OK,
She arrived home, about to poo explode and be sick having driven through winding single track lanes, lots of reversing, jumped out of the car, leaving the door open luckily, noticed the people and vehicles, ran into the house,just made it to the downstairs loo, sat on the loo, was sick all over the floor, and her clothes,
as she stood up and open the window because of smell to try and stop the gagging, she cold hear her MiL telling someone to hurry up,
decided to leave sick on floor, went out, realised a woman (who later turned out to be fronting for someone else (nasty piece of work,who friend hated)who wanted the horse) was on her horse, asked what was going on, at this point she thought it odd, but was being nice,
her mother tried to make her go inside, and told her not to make a fuss, her MiL turned her back on her, and started to apologise to the woman on the horse,
Friend demanded explanations, was told it was for her own good she hadn't done her self, so everyone else had to do it for her,
friend realising they were actually selling her horse, went ape, was sick again in the middle of shouting, mother and MiL, told her she was being selfish to unborn baby,
woman was leading horse towards horse box, friend attempted to go to horse, whist telling woman, and mothers to, "get off my land"(she later realised how that sounded, joke expression down here), woman ignored her, then pushed her away hard,
Her mother, screamed at her, and her MiL attempted to drag her away from distressed horse, she was told she was ridiculous, irresponsible a stupid general abuse.
she ran back to car,pursued by mother, just managed to get in, drove her car into gateway, parked and locked it, got out other side as mother was banging on the window, went into house, was sick all over the floor, needed loo, phoned husband in panic on house phone while on the loo and crying,
he had a go at her for being at home and making it even more difficult, at which point she realised he had known, he had even told her to go to work when she was feeling rough that morning, told her she was being pathetic not going, it was only pregnancy.
her mother came in the house took phone from her, told husband she was being evil, and tried to take car keys out of her hand,
she went and shut herself in the loo, had another shit, slid on sick, hurt her back on basin (still has problems now), went into the kitchen phoned the police, then phoned a friend who lived nearby, put keys in oven, had problems making herself understood sobbing so much, gave address, explained people were trying to take her horse, and she was hurt,
went out again, MiL decided to drag her by the wrists, woman trying to box horse, hadn't even got saddle off, horse was very unhappy she was using a crop on horse (friend never did) she shook MiL off, went over to woman's car, took her car keys out started to walk off, woman came over grabbed her shoulder, twisted her arm, took keys, called her a twat,
friend walked off, mother demanded to know where her car keys were, called her a class A bitch, selfish madam, and many other things,
She went into the house, went in the bedroom, pulled chest of drawers over behind the door, mother tried to get in screaming abuse.
told mother to fuck off, and the police were coming, her mother left, about twenty minutes later police turned up, mother and MiL tried to send them away, saying it was just a silly misunderstanding, nearby friend turned up, mothers tried to make her go, she told the police that the mothers were bullies, and stood her ground, got abused,
police insisted on seeing friend luckily, policeman had to climb in bedroom window(bungalow) as she was in such a state she couldn't lift stuff from behind door,
both mothers ended up with a caution, woman got away with it, despite causing friend damage, husband who had been there when a vet came to do inspection, took the moral high ground that she had got his stuck up mother in trouble with the police, he got dumped for a while, she had him back when the baby was three months old (both him and mothers turned up at hospital when she was giving birth four days later and made a huge fuss to try and get in), they were tipped off by a member of staff(so wrong,she never got into trouble for it either), that she had gone into early labour. the whole time he was guilt tripping her into having him back he was shagging a 18 year old, a woman he worked with and visiting a prostitutes in Plymouth, she only found out a year later when he left her.
he continued to a prize shit, she finally split with him when she was pregnant with her second he really pressurised her into having another, and he waited until she was past the termination point, emptied the joint bank accounts, her bank account, took out several credit cards in joint names, ran them up, and declared he had being having an affair, and he was leaving, turned out he had had a lot of affaires, shagged everything, she had to have STD checks, he visited a lot of prostitutes and charged it to their joint account, he told her that it served her right.
she had to pay him a lot of fuck off money,(the house and land were hers before she even met him), he also stole all her jewellery, one piece which remerged on a future wife (ten years later), the only piece she ever got back, mostly her grandmother's (father side)
She had a horrendous couple of years, juggling babies and trying to keep her businesses going, she got back to doing her beloved dressage, still has her horse (she had breed him and had the mother and several siblings) she had the time it happened, several other horses, some out on loan with friends, and some off in breeding programs,
she has lived for the last 16 years with a very very nice man (had one baby with), still has nothing to do with her mother, it was almost the last toxic thing she allowed to happen(mother phoned SS to report her as an unfit mother a few times, so had them pitch up), very nice children who are both at uni now, and have almost nothing to do with their father, he had access throughout their childhood, he loved taking her to court all the time, but now they are adults they have worked out for themselves how shallow he it,
He has had three marriages all to women much more wealthy than him, two children from each marriage, he has cheated on all of them, he is at the moment dating another wealthy woman, and has yet again reinvented himself, this time as a therapist, was teacher, he has been many many things.
I and others have recognised his second wife on here a couple of times, she has a distinctive set of circumstances, she is the one the jewellery turned up on, and told the police she bought it in an antiques market, photo proved otherwise.
they as a group decided she was 'mad' to want horses and babies, tried to get her to see "reason" , when she laughed them off (she had help, as she rented out livery space, so it wasn't an issue), they went behind her back, when she caught them, they tried to get the help (police) she summoned, to think she was a "mentallist" (their word), they had also all pressurised her into getting married when pregnant,
they also tried to remove her friends support group we all got a call or two telling us to stay away, they also tried to convince her doctor that she had MH problems,
Shame there wasn't MN in 1995, she really needed it, I will mention to her I wrote this, there were so many other parts to this, but it would fill a book.
So many people think of him as a nice guy, who is so unlucky with women, he's a twonk, who hits women, steals, hits children, worst thing is he works with children, for some reason he has never been done enough to not pass his checks.
. They were not that sensible about it but they meant well. I feel sorry for your DH. 