about FB holiday pic posting

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I'm sure this has been done to death but I have to get it off my chest, its really very trivial, but I have to vent.
Why do people insist on putting photos on FB when they are off havign such an amazing time on their hols?
Is it because they want the world to know how fab it is where they are?
Is it to show off ?
Is it because they are more interested in trying to demonstrate to everyone else how fab things are than actually enjoying how fab everythign is
Is it just that I'm not really as into FB as they are therefore its lost on me ?

Oh Mandy, if you have your settings secured and are not friends with kleptomaniacs I don't think you have to worry.
Has that been mentioned already?

Other FB statuses I love as well are when friends have lost weight/had new hair colour/got fab new job. Or when an old school friend has got into a GB sports team (how amazing is that?!) or had that longed for baby after being told that they were infertile at aged 13 (I will forgive any amount of PFB and cuddly wuddly statuses of that friend).
Why wouldn't you be pleased that people you know and care for are happy?

LAQueen, thank you for your crush. It is of course reciprocated in a totally normal and non creepy way

I think the point about photos being a moment in time which may well NOT reflect the moment just before or about to come, is very well made.

Before facebook I eagerly documented every aspect of my university days with my crappy film camera and stuck every dodgy print in an album. Looking through my album you would think my university days were a constant round of pubs and clubs with my enigmatic and exciting friends. Of course I did not document the many tedious and soul crushing evenings of existential doubt and sobbing in my student bedsit.

But becauase I was unhappy for about half the time, doesn't detract from the photos of the good times. And I don't think it makes me a shallow hypocrite for wanting to record those times as opposed to the hard times.

People railing against Facebook appear to be railing against human nature. And it makes you look small and sad. Look at the words used here about people who are nominally at least 'your friends' - 'twats' 'sad acts' etc, etc.

People, look in the mirror and make that change.

Not Facebook but the same mean spirit: I worked with someone who was ranting about people who live in those nice terraced Victorian houses <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=s0.geograph.org.uk/geophotos/01/12/98/1129811_804f74d8.jpg&imgrefurl=www.geograph.org.uk/photo/1129811&h=640&w=573&sz=98&tbnid=DmacLk9VIRf9CM:&tbnh=112&tbnw=100&zoom=1&usg=__qu3SxhnYSeTKGJFF4_EEt5Dixvw=&docid=GtAc7UQFrC7vFM&sa=X&ei=8DunUbWfN6jP0AXpsoGQBg&sqi=2&ved=0CEcQ9QEwBA&dur=289" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">like this who sometimes don't have curtains.

They deserve to be burgled, apparently. She was just an envious loon.

Laqueen I don't want to rain on your parade but the worst storm I ever knew was in Cannes. We squelched all the way back to the apartment. It was warm rain though.

lol at LaQ

Things can and do change a lot over the years.

FB be a nice way to support or keep up to date with all that, which includes having a good time on holiday.

Well exactly, some people are insecure, some people are sad, some people are happy.. sometimes all in the same day.

What pisses me off is this apparent assumption that it is all caused by Facebook et al and therefore anyone who enjoys social media is a drooling half wit.

What fascinates me is why these people who profess such disdain for social media and its users are ALWAYS starting threads banging on about it. Why go on about it so much?

This has completely buggered up my day as I have now managed to avoid doing anything productive by getting sucked back in to various threads. And then checking my Facebook.

Really must go and do something productive but I LOVE and CHERISH all of you who have ever agreed with me.

Bouncing off the pavement, it was. Over my rats-tail head...

Laq
One of my old school friends was a real teen tearaway with quite a troubled upbringing.
Got back in touch via FB to find that she has achieved some amazing things and now has wonderful things going on in her life. Really awe-inspiring stuff.

Course I just sneer and think Pah!I remember when you were smoking and drinking under the underpass before school and truanting to sleep with older guys

LaQueen, your points about some people seem to just be unable to see the good or are very quick to assume the worst. I know a lot of people like that but they tend to be older. I always hope that it's their natural personalities and not something that will happen to me as I age.

