th think this is not the way that a nurse should speak to a patient

[moiner]

My brother has had an operation on his kidneys and has been in hospital for the last 6 days. One of the nurses has told him that he?s the fittest boy they have had on the ward all year and whenever she speaks to him she calls him ?pretty boy? instead of his name. On top of this she?s told him that he is even cuter when he?s asleep. I think this is quite unprofessional behaviour towards a patient by a nurse but my DP thinks I?m being a grumpy old sod and that she is just tailoring her manner towards a 19yo boy. AIBU?

It's very unprofessional. What does your brother think?

It's objectification and sexual harassment. I wouldn't stand for it. Completely unprofessional.

yeah, i wouldn't be happy about that either. i know it doesn't really matter but out of interest, how old is the nurse?

He quite likes it

PALS and register a complaint

The nurse is probably early to mid twenties

It's inappropriate.

As an ex-nurse I would say it is very unprofessional!

If you see her, ask her how she would feel if she was a patient and her male nurse or doctor addressed her this way.
Definitely complain.

Unhelpful, but at 19 he's an adult man; not a boy. If he's offended he can lodge his own complaint - it's not your place to,

A 19 year old girl being spoken to like thst by a male nurse would cause uproar.

Hope your brother feels better.

So your 19yo brother, and adult, likes the nurse flirting with him?

So why are you making this a massive problem? one that is none of your business?

The nurse needs a gentle reminder of the ethics and etiquette of nursing - she probably thinks being flattering and flirtatious is the way to go with a young man, but it's not professional. If the roles were reversed, and it was a male nurse flirting with a younger female patient, I think it be perceived differently.

It sounds like s

Its ok. At least she's not failing to refill his saline drip and forgetting to feed him.
Its hospital banter. Seen it before and it sounds completely harmless.

Sorry! It sounds like something out of holby city!

Very unprofessional, would your nephew be upset if you complained?

Very unprofessional, sounds like she's trying to be friendly and/or endearing but has taken the completely wrong approach. YABU to write a formal complaint on his behalf if he isn't bothered though, maybe alert the senior ward nurse to it though.

I dunno. I hate bureaucracy and pointless complaints but how does she know he likes it and isn't just being polite?

Personally I hate when male HCP make risque jokes with me. She really shouldn't be in the habit of doing this with patients.

Agree with stuffezlayoni.

Its unprofessional and none of your business.

Sorry for some reason I thought it was your nephew!

He's 19 therefore an adult and if he's not got an issue with it I'm not surewhy you do, it's absolutely nothing todo with you.

The same would go it it was a female patient too.

Sorry, that is you would be unreasonable to complain formally on his behalf. Though you can keep all those thoughs I chucked in there

What does he think about it? I would have been furious if my brother had gone making complaints on my behalf, talking to the ward sister etc when I was 19.

But he is enjoying it!!!