Inlaws threw away my kettle

[ZenGardener]

I had to go away for work so my inlaws came to stay to watch the kids which was very nice of them BUT I came back and they have bought a new kettle and toaster. I'm not bothered about the toaster but I'm fucking fuming about the kettle. They have taken the old ones away with them.

There was nothing wrong with my kettle, it was old but perfectly fine. They bought a fancy smancy one. I don't need a fancy kettle, I just need something to boil water.

I appreciate I'm tired, pregnant and have a headache but isn't that really rude?

Or you could ring them up and shout at them. How very dare they try to do something nice for you?

I came home from work once and my FIL had fitted new carpet in our living room for us. It was wonderful.

Not being able to work a kettle is the worse case of pregnancy brain I have ever heard of!!!!!!!!

Ring them up and ask if they left them by mistake ? How odd and controlling not to ask first

I wouldn't be bothered by the kettle but the towels would be returned.

If you let one pastel flowery towel pass then people think you like them.

you cant work a kettle??? how difficult is it

Can they come and stay at mine for a while ?

Here's a list to make it easier for them:

I need:

New microwave - old one is all rusted in corners inside from me not cleaning it thoroughly enough

New blender - one of the whisk things keeps flying off and frightening the dog ( till he regroups and realises he's covered in delicious cake mix. )

New matching Tea Coffee Sugar containers - old matching ones have a dented lid on one and if you put the dented one on the Tea one it screws round to the back so doesn't matter. But if you put it on the Sugar one it ends up at the front. But if you swap the Coffee and..........oh never mind, just get me new ones ffs ok!!

We are going away in July - hope that suits ok.

They were just being nice. I would invite them to stay again and give them a shopping list

We live in Japan. It has 6 buttons on it. I found the 'lock' button now so can get it to open. Not sure what all the other buttons are for.

Do you need some lovely pastel flowery towels too? Don't worry none of them match ;)

Maybe next time I visit them I will sneakily replace their kettle and steal their old one.

That would piss them off SO much!!

A kettle with SIX buttons

That's not just any old kettle!

You can have two many flowery pastel towels. One for example.

Ohh, it's got a 'hold temp' button. That would actually be useful.

I'm pretty firm with mil about the shite she feels the need to fill my house with and it always goes back with her in the car.

If I'm not in and she leaves it then I bin it.

My house is a long way from how I'd like it and its not helped by truckloads of stuff I don't want or need arriving.

Whoa! For £190 you can have 7 buttons. See this 7 button'er on Amazon

7 buttons!

Photos of towels needed I feel?

Sorry op but this thread has made me laugh.

Especially when you just discovered the towels.

I bet they mean well so bite back but agree it is controlling.

How can you not work a kettle?

You are being ungrateful but you know that, you don't have to use the towels and do ask where the old kettle is saying that you need a spare?

No it's not nice. It's controlling. "Thid is what WE like and we want here when we come to visit because you're getting it all wrong with YOUR choice of kettle and toaster."

I probably wouldn't say anything, would be happy with a nice new kettle and toaster but that would be why my in laws would have done it.

YANBU. Definitely too forward and overstepping the mark.

If they wanted to say thank you they could have given you wine/chocolate/flowers.

Buying you household stuff does give the message "we didn't think your kettle/towels" were good enough - so yes it's rude. Double points for impoliteness for throwing away something of yours without asking!

I wonder what their reaction would be if you replaced their saucepans/tea towels/cushions next time you visited them

If you really want to kick up a fuss, the small print on that kettle states:

"This product contains chemicals known to the State of California to cause cancer and birth defects or other reproductive harm."
(From the review of the bottom of that Ask.com page)

Do they know this? Are they telling you to not have any more children!

My in-laws sold my dog when I was pregnant.

They had a friend all set to drive 300 miles to come and take her away.

There was rage you have never seen the like of before in our house that afternoon.

We still have the dog. But I've ditched the in-laws.

I quite like the sound of your kettle, but I can see why you aren't happy about them replacing yours.

Last week I found a china mug with a picture of a cute Yorkshire terrier in with the rest of my mugs. It can only have originated from one place.

Now I have a shortage of space for mugs and this one is vile. Should I keep it because its polite and mil meant well or should I chuck it?

What I should have done was give it back to her but that would mean seeing her so the bin it was.

Flowery towels are the same. How much space does anyone have to store things they don't want but are keeping to be polite?