To tell people that say that tattood parents don't set a good example to do one?

[Ilovemyself]

I have heard comments that tattood and pierced parents are not setting a good example. I have even heard sub human, and shouldn't be allowed to have kids.

My values are that everyone should be able to leave peacefully without causing a problem to anyone else and living by the laws of the land. I also teach my children politeness and that you should always be willing to help others.

Am I being unreasonable to tell them to look at their own life first ( especially those that smoke in front of their children).

BTW my wife and I are both heavily tattood and have piercings.

I love the idea of having a secret tattoo. Ohhh look at me, cardigan, lilac and pearls and then BOOM. Flaming skull on my arse cheek.

That's the reaction I get to my lower back piece when I wear swimmers! Like I've been keeping this huge secret.

i have no interest in their opinions

I would like a small secret cat one. But where?

I don't have any tattoos, thinking about getting one when I get the courage :o

DH has loads, mostly unseen as they are covered by his clothes. He is a nurse.I don't think his taste in body art has a thing to do with his ability as a parent or as a nurse either.

He just chooses to have artwork on his skin rather than the walls :o

Yanbu, tattoos and piercings do not distinguish a parent as good or bad. Unless its tribal that lacks imagination!!
This comes from a tattooed/ pierced mum of 2 who's partner is heavily tattooed and is a tattoo artist at a local studio.

Crapswith. It has just clicked what you mean. If you want to accuse me of being a troll fine - go ahead.

And I can't honestly believe the number of people here that accept that smoking in front of children is acceptable (Brokenbanana not you!)

There used to be a man in my hometown who had tattooed the words "SID IS VICIOUS" across his forehead. I knew he'd done it himself as it was backwards and only readable in a reflection.

I'm pretty sure he was a bad example to any children he may have gone on to have

I think it depends on what the tattoo is of. Rose and dagger = fine nobody cares Hitler in profile across the chest = probably best avoided.

BTW my wife and I are both heavily tattood and have piercings.

Are you both fully employed in a traditionally professional capacity with no other welfare assistance other than child benefit?

I have tattoos. Lots of them.
And I have children - three.
One of the three has tattoos - she is 22, her choice. The other two are not bothered. I get a new tat each time Meatloaf brings out an album and I trot home with it after and brazenly show it off to the offspring who have long since understood their mother is a demented rocker with a huge leaning towards inking herself - they don't give a shite - because they are happy, healthy, confident children who know they are loved unconditionally. They know there is nothing in this world I would not do to make them okay and happy - that's what counts, not how many tats you happen to have on your body.

Hollyberrybush. It's statements like that that are exactly what I am on about. And it is attitudes like that that are discriminatory. Why should someone be judged on their suitability for a job based on tattoos ( which in my case are covered if I wear a long sleeved shirt) or piercings. It has no effect on anything.

Whilst it is none of your goddam business about our work status, my wife is a stay at home mum. I am currently unemployed ( for the first time in 20 years) but until 4 weeks ago I was employed in a professional bases working in export.

I have 1 offer on the table for a start date in September and several other interviews in the mean time.

I have no issues with claiming benefit for the first time in my working life of 27 years but will pleased when I am back in work by September st the latest.

And if the work I did was not traditionally professional what would that have to do with anything.

Now can I politely suggest you get back to reading your Daily
Mail

www.mayoclinic.com/health/tattoos-and-piercings/MC00020

There are risks involved in having a tattoo, and when I was 18 young free and careless I didn't think about the risks.

I am a smoker and tattoo, my children are doomed.

Not a big fan of tattoes myself, each to their own. (I am sure not everybody like my hair or my jeans )

A few years ago, at a religious occasion family party, the door bell rang. It was midnight. I went out, to find the front door open, and a man with several visible tattoos, piercings, wearing leather clothing, and sporting a mohican hairstyle. Most curiously, he held my ex brother in laws new wife's son on his arm. I was rather gobsmacked!

Turns out he was having a fag outside his flat, a few minutes walk away from my dads house, when he saw the toddler walking across the car park, aiming for the busy main road.

The child did not know where he was, naturally, nor where he was going or where he had been. But the man picked the child up, headed in the direction the child came from, saw the open front door and put two and two together. Mum had not noticed he had escaped the travel cot.

The man seemed reluctant to leave, quizzing us hard on how he could have escaped. Did not want to leave until he was satisfied that there was nothing weird going all.

