Inlaws threw away my kettle

[ZenGardener]

I had to go away for work so my inlaws came to stay to watch the kids which was very nice of them BUT I came back and they have bought a new kettle and toaster. I'm not bothered about the toaster but I'm fucking fuming about the kettle. They have taken the old ones away with them.

There was nothing wrong with my kettle, it was old but perfectly fine. They bought a fancy smancy one. I don't need a fancy kettle, I just need something to boil water.

I appreciate I'm tired, pregnant and have a headache but isn't that really rude?

[MousyMouse]

jins use it as a flower pot for some nettles and give it back as a gift?

[SgtTJCalhoun]

sarah

What was the reasoning behind it may I ask?

[enormouse]

Sarah why on earth did they sell the dog??!?

[Circaea]

I thought kettles just boiled water (with one setting ie boiling). How naive was I?

OP I'd be disturbed as well. Couldn't they just SAY they thought you needed a new kettle and give you one as a present? Weird and somewhat invasive to just replace things in your house while you're not there.

It is kind of funny though. And now you have lovely new towels ...

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

I can understand your irritation - I would feel the same way - but take a deep breath and try to be ... zen about it

[MousyMouse]

about selling the dog.

it reminds me of a huge row I had with my mother. she wanted to give us a woo-waterfilter for our wedding. (it was a huge thing that used light and a prayer don't ask! to purify water)
she announced that that will be our gift. we kindly declined. she anyway lugged it a thousand miles to give it to us. we said they will either take it back with them or we will bin it. I think my brother has it now.

[Circaea]

Sarah I'm glad the dog won, that's what would happen in our house as well. On what planet do they live where that kind of thing is acceptable??

[poppycock6]

Yanbu. This sounds like something my in-laws would have done when dh and I got married. They were really interfering although well meaning. Mil tried to organise a choir for our wedding as a 'surprise' even though I'd told her we didn't want one. One of many incidents! I think some IL's think they know best and like to impose their ways on the younger generation.

[ZenGardener]

No, the cat is still here at least!!

They don't know I'm pregnant yet or they probably would have done something to him as well.

By lovely towels, do you mean 'lovely' towels?

Actually I could buy them mugs. They only have tea cups which drives me crazy when we stay.

I could get them huge mugs!! It will annoy them no end!

[WafflyVersatile]

When at my parents my SIL politely complimented them on the little 'radiator shelves' my dad had made and put up. a few weeks later she came home, and phoned my brother 'DH, someone has broken in and installed radiator shelves...'

So when my sister moved into her house she avoided giving dad spare keys but the first time she left him in the house doing a little job she came back and he said ''oh, I nipped out and got a copy of your keys made so I can let myself in from now on! ''

[ZenGardener]

Just noticed the new clothes pegs.

Arghhg!!!

The biggest mugs known to mankind.

Breathe! Breathe!

[DontWannaBeObamasElf]

When we moved into our house the in-laws brought over their old kettle to give us. When we said thanks but no thanks as it was older than ours they just left it for us to dispose of. They have to drive past the tip to get home.

YANBU.

[SarahAndFuck]

They had several reasons, dogs are dirty, dogs attack babies, I wouldn't need a dog once I had a baby because I would be "a real mother now and wouldn't have to pretend to be one with a dog" . They said there are always stories in the news about dogs attacking children and that I would be so busy with a baby I wouldn't have time to look after a dog.

I told them that children living in houses with pets are healthier and that they and their friends would have to find someone else's dog to steal if they wanted one that badly.

Dog is a Scottish Terrier, very friendly, and would sit by the fence allowing next doors toddler to yank on her eyebrows and shout "look...kitty!" at her for ages without even a murmur of protest. I had no worries at all that she wouldn't be good with a baby.

DS is four now and dog has never so much as scratched him by accident. They are cuddled up together right now sharing a bag of biscuits they think I don't know they've got.

[Jins]

Definitely get them mugs and take their teacups away with you

[WafflyVersatile]

are they the same clothes pegs they have?

Is there any way at all that flowery towels would fit in with the rest of your decor?

It is a bit rude, if born of good intentions. But they must see that the towels you have are not like that and it's a bit arrogant to press an obviously differing aesthetic onto you.

i'm getting a bit affronted on your behalf now.

[Dontwanttobeyourmonkeywrench]

Are the IL Japanese? I only ask because this is something my aunts would do. Thank god DF is not remotely interested in replacing things when he could gather them instead

[RenterNomad]

My mother has bought a kettle, as well as cutlery and some other more gift-appropriate things. MIL brings food whenever she comes here (doing it today, in fact).

It's 'cos they don't trust the feckless younger generation! We have weird taste, and some of us flirt with non-consumerism motivated either by environmentalism or expensive tastes!

Hear their heads exploding? That's why they're called Baby Boomers!