offer someone a bite of my cake, why would you?

((hugs)) Hugless !

"He needs to learn that he doesn't have a right to other peoples' food, and not to throw a strop if he doesn't get his way."

Exactly this, to me, food is like anything else, my DCs don't have an automatic right to take it from me because they want it, any more than I will hand over the ipad if I'm using it, or get off MN the computer because they want to play on it, or turn the TV over when they walk in the room.

Sometimes my needs/wishes trump theirs. They can wait their turn and when I have finished doing what I'm doing I will hand over the ipad/remote for them to have their go. It teaches them to be patient and that they do not get everything they want the minute that they want it.

IMHO if your DCs ask for your food and you give it to them every time, they will learn that they can have whatever they want from others just by asking for it (and not always politely). That's not a trait I particularly want to instill in my DCs or encourage in others.

I would swap dds or dh if they didn't like theirs but I do NOT share found the thought of other people's mouths and hands near what I am eating makes me feels sick, although dds and dh think I find it funny if they take things off my plate much to my annoyance.

I do not share food.......my DH once tried to steal something off my plate so I stabbed him with my fork! Not hard of course but he got the message.

I may at a push give a chip away but no way do I share dessert.......don't like yours? Tough shit but you ain't having any of mine.....end of!!

I spend my life on a diet so when I want to indulge it's all mine:)

I don't mind letting DC's/DH have a taste of mine if they've never had it before but that's as far as it goes. Unless one of the DC'S have not long started solids and only have a tablespoon of food and are full. The rare times we eat out I make sure DC'S order something they like.

The only time I don't mind sharing is if we have our own main and share sides e.g. garlic bread/wedges etc.

Drives me nuts with DMIL when we have takeaway with them as she won't order chips for herself but pinches some off everyone else every time without fail. Fair enough if it agreed beforehand but to just assume you can do that drives me insane.

I love my food, and while I don't mind offering a taste of whatever I have ordered I draw the line at going halves on a main course or pudding. Never really understood why women insist on sharing pudding in a restaurant, Mrs CuChullain is awful for it, I think she does it on purpose

Me "Are you having desert?"

Her: "I dont want a whole one, I'll just have some of yours"

Me "Erm...no, we have been through this before, I ordered this desert because I really like it, its a treat, I dont have it often, I dont want half of it, I want all of it, we have enough disposable income to afford two, get your own and if you can only eat half of it its not the end of the world."

Her: "Oh, but it would be really nice to share, I only want a little bit"

Waiter: "Would you like to order anything from the desert menu?"

Me "Yes, can I have TWO sticky toffee puddings please"

Her "Can you make that one...............with two spoons"

Me ""

Her "Ohhhh......thats nice.....oi... you have eaten most of it...bring your plate back.......dont be so mean"

Me "Its my fucking pudding get your own........etc etc"

Waiter ""

Mr Cu you have my sympathy! Actually my DH & I if out for a romantic meal order 2 starters we both like & share them, 2 mains we both like & share them & 2, I repeat 2 puddings we both like & share them. It works beautifully. But that's not the same as someone taking your food against your wishes. No!!!

Happy to share/swap with DDs or DH, but no one else.

I'm ok to share tapas or Indian/Chinese (curries or dim sum), but really dislike sharing if I've ordered something (dessert or chips for example) and friends help themselves when they've ordered nothing.