Inlaws threw away my kettle

[ZenGardener]

I had to go away for work so my inlaws came to stay to watch the kids which was very nice of them BUT I came back and they have bought a new kettle and toaster. I'm not bothered about the toaster but I'm fucking fuming about the kettle. They have taken the old ones away with them.

There was nothing wrong with my kettle, it was old but perfectly fine. They bought a fancy smancy one. I don't need a fancy kettle, I just need something to boil water.

I appreciate I'm tired, pregnant and have a headache but isn't that really rude?

[HotSoupDumpling]

riffy, we're straying from the subject, but haha!

I've done the verbal human version of a nip at my own MIL's overbearing ways (a stern word via phone call, which made me feel like a bitch. Pun intended.). It worked a bit, although I now get passive aggressive comments about how 'fastidious' and sensitive I am.

Maybe I should've done an actual bitey nip...

[pumpkinsweetie]

I think it's rather lovely tbh, wish my ils would be so thoughtful!

[ZZZenagain]

wow the clothes line too, it is a bit creepy going round your house and finding things are not as they should be. It is not petty to buy a kettle you want. It is a shame they wasted money on it but it is not the end of the world.

[RiffyWammal]

My DM is obsessed with microfibre too! But I have to admit it's fab, especially for cleaning windows and mirrors. And it means I don't use polish, window cleaner etc at all anymore.

The can opener story has reminded me of something else. She once brought me her old saucepan, because 'it keeps tipping over on the hob dangerously'. I have the same kind of hob.

[OrlaKiely]

You need to go and stay at theirs

and while you're there, buy them a kettle like your old one

and the same toaster

and cups and towels

[quoteunquote]

Deep plum machine dye will sort the towels out, I do that to any horrible ones I get landed with.

My best mate is Japanese, her mother does this stuff to her all the time, while complaining her mother does it to her.

I know someone who came home unexpectedly from work, because she was feel ill, late pregnancy, to find a woman riding her horse round the menage, and a vehicle with a horse box, her mother and MiL, along with her husband's knowledge had conspired to sell her horse. This woman was back to buy having had a test ride the previous week, that didn't end well.

[DontmindifIdo]

Nothing wrong with replacing the kettle - just do it, tell DH you will keep doing this if the replace your kettle again.

Re towels, take them all out of the bathroom, replace with your old ones that you like and aren't made of crap bag up and ask DH what he'd like you to do with them, return them to PIL saying thank you, but you won't use them, or would he prefer you just put them in the bin/take to a charity shop? Go through all the other changes, do the same.

As others have said, this is about taking over your space. Best do this now, or you'll end up with a house full of stuff just like PILs that you do'nt want but can't replace because it was a gift.

[ZenGardener]

I just can't touch microfiber. It gives me the willies.

I'm just too worn out now.

Dh works away during the week so I will try and get a good night's sleep and have a shopping trip on Monday.

The things I'm still mad about I will chuck in the shed.

We only see them once a year so not a big problem. They won't ask about it, they will just assume I am thrilled. I won't let them come and stay again. Weirdos!!!

[ScrambledSmegs]

Hmm. But it's only thoughtful if they take into account your own requirements and taste. Otherwise it's a not-so-subtle way of saying that they think your stuff/taste is shit and theirs is better.

[schoolgovernor]

Quoteunquote - her DH conspired to sell her horse without her knowledge? Imagine coming home from work and finding your loved horse gone. That would be a LTB moment in my book. That would get rid of MIL but goodness knows what would be done about Mother!

[GeekLove]

Selling the horse!? That would top selling the dog!
So what did happen?

[RemindMeWhatSleepIs]

Selling the horse!!!

[VisualiseAHorse]

The towels will come in handy for 'nappy free' time :)

[ZZZenagain]

gobsmacked at selling dogs and horses behind your back! Whoa that would unleash my inner amazon

[SilverOldie]

This is a bit spooky, I think they are trying to clone you to be like them. Next time you visit, check your wardrobe, it will probably be full of duplicates of MIL's clothes .

[DontmindifIdo]

oh just bin it all! Why take up valuable storage space storing crap you don't want and won't use?

[Fairylea]

Reminds me a little bit of the moment in sleeping with the enemy where she opens the cupboard and all the tins are lined up as her husband liked them... ! Eek!

[cantbloodywellchoose]

That is a bit weird but I'd prob let it go tbh

[jidelgin]

YANBU they should jam the new kettle up their collective jaxy.
My kett-lee-oh! is old and marked and weird but it boils water just fine and needs no replacing.Their rampant consumerism is freaky!
I hear you sister girl!

[lljkk]

Cultural thing, isn't it? To be so interfering.
And also to think new stuff = better, too, maybe?
Would have cheesed me off, too.
You MUST be more direct with them next time about not touching your things. Say you are sentimentally attached to everything. Make sure this message gets put to them twice (once by you, once by your DH) in the fortnight before their next visit.

[starfishmummy]

We came back from a holiday to find that the plants in the tubs in my front garden had gone.
Mil had decided to come round and weed them. This was pre- meditated as she either caught two buses each way with gardening tools or got fil to bring her. We didn't say anything and eventually she asked if we liked them. I said no as all of my herbs and ornamental grasses had disappeared. Cue the arrival of a few supermarket growing herbs and a straggly bit of mint in place of my established plants.

[tabulahrasa]

Did anyone else read the review of the 7 button kettle IKnowWhat posted? 7 button'er on Amazon

I feel like there's some weird parallel universe of kettle buyers out there which I was completely ignorant of...

"I am relatively new to the tea scene (my wife and I started drinking Teavana teas about a year ago) and as such I have been searching for a really good kettle. I wanted an electric kettle because of their ease of use as well as the extra features some of the nicer kettles offer. After an exhaustive search I decided upon the Breville SK500XL Ikon Stainless-Steel Electric Kettle"

"After you are done boiling water for the day, you need to either dry out the lid by hand or leave the lid open for a few hours to let the water evaporate (from the lid where it collects). I am concerned that not doing this might lead to issues down the road."

They then carry on updating for 4 years! and, and, they use it once a week or more and it breaks after 4 years, it was £190!

I've got an Asda one, it cost a tenner, it, boils water and nothing else and it's at least 7 years old and I use it several times a day and have never wiped it down after I'm done boiling water for the day, rofl.

[AmberLeaf]

Microfiber is disgusting, for objecting to that alone YANBU.

A microfiber cloth is bad enough, but to have one for your whole body is just bleugh.

[SavoyCabbage]

I've got that kettle.

Press the 100 degrees button.
Then press start.
From then on you only have to press start and it will boil to 100 degrees each time.

[Badgerwife]

It's weird imo. I'm sure your in-laws had the best intentions in the world but I'd find them replacing stuff in my home rude and presumptuous none the less.