We were all a bunch of strangers in suits and dresses. I think he might in fact have called the police if he had smelled alcohol on any of us!

Not sure who was the most fit parent here, the mum, a nurse, wearing her Sunday best who failed to notice her escape artist, or the pierced tattoed "goth" who did his best to ensure the child was safe. And it honestly does not matter whether we wear silk or tattoes.

Yanbu.

A girl I used to work with was telling me a random customer where she now works told her that her tattoos were disgusting and he would never employ her.

Now truth be told I don't like her tattoos at all personally,but she does and who the fuck does that person think they are?!

Tattoos are really not a big deal,some are genuinely beautiful. Some are not. Does it actually hurt anybody else? No.

Quintessentialolddear. What a story. I am so glad that the young boy was well.
But it proves a point so well. Some of the friendliest kind hearted people I know are tattood.

Mcnewpants2013. Of course there is a risk but if you do you go to a licensed studio and check out their work before.

I have tattoos and piercings. I made my baby bald twice and dyed blue. That is all.

YANBU. I don't like tattoos or piercings so my solution is not to have any (I don't even have pierced ears). If other people want tattoos and piercings, it's up to them. Live and let live.

I know and by children being with parents in studios it shows them the correct way to have a tattoo done.

Never heard this? Honestly. My DH is tattooed (with nipple piercings) and I have facial piercings. Honestly never heard anything negative like this.

Yanbu though. I like to think we are a positive influence on them because we are teaching them from an early age about the diversity of the human race and that people with body mods are 'normal' too so not to stare .

Just read someone has likened it to kids following their parents in smoking! Yeah except smoking will probably give you cancer or heart disease, tattoos and piercings won't kill you (unless they go septic but honestly if you get them done a 'proper' place and look after them that shouldn't happen). So completely different. Plus I think kids rebel from their parents anyway, I know I did not want to be anything like my parents (tbf I still don't).

This Op is a public forum. If you put up sweeping statements, expect to be challenged on them.

Whether you like it of not, there are negative connotations to certain types of tattoos and piercings, especially facial tattoos.

I do have a valid point in my original comment - if your tattoos make you unemployable and I am a tax payer, then I will have the temerity to query whether you are indeed employable and if by having tattoos you have made yourself unemployable then you should be treated as such.

Some of the friendliest kind hearted people I know are tattood.

Swap tattoed there for blue eyed/practicing pagans/wear dentures. It holds no substance whatsoever and is anecdotal.

You wouldn't even have this thread on the go if you didn't know that tattoos can be intimidating and threatening to some eg older sectors of society - and there is still a certain amount of social taboo about them.

I guess no jobs for the Maouris then.

I know people sneer at 'regular' tattoos, do those same people sneer at cultural or religious tattoos/piercings? Or is that 'different' and 'acceptable?'

Or are we all shit parents who really don't deserve jobs and 'should be treated as such?'

Eh? I have never heard this. And I have tattoos and a DC

Did you not see the bloke in the paper who had a swastiker on his forehead? I won't link, but he was very much aggrieved that no one would give him a job. Sadly he did come across as slightly SN, otherwise I'm sure the recruiting office of the BNP could have found a job for him, where as your local branch of Barclays clearly would not have put him on reception.

Extreme case I know, but lets face it, when we talk about 'making yourself unemployable' that is clearly the sort of thing I mean, not a cute little star by your ear lobe.

I'm quite alternative in my look and dress. My son does everything he can to blend in and conform, much to my disgust!!!

Yanbu

Hollyberrybush. The negative connotations are spread by people who either know no better.

There is no reason for people to feel intimidated by piercings or tattoos, other than the negative press put forward by those that say that tattoos make you somehow mentally challenged. Or a sinner. Or one of the many reasons given by the Daily Mail brigade.

And if you had questioned me about being in work I may have accepted that ( although it has nothing to do with the original post) but to add " a traditional professional job" just shows you think that those not doing such a job are somehow less worthy. What does it matter if you are doing a job.

The trouble with a comment about making yourself unemployable is that you are imposing values of someone based on appearance and not ability to do the job. I guess as I have long hair as well I should be even more unemployable.

When people stop judging a book by its cover I guess we will be fine but until then I guess we have to put up with the BS of the holier than though out there