To have told this couple they were incredibly rude?

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Shopping at Aldi today. Unable to park in mother and child bays - full. 8.5 months pregnant. 8 year old DC with me.

So, my trolly is fully, I'm struggling to keep it under control against differentiating cambers. I get to the car, DC is next to me, space on drivers side is empty. I open boot, give keys to DC, I am stood on drivers side of boot slightly blocking free parking space. I have to lunge to stop the trolly which with it's own mind has decided to start rolling towards the car parked on the passenger side. I become aware that a car is stopped behind my right shoulder and as I've moved to rescue the cart, it pulls in to the space on the driver's side of my car. DC now has the keys and needs to get into the car (the car park is busy, and DC can be a bit impulsive and I'm not leaving him at the back of the car with me while I try to unpack and prevent the trolly from hitting the car on our left. DC struggles with keys, I'm reminding him that there is now a car parked behind him and to be careful opening the door. You can see the female passenger getting impatient. I keep reminding DC to be careful but no...he hits their car with the door. I immediately being to apologise loudly and leave the troly risking it rolling into the car parked on our left.

The woman glares as DC, mouths something at him that I can't hear, I shut the door and quickly get back to the trolly while still apologising. The woman turns towards me, glares, and then turns around again.

At this point I think...fair enough, I'll speak to them when they get out of the car. I start unloading - there is no damage to their car. She get sout - nose quite literally stuck up in the air and I hear him say "You gone on, dear...I'll handle this."

He gets out, and comes around and begins to make a very big fuss of getting down on his knees to carefully inspect the car...running his fingers over the door. I continue to apologise, and he continues to ignore me. Eventually he gets up and walks past me towards the back of his car. I apologise again and turns to me and says how incredibly annoying people like me are who cannot supervise their children correctly. I'm pretty aghast actually - thinking they could see the predicament \I was in. Something snapes and I ask him if he actually is criticising my parenting abilities. He replies yes he is. I reply with "If there was any damage I would have obviously offered ot rectify it." He just walks past me and strolls off....nose in the air.

I left them a note on their windscreen - I pointed out that

a) They had the rest of the car park to choose from
b) They could see I'm heavily pregnant, on my own, with a child in a busy car park and that I was struggling
c) When someone apologises profusely for a mistake they made that a bit of grace goes a long way.

At that point I let my indignation get the better of me and told them them make this world a less pleasurable place to live.

I'm still incensed...

WIBU?

Holidays..please read the thread. No damage...apologies ran amuck - I was practically falling over myself apologizing!!! and I told the man if there had been damage I most certainly would have offered to correct the damage.

Flip and fw - no more apologizing for failing to not have a crystal ball and preventing DC from being at the drivers door before they registered properly on my radar and then making a bad call.

On future I ain't judging if someone tries to pull into space next to me when a family member/myself are entering the car. If they think IME being unreasonable for taking a few extra seconds of their valuable time....tough!!!

And thank you, Pagwatch for your humour...you always make me laugh.

I'm pleased someone else said they would have flicked the v at them, I
typed that then wiped it, its true though. Or I would have said it to the man,

and

My Ds has done this before and I was mortified but the guy in said car done nothing, I checked there was no mark.

Agree with Pagwatch. I don't pull into a parking space if anyone, adult or child is trying to get into the car, it only takes a couple of moments. If I only see them once the car is part way in, I stop. It is just common courtesy. TBH I would give a child more leeway, I may be muttering under my breath about how long it takes if they faff about a bit but that would be it.

I am in awe of all the perfect people on this thread who always do everything brilliantly, never make a mistake of any kind and have their 8 year olds push their heavy shopping trollies adeptly and expertly.

I am not worthy!!!!

OP YANBU.

Oh god that must have been awful, like other posters said that note was very restrained.

yes I agree with Pagwatch too and said a similar thing upthread about making sure dc are safe. The man could have knocked your son down as a worst case scenario. a bit of kindness and consideration go a long way.

Now I'm incredibly precious over my car, I mean obsessively so. But accidents happen and you apologised, your son didn't do it on purpose and they chose to park next to you seeing your struggle.
So no ywnbu

I once nearly actually got into a fight with a stupid mare over this when she repeatedly did it through being inconsiderate as apposed to accidentally.

Yanbu

I cannot believe some of the replies on here! What they did was incredibly dangerous. I would never drive into a space where ANYONE was in the process of getting into a car - especially where it's a child involved. I must live in a much more courteous town than some of the other posters n here as no one has ever done this to me either.

I'm not pregnant and I struggle with the trolleys in aldi too. Same slopey car park and no brakes on the trolley. I also have to wedge the trolley between myself and the car to stop it rolling off.

Also, wouldn't even occur to me to ask any of my children to help put the shopping into the boot and my eldest are 12. It would just be more people in the way and of no help whatsoever.

The other couple were twats. There is absolutely no justification to be so rude to other people. Thankfully, I have never had this happen to me. I guess I should be grateful as my town is clearly a utopia filled with people who avoid mowing children down and smile and nod to each other.

No, ywnbu. I would never pull into a space with a child standing beside the car anyway, purely for fear of squashing them.

For next time though (especially if there are plenty of other spaces available)...

Use one of those shopping trollies with a sloped baby carrier thing - these usually have a brake on them. I find the are usually loads of them to go round, as people tend to prefer to dump the infant carrier in/on the trolly instead.

Park trolly at right angles to your bumper so that cars can't squeeze in beside you while you're loading up (and then ignore anyone who demands you move).

Make sure you supervise your son into the car straight away if poss. Difficult with a huge bump if there's already someone next to you, but usually manageable.

What a twunt.

You should have stood really close to him - pissed on his feet and then aplogised that your waters have broken due to stress of being harrassed by him !!!