AIBU to be fed up with make up girl on train?

[Finola1step]

I commute in and out of London daily. I am now very used to seeing women every morning applying a full face on their way to work. I don't do this myself as I like to do my prep in privacy at home.

But.. I am sat next to a young woman with a caked on face who has whipped out the baby wipes. She has wiped off all the make up (before wiping her face on her jumper the dirty moo!) and is now reapplying. The whole lot! With dirty hands! Why?

What do I not get here? Would I be unreasonable to ask her why she thinks this is ok? Am I being a judgey old cow?

I think it detracts from the mystery of a woman's makeup. I would never want anyone to know what I wear on my face.

Oh thanks for that, I genuinely just snorted. Tea everywhere now.

I've learnt some of my best make up skills from watching folk on the train. I find it far less rude than loud phone conversations or cheese and onion crisps.

I would draw the line at someone getting their Ped-Egg out.

I once sat opposite someone on a bus who was cutting and filing her nails. Hands and then - I kid you not - toes. The clippings were flying everywhere. Eurgh!

I hate feet.

Even my own.

Am I the only one who doesn't think it really matters to anyone else other than her? Would rather see someone doing that than watching mine and my son's every move to try and find something to criticise as some people on my bus seem to do lol! and I do this too when I haven't had time at home if the kids weren't cooperating or I just woke up late. Sorry but I think you are being unreasonable yes.

No you are not the only one who thinks it doesn't matter.

I know modern life is all about pretending everyone else doesn't exist. Blank faces passing each other in the street, everyone ignoring everyone else. It's an illusion though - other people do exist and we do see what they're doing and how they behave.

What's wrong with eating a banana? Smelly hamburgers I could understand

Get a good book and read it on the train - you won't notice anyone or what they're doing unless they're being noisy about it.

DebsMorgan,

I'm afraid I am a bit of a starer. I don't realise I am doing it most of the time. Sorry.

If I put make up on on the train I do it in the loo on a few mins. If I take or make a phone call I go to the end of the carriage. I'm not in private, I'm in shared space, so good manners matter. It's gross to perform intimate tasks in public, it 'Colonises' the shared space, which is why its rude.

Its not an intimate task though, is it, its not like she's wiping her arse.

I love to watch people put on makeup; especially fascinating was the fellow I got to watch apply foundation, mascara and lipstick on the bus. that was a great day!

I think you need to start reading a book or something on the train. Christ.

I already suggested that, and it was ignored.

Probably because it's a sensible suggestion and she just wants to bitch about irrelevant things instead!

Yes most likely.

It might be disgusting if she was applying lipstick to her fanny flaps, and eyeliner to her arse crack, but a face?!

(No, I don't personally apply makeup on the bus or train, I can do a full face of make-up in 6 minutes, including time to tweeze my eyebrows, and I wouldn't personally leave the house without my slap already done. Not even in an ambulance...)

But irrespective of the fact that I personally don't do it, I am totally failing to see what is so disgusting about it. It's no different from someone sitting there with a box of Snazaroo face paints and painting their 3yo to look like Spider-Man - I can't see that anyone would get their knickers in a knot about that, and I can't see the difference, except different colours...

And if I stare, it's only because I like her eyeshadow colour, or lipstick, and am picking the right moment to ask which shade and brand it is, without her poking herself in the eye or something, so not staring for Judgy reasons, but for complimentary reasons!

It feels voyeuristic. (But then so does watching somebody sleeping on the train.)

Oooo that's a point. I do sometimes all the time fall asleep on trains. Is that classed as an intimate task? Am I a "minger" for doing that?!

I can't understand why females do what should be a private act in the public, it's so demeaning and they obviously have no pride in themselves.

I frequently apply my make up on the bus in the morning as I'm not a morning person and the though of getting up 20 mins earlier just to do make up is not appealing. I find it passes the travel time quite nicely. I do admit that the skin around my eyes isn't as firm as it one was and a shaky bus can sometimes cause a wipe of and reapply situation with the eyeliner. If I get some eyeliner or mascara on my hands by accident thenI wash it off when I get into work and have access to soap and water. I didn't realise this sort of thing annoyed people. I would have thought stupidly loud music you can hear from someone's headphones or when people have the volume switched on when playing games on their phone would be more annoying.

I'm seriously bemused by this.

Why is putting on a bit I make-up such an intimate and private act?

Faces aren't rude, it's perfectly acceptable show them in public, with or without make-up. I just don't get it