th think this is not the way that a nurse should speak to a patient

[moiner]

My brother has had an operation on his kidneys and has been in hospital for the last 6 days. One of the nurses has told him that he?s the fittest boy they have had on the ward all year and whenever she speaks to him she calls him ?pretty boy? instead of his name. On top of this she?s told him that he is even cuter when he?s asleep. I think this is quite unprofessional behaviour towards a patient by a nurse but my DP thinks I?m being a grumpy old sod and that she is just tailoring her manner towards a 19yo boy. AIBU?

If he was being ignored by the nursing staff you would moan about that too. Get a grip.

Whether he enjoys the attention or reciprocates in any fashion is irrelevant. The nurse is crossing a very strict boundary and acting unprofessionally.

It's all in context though.

When some patients come in they look awful ( as in an unwell look) as they get better they look a million times more heathy. I will say Mrs Jones you are looking very well today.

Some patients do flirt and I flirt back.

It's about building a good relationship with my patients.

If he is isn't bothered then you shouldn't be either

People really think that it's OK for nurses to flirt with a patient or flirt back if they do?

Bloody hell!

"It's all in context though."-how so?

I was in hospital for months once and the male nurses (and the female nurses for that matter) used to act like that with me. Considering I looked so bloody awful (think black eyes and missing teeth), they made me feel loads better about myself. And reasonably happy, at a time when things were pretty shit. If your brother genuinely feels ok with it, then I would back off personally.

Surely its all about building a rapport and making sure patients feel as comfortable as possible. He's 19 and she's early twenties and I don't think their interactions are improper when you take their ages into account.

It's unprofessional and inappropriate. Their connection is a nurse and a patient. They're not in a nightclub.

Just because its a female nurse and a male patient doesn't make any difference.

There are plenty of other ways for a nurse to establish a connection with a patient than comment on their physical attributes.

I am not a nurse though and I have never been on any sort of training other than the mandatory ones like fire safety, infection control and H&S

A ward cleaner

Yes it's unprofessional, but if he's not fussed what's the problem, he's an adult!

I see them as my patients, because I do a lot for the patients I work with.

Euphemia it's up to him to make a complaint he's an adult fgs and if he's not fussed leave it!

It does sound a bit unprofessional tbh but maybe she's just trying to be nice. The sleeping thing sounds weird though! Maybe mention it to the ward sister if it continues?

My goodness you lt are uptight.

OP but if you feel like making a complaint then contact PALS.

If any family thought I was acting unprofessional then I would want to know so I could correct my behaviour.

Yanbu it technically is inprofessional of her but...Christ you're uptight OP.

Yes I do think it's unrofessional, and if I were in a professional,position I would never make innuendos like that, op brother is the patient and an adult and probably more than capable of making a complaint if he was bothered by it, which h seems not to be

Very unprofessional, but I do feel its for your brother to complain here.

McNewPants You might see them as your patients, but unless you're involved in their personal care and decisions about their treatment, it is entirely different to this situation.