Although this thread shows that it's not all older people. I tend to assume the best of people so if a woman posts a picture of her huge diamond engagement ring, I assume it's because she's so happy and excited to be engaged and she loves her ring. But I suspect a lot of people think the bride to be is just showing off the size of her diamonds (I use this example as I have seen it in RL).

Actually, talking of weddings, it's another good example. There are so many people who seem to assume that a big white wedding is about showing off. When in my experience, the big white wedding is because people love the tradition and the emotion and the fun of it. And they want their families and friends to be involevd and engaged in their decision to marry. And they want to celebrate their love. No other reason.

I had quite a small wedding that was self-consciously smart, I suppose, because that's me all over

It was in a town hall, my dress was a wedding gown but knee-length which I preferred for a register office, I arrived in a London taxi that was driven by a friend who did it for nothing despite offers of payment. We got him a present instead. Modest flowers. Pictures by two guests who are professional photographers and also did it for nothing except for a bottle of whisky each.

My mum paid for the dress and reception. Both were expensive, but I guess people pay more, and it was what I wanted and she was happy to pay - in fact, she insisted.

I know that one or two people sneered that it looked very try-hard, undoubtedly because they thought it was expensive. The town hall was certainly very grand, but that's my local town hall, and why would anyone marry somewhere ugly if there was somewhere nice instead?

As weddings go, it was probably at the cheaper end. I don't really know because I don't care what other people spend. But lots of people do.

Oh, I used to work somewhere the register office was quite literally an office behind one of those doors that you have in prisons. The metal ones set in a metal wall you have to step over to get in.

It was exposed in the News of the World as a centre for bogus weddings. Presumably because if you were a local who wanted to marry for reasons other than getting a passport you'd be desperate for somewhere nicer even if it did mark you out as shallow.

We buggered off abroad to get married. Our families followed though
We did it naicely though in a v posh hotel, 10 course meal, we even had a harpist...
Full highland dress for him and vair expensive dress for me with honeymoon in Sandals St Lucia afterwards.
We spent what a traditional wedding would have cost here but by keeping it small and forrin, we were able to do it in style

I had no real wedding to speak of. No wedding dress , engagement ring, no cars, flowers and honeymoon,

We could not afford anything else, I would have loved a proper wedding. It has nothing to do with how much we loved each other or the strength of our relationship. Although I guess it shows that being married was more important than the wedding, but that would have been the same regardless .

My DH did have a big wedding with his first wife, I know as I was a guest . Big dress, fancy reception and honeymoon and their marriage didn't last. But again that had nothing to do with how much they loved each other .

We got married in Chelsea Registry Office with dd and 2 friends. It was wonderful. They have a book with all the famous people that got married there - Sid James ;-) DH Lawrence, Paul McCartney etc. it cost £30 then we all went to Bibendum for lunch. We spent a bit on posh hotel for a few nights and food instead. It was lovely.

Porto that sounds fab
Luckily our wedding (lovely, very boozy guests) was pre-fb. We came home from honeymoon to some extremely grovelling answer machine messages from guests who had misbehaved
Not especially fancy, but exactly what we wanted and everyone had a great time. Actually not exactly what we first wanted, but a good compromise considering my bonkers and complicated family.

Lovely steps at Chelsea.

Mine was Marylebone Register Office. The officiant warned the photographers to be careful about stepping back to get a better shot because the pavement is deceptively narrow and it's like a motorway there.

No problem. One of them was a Sun photographer. He told an aggressive drunk to fuck off while asking me to show a bit of leg.

I'd much rather see pics of people having fun on holiday than "my daughter means the world to me" from my horrible mum and "like if you are against cancer/child abuse/poverty"

We go on holiday in sept, I may have mentioned it , it's only possible thanks to dh's mystery customer bonus. And I'm going to photograph everything, those of you on my fb, you have been warned!