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to ask for positive pnd outcome stories?

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CailinDana · 22/05/2013 16:41

Have finally admitted i have pnd. I've had depression before so i know i have a slow road to recovery ahead. I would so appreciate anyone else's stories of how they overcame pnd. I need some reassurance at the moment.

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Apparentlychilled · 07/06/2013 16:05

How are you today Cailin?

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CailinDana · 07/06/2013 18:11

Tired but ok. Busy day which is good, it makes the time pass.

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Apparentlychilled · 07/06/2013 19:30

I'm so glad to hear that. You sound so much brighter than when you started this thread.

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CailinDana · 07/06/2013 20:11

Definitely. And that's due partly to you guys. I am so grateful for the support you've given me.

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Apparentlychilled · 07/06/2013 20:50

I'm so glad to have been able to play a part in that, sweetheart.

Wheresthecoffee · 08/06/2013 15:15

That's lovely to hear, I'm pleased we could help a little Smile

Apparentlychilled · 08/06/2013 19:53

And we'll still be here on good and bad days, Cailin, so please don't feel like you can't come back, just cos things aren't as bad as they were.

flippinada · 08/06/2013 20:06

I'm going by no news is good news..in the nicest possible way!

Really glad the fog is starting to lift.

P.S...my baby days are long past but I wasn't keen on them either.

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CailinDana · 08/06/2013 21:24

Thank you so much guys. Inlaws came over today and we had a bbq. Was a bit stressful as dd was in bad form to begin with and i still can't help feeling like a failure when i can't stop her crying. She calmed down after a while though and we ended up having a lovely day. They wanted us to go for a drive tomorrow but dd is terrible in the car so i said no i'm not up for that yet. They have a tendency to railroad us into things so i'm glad i put my foot down.

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Apparentlychilled · 08/06/2013 21:46

Well done you for coping w DD being unsettled at first and for doing what's right for you tomorrow. That's brilliant!

I hope I didn't sound too negative in my post earlier- I just wanted to offer continued support.

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CailinDana · 08/06/2013 21:50

No, no i really appreciate you still being around. I'm totally aware that i'm not out of the woods entirely yet so it's great to know i still have a place to go to vent if i need to.

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Apparentlychilled · 08/06/2013 21:54

Oh good, I'm glad it came across the right way- my overriding memory of pnd is loneliness, even sometimes when I was "better", or feeling better than before. So happy to be here as and when, sweetheart.

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CailinDana · 08/06/2013 21:58

Thank you so much it really has been a huge help to me Flowers

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CailinDana · 10/06/2013 08:47

Not feeling great today. Stressed.

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Apparentlychilled · 10/06/2013 09:42

That's OK- we all have bad days, and it doesn't mean you're going all the way back. Can you plan to get out and spend time w friends? Did you have a bad night?

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CailinDana · 10/06/2013 12:32

Yeah didn't get much sleep. Have an appt with the psychiatrist later which means a stressful trip to the hospital. I feel that defeated feeling again.

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Apparentlychilled · 10/06/2013 12:44

lack of sleep makes everything so much worse, so maybe try to tell yourself you just need to get through the day today (even if that means junk food and cbeebies to help keep children amused).

The defeated feeling WILL NOT last forever, I promise. Can you give yourself loads and loads of time to get to hospital? I've found been rushed on time makes me panicked and makes everything feel worse (though my natural inclination is to rush about trying to do 100 things in the time which should take to do about 80 things, giving myself a heart attack in the process). And just say to yourself that the psychiatrist WILL be able to help, and that it will be worth the hassle of getting there?

Apparentlychilled · 10/06/2013 18:07

How did the psychiatrist go today, Cailin?

flippinada · 10/06/2013 18:27

I hope the psychiatrist visit went ok and that you found it helpful.

I think it very much depends on who you get but mine was really good. It was like, here is someone who just gets it. The sheer relief of knowing that someone understood and I wasn't this horrible, awful, freak.

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CailinDana · 10/06/2013 20:17

Psych visit was totally pointless - just "how are the meds, ok up the dose" and that was it basically. Dd really unsettled again this evening so another bad night ahead i think.

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Apparentlychilled · 10/06/2013 20:24

If DD isn't in great form, cd DH take over for a bit so you cd sleep this evening in case tonight is bad?

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CailinDana · 10/06/2013 20:31

Nope, she'll go ballistic if i hand her over and i won't sleep for her screaming. It's mummy or nothing these days. I can manage, just a bit fed up.

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flippinada · 10/06/2013 21:15

Poor you, I'm not surprised you're feeling fed up.

Wheresthecoffee · 11/06/2013 09:51

Morning Cailin, how did DD settle last night? That's such a shame about the psych meeting, what a disappointment for you. There is help out there, it just well hidden takes a bit of digging to find the right one for you.

Have you spoken to your GP about a referral for CBT? This is one of the the most effective talking therapies for Pnd. I was offered zero help from the Nhs (except medication) but have found private CBT therapy incredibly effective. I was very sceptical to begin with, I didn't expect anything to really work but I'm about to finish my sessions (started in Feb). It sounds like you've had a few successes over the last few days..hold on to those and how you felt Smile

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CailinDana · 11/06/2013 11:20

Again thank you so much for your support. We had a slightly better night last night. Dh is off from tomorrow till monday so i'm going to take every opportunity to catch up on sleep. Took dd out in the car this morning while ds is at playgroup. She screamed for a while then fell asleep so i went shopping for a short while. Stupidly proud of myself.

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