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not to cook dinner for dh?

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AmberSocks · 21/05/2013 22:20

dh has been on at me for ages to cut his hair,i really dont want to,im not a hair dresser although ive done it a couple of times before and its looked ok,it was only by chance i think.he wont go to the hairdresser because he says he hates having to make conversation with them.....,hes very anti social.

tonight he came dwnstairs and he had shaved his head,grade 8 on top and 4 underneath and told me now he had done that i had to tidy it up,he has a big meeting tomorrow,i was annoyed bt had a go,it took ages,the kids were still up and needed to go to bed and me and dh still hadnt eaten,this was at about 8.30,i couldnt get it to look right so i gave up and he put the kids to bed while i hoovered up the 5 tonnes of black hair allover downstairs.

when he came down he said whats for dinner,i told him what we have but said i didnt fancy cooking as im tired now(also pregnant)so either he makes dinner or just make himself something quick(was 9.30 now)he was really annoyed and said he couldnt believe it and said it hit a new low(no idea what he means)and said im selfish.

i dont think iabu,but am i?

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Finola1step · 21/05/2013 22:22

He's taking the piss. Sorry.


hellonewworld · 21/05/2013 22:23

No. It's one night, if he wants something to eat he can make it himself. If he wanted to eat he should of joined the family meal.


BriansBrain · 21/05/2013 22:23


You are selfish? He decides to have a haircut at 8.30 that requires you to help and then clean up and then cook his dinner.

Would he like to drag you around by the hair sporting a club whilst shouting ugg and looking for a dinosaur for you to cook??


Finola1step · 21/05/2013 22:23

Oh and YADNBU. Make sure you have something to eat yourself though.


pictish · 21/05/2013 22:24

No you're not.


BlackeyedSusan · 21/05/2013 22:25


he is right about the new low. he hit the new low. hope you are now fast asleep.


Earthworms · 21/05/2013 22:27

What a knobber.


WandaDoff · 21/05/2013 22:28


He on the other hand is a cunt.


AudrinaAdare · 21/05/2013 22:31

What a fucking twat. YANBU Angry


ArgyMargy · 21/05/2013 22:34

I think we all agree YANBU. End of.


CookieLady · 21/05/2013 22:36

What a prick.


AmberSocks · 21/05/2013 22:47

thanks!he actually said "if you put this on mumsnet i bet they would all tell you im right!" he always says that,hes heard of mumsnet and was a bit Hmm when i started coming on here.

Not sure it will change anything but thanks for reassuring me Smile

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HansieMom · 21/05/2013 22:51

Tell him to be a big boy and go to hairdresser. Although he may have to at this point!


McNewPants2013 · 21/05/2013 22:54

Isn't he able to cook for himself.

If he is reading this your wife is not your personal slave, do you expect her to do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare ect. Get off your ass and stop acting like a man child.


HairyWorm · 21/05/2013 23:06

Make yourself something nice and give him fuck all just to make the point nice and clear.
What a twat!


StuntGirl · 22/05/2013 01:06

I don't understand...if my partner had made a dog's dinner of his hair because he refused to go to the hairdressers I most certainly wouldn't be 'tidying it up' for him - I'd tell him to sort it out himself. If that means shaving the whole lot off, well, he won't make the same mistake again.

I certainly wouldn't prioritise it over cooking the family meal or sorting the children out.

And I sure as hell wouldn't cook him dinner now. I'd fix myself a snack and tell him to sort himself out. And not to be so frigging selfish in future.


Apileofballyhoo · 22/05/2013 01:41

Flowers for you OP.


Toadinthehole · 22/05/2013 01:53

Serve him his hair.


Longdistance · 22/05/2013 02:00

Is he 5? Hmm


Longdistance · 22/05/2013 02:04

Mr. Amber, go make your own fucking dinner, you lazy toad don't choke on it

Your wife's day hasn't ended like yours did at 5pm, so wind your neck in.

She's not selfish, YOU are!

Sorry op, Angry on you behalf.


Darkesteyes · 22/05/2013 02:32

What a sexist entitled git. I like Toads suggestion.


Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 22/05/2013 02:37

Why did you try and sort out his hair right there and then, when there were tired kids to be put to bed and nobody had had dinner?

Are you used to dropping everything and doing what he says when he says it, OP?


AmberSocks · 22/05/2013 08:17

the kids had had dinner,they have it about 5,he gets home at 6 so we have ours later,kids are all still under 6 so cant seem to wait that long yet,they are always staring after school/nursery.

i did say at least wait til the kids have gone to bed so he did putdc2 to bed but there were still dc1-5,dc3-3 and dc4-7 months up,they needed to got to bed really,he makes a fuss if i try to do a proper bedtime routine with them,says they should be able to stay up to whenever they want to.

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AmberSocks · 22/05/2013 08:18

saying that they are in bed by 8-8.30 most nights.

reading some of these comments has made me think about the way he treats me,and the things he expects me to do.

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DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper · 22/05/2013 08:22

Jesus Christ, threads like the depress me.

What happens in a person's life that they end up with a toad like this, and accept it? :(

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