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AIBU to want to sit in my garden without being subjected to next doors loud music?

111 replies

jamdonut · 26/05/2013 16:32

Just that.

Lovely sunny day,chance to go out and sit in the garden, but next door have friends and their children over,and are playing awful repetitive Ibiza style music loudly. We've tried playing some Muse back at them,and they turned it down a bit,then we went in to have lunch and they turned it back up Angry I wouldn't dare go talk to them about it...they're scary!

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LindyHemming · 26/05/2013 16:36

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NotYoMomma · 26/05/2013 16:40

Ring 101 - we've got new neighbours across the road who resorting in their front garden drinking and topless and bringing down the neighbourhood (dah-ling) I hate it

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jamdonut · 26/05/2013 16:48

Euphemia you are right,but we're not good with confrontation.

We own our house,but theirs is council. They've been there 2 year's now,and we've had enough of this crap.

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waikikamookau · 26/05/2013 16:52

but it doesnt have to be actual confrontation, more a chat about peace and quiet.
its a bank holiday weekend.
these things always happen,

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jamdonut · 26/05/2013 16:53

I don't want that to sound snobby...my point is that we can't afford to move ,but have to put up with noise,and things being constantly thrown into our garden. And now the kids have started banging on the fence to make our puppy bark. She hardly barks usually, but loud noises scare her.

It has been 2 years of annoyance. Our previous neighbours were no trouble at all.

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waikikamookau · 26/05/2013 16:56

tell the kids off, put your head over the fence.

JakeBullet · 26/05/2013 16:56

I feel your pain, I am in a similar situation. I live in a cul de sac and it's all HA. When I moved in, a woman up the road said "oh you're in the noisy bit". Indeed she was right Grin, nice weather plus bank holiday weekend equals loud music, plenty of alcohol and lots of noise.

They are actually all quite good natured and harmless so I let it go but it can get a bit annoying at times. They are at it now, lots of swearing (and laughter), loud music and flowing lager.

waikikamookau · 26/05/2013 16:58

my dm gets annoyed about her neighbour who sits in her garden talking on her mobile phone Grin

Chottie · 26/05/2013 16:59

i hear your pain, our neighbours have just bought their son a drum kit.....

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 26/05/2013 17:00

If you don't want to confront them then you could post a polite request asking that they turn the music down a little. If that fails then contact the council/Housing Association and environmental health as they will be able to deal with it. Nothing will change unless you take action and they will continue to think it's acceptable.

I can understand you not wanting to confront them though. I have some very unsavoury characters living near me who I wouldn't want to confront either. They're very intimidating.

Souredstones · 26/05/2013 17:00

Yabu if you're not prepared to politely ask them to turn it down.

We play music in the garden and appreciate its not to everyone's taste (rock/metal) but as no one has mentioned it to us that its a problem why would we assume otherwise?

exoticfruits · 26/05/2013 17:06

Yanbu - music shouldn't be played in gardens- there is no excuse, you can listen to it without subjecting others to it.

tallulah · 26/05/2013 17:13

Oh this is my personal bugbear. I like to sit quietly in my garden. Where we used to live the neighbours both sides always had loud music on, it was horrible. Here the people 2 doors down often have their radio on out in the garden and it drives me to a stabby rage. I really wish they'd pass legislation stopping people making a noise because it really isn't fair.

Chottie · 26/05/2013 17:14

Tallulah - I wish you lived next door to me :)

exoticfruits · 26/05/2013 17:14

Hear, hear tallulah.

80sMum · 26/05/2013 17:16

Yes I agree with exoticfruits YANBU ;music shouldn't be played outdoors. It's very inconsiderate to other people who, even if they share the person's musical taste, probably don't want to have it foisted upon them at that particular time.

expatinscotland · 26/05/2013 17:47

I agree with tallulah. SO sick of other peoples' fucking 'music'.

ToffeePenny · 26/05/2013 18:00

You should challenge them to a music duel

Only kidding, YANBU of course

ShellyBoobs · 26/05/2013 18:35

We play music in the garden and appreciate its not to everyone's taste (rock/metal) but as no one has mentioned it to us that its a problem why would we assume otherwise?

What if someone is too shy/anxious to approach you, I suppose it's their tough luck and they just have to put up with your anti-social ways?

What's wrong with thinking about other people?

Souredstones · 26/05/2013 18:36

We do. It's not loud and we assume if it were a nuisance someone would say, we talk to all our neighbours. If someone asked us to we would turn it off. No one has yet asked us to.

ShellyBoobs · 26/05/2013 18:39

Ah ok, sorry Soured, I took your post to mean that unless you were approached by soomeone asking you not to, you'd just play it as loud as you like.

marjproops · 26/05/2013 18:39

Helloooo. absolutely Tallulah.

weve had to come in and its not even next door, its the other end of the street and the whole street is shaking, but the accused are the troublemakers of the street so KNOW they'll get away with it cos the rest of us think even the noise police are scared of them.

Souredstones · 26/05/2013 18:40

Apology not needed Smile no, we like loud music as much as the next person but leave that for our trip to the music festivals Grin

maddening · 26/05/2013 18:43

Go round when all is quiet and explain calmly your issues - including banging on the fence and chucking stuff over the fence. Log what is said and their response. Give them a couple of weeks to address this.

If they were pleasant on your visit/complaint but the issye continues then approach them again. If they were unpleasant/aggressive and the noise /issues continue then go to environmental health.

Keep a diary from your first complaint detailing the complaint and their response and subsequent issues. Include the type of noise, duration and it's impact on you.

maddening · 26/05/2013 18:44

Oh and times of the issues