To tell people that say that tattood parents don't set a good example to do one?

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I have heard comments that tattood and pierced parents are not setting a good example. I have even heard sub human, and shouldn't be allowed to have kids.

My values are that everyone should be able to leave peacefully without causing a problem to anyone else and living by the laws of the land. I also teach my children politeness and that you should always be willing to help others.

Am I being unreasonable to tell them to look at their own life first ( especially those that smoke in front of their children).

BTW my wife and I are both heavily tattood and have piercings.

YANBU. On the scale of terrible things you can do tattoos and piercings aren't on it are they?

Mm, sounds like a couple of ignorant comments have upset you quite a lot.

I'm not particularly a fan of tattoos, and will never have one myself, but I fail to see how having tattoos could possibly affect your parenting.

Just as an aside, DS got lost in town (only for a few minutes, but enough to scare him badly) last week, and was found by a woman covered in tattoos and piercings, and dressed 'goth-style' black. All he and I cared about was that she was lovely, and kind, and that she offered to help him find me

Tattoo'd parents clearly influence their children - I have tattoos - my DD1 felt the need to out do me!

YANBU! I am a tattooed pierced parent and that has no reflection on how I parent!

YANBU. I completely agree with you. I have 6 tattoos, with loads more in my head. My Df has 4. I don't think tattoos affect the way you parent.

Also how are tattoos and piercing worse than smoking or drinking?

Ah just ignore it. Some people have tattoos, some people don't, it really doesn't make a difference.

On the whole Yabu to be so bothered about what a stranger may or may not think of you.

No one's ever EVER said that to me.

Perhaps it's because my tattoos make me look so scary that they wouldn't dare...?

Could you not just point and laugh at the silly people

I'd ask them if they thought having judgmental parents was somehow better.

YANBU

I walked past a tattoo parlour the other day, and it had a massive permanent sign by the door saying "NO CHILDREN. NO PUSHCHAIRS." I have no issue with tattoos but would be surprised if parents felt it was ok to take their children with them

That said, I do indeed wish that tattoo-bashers would 'do one', along with benefit-bashers and posters who are always on here with their look-at-me-I-am-so-wealthy-and-organised-and-frugal-unlike-all-you-peasants schtick.

'Do one' always makes me think of Brookside Where I was born, the phrase is 'get tae fuck!'

What I meant is smoking in front of your children is far worse. You are teaching them to take up a life threatening habit!

i have no tattoos, i dont see how me suddenly getting one would change the way i parent

some people are just barking, maybe a tattoo or two might lighten them up a bit

But smoking doesn't make you a bad parent either so you are being just as judgemental in return.

Returnof. My children have been with me since they were in their mothers womb.

We are good friends with the people in the studio ( in fact each one is a god parent).

Why would you be surprised if a parent would want to take their child with them?

Brokenbanana. I am not teaching my children it is right to take up a life threatening pastime ( for want of a better word). That is not being judgemental, that is just teaching healthy living

I have a tiny tattoo no one can see, so I might be a bad example

I've heard people with my mental health problem on here described as "subhuman" and it's very hurtful.

We're all human, basically we're the same. It's how you live your life and interact that counts!

I was with you until the smoking comment.

But I'm sure most smokers don't encourage their kids to take up smoking

Really sorry, OP. I was just under the (incorrect) impression that tattoo studios were an age-restricted environment, but I guess logically you can take children to the pub but they can't drink, right? Showing my ignorance as usual.

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Return. It is only the studio itself.

Broken banana - by smokin in front of your children are you not indicating it is acceptable behaviour?

the irony is, the children of the judgy tattoo hating parents will probably rebel by getting tattoos themselves like I did

whereas my dd will probably think that tattoos are incredibly naff because her mum has one

Banana, children of parents who smoke are more likely to take up smoking themselves.

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