AIBU to feel a little weird that friend is using same name as my ds?

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Friend's ds due on Friday and when we met last week she told me she would be calling her ds the same name as my ds. Ds's will be 4 months apart.

Friend was very honest and said she just liked the name when I called my ds the name. Hadn't considered it before.

I just said "oh right, very nice" as I couldn't say much else!

I know AI(prob)BU but I just feel a little surprised that there were no other names she liked!

Hand me a grip

I can't believe that the majority of people are saying you are not being unreasonable! I think YABU-it's a name, anyone could use it, yes she heard it on your child and it made her consider it-but everyone hears names somewhere. Parents have right to call their child their favourite name.

I was friends through pregnancy with someone. She was due just weeks before me. Had told her my favourite boys name and when I phoned her to see what the baby was, they had named him the name we had chosen if we were to have a boy. I did feel a bit strange and thought we should perhaps pick another name bt then thought nope, still love it. We were friends for a the first year and then she moved away and never say her again

It surprises me reading through this thread how many people disclose their preferred name to others before dc is born. We never told anyone - to me it feels like a really private precious thing that I wouldn't want to share until 'officially' announcing baby's name.

I agree, you shouldn't really be influenced by friends and family's 'names'. The most important thing is that you call your children what you want to. I would certainly be keeping it secret though.

YANBU, that's exactly how I imagined I would feel if the same thing happened to me. Then it did happen to me - close friend asked if I would mind me calling her DD the same first and second name as my DD - and actually I didn't mind at all :)

When I was pregnant with DD we chose a boy's name and a girl's name. We chose them because we liked them.

When DD was born and we announced the name I suddenly realised we had chosen the same name as my dad's partner's daughter (DPD for short!). I hadn't realised before as DPD uses a diminutive of the name. I was a bit worried at first but DPD jokes about how fab she is that we named DD after her...

A name is a personal thing and I don't think peolpe can baggsy names. Soemtimes you hear a name and it just sounds like one you would use. That happened with DS' name which is very unusual in the UK but not so unusual in the states and Europe. If someone else heard it and wanted to use it then so what?

If someone used dd1s name good for them, it was very popular in her year - i've met around 8 children with it - but if someone used her spelling (french of an irish name) i'd bloody rage

Imo yanbu as she has 'admitted' to using the name because you are - it's a bit weird.

dfriend and i have discussed and 'swapped' baby names but i don't think we'd ever use 'each others' name choices