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to expect a nursery to cater for my childs needs?

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 20:53

My DD1 goes to a pre prep department of a local prep school. She's quite a bright lass but how much can I expect them to cater for her individual learning needs, even though they say that it isn't what they do?

I'm stuck becuase I don't want to come over as pushy parent but I've got a very unhappy bored little girl on my hands! I understand that as she is only 3 it isn't school as such and they aren't obligated to 'teach' her.

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LindyHemming · 20/05/2013 20:55

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 20:56

3 days

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BoundandRebound · 20/05/2013 20:58

What do you mean bored?

Joiningthegang · 20/05/2013 20:58

What would you like them to teach her?

Is she unhappy there or at home?

crashdoll · 20/05/2013 20:59

Three year olds don't really need teaching. They learn mostly through play. I'd be worried if they were teaching her.

Purpletots · 20/05/2013 20:59

How do you know he's bored here?

Purpletots · 20/05/2013 20:59

She's (sorry!)

Shakey1500 · 20/05/2013 21:00

What do you think they should be doing?

TheSurgeonsMate · 20/05/2013 21:04

That sounds unimpressive. Most nurseries do cater for individual learning. But I can't see that they leave you many options if they just blankly state that it's not their way.

CloudsAndTrees · 20/05/2013 21:04

So what do they do at this pre school, and what is it that they don't do that you think they should?

What makes you think she is bored and unhappy because they aren't catering to her learning needs?

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 21:09

It's a great place, they do loads of good stuff: cooking, PE messy play etc. But she keeps crying saying she doesnt want to go and is confused that she has to do lots of sticking and colouring. She specifically talked about how children speak to her there and said they don't understand her: they're silly/babies. I've explained to her that there are people there that she gets on with and talk about how good the activities are. She is just won't accept it.

crashdoll-it is her that asked us to teach her how to read. In her words-so I can do it myself.

shakey1500-building on what she already can do and not making her draw over striaght lines on pieces of paper.

Mega happy at home-just turns into totally diff. person when she gets a whiff of school.

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 21:14

No problem Euphemia. Yes private. 3days 8-6. Although we generally collect by 5-5:30

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getyourheadout · 20/05/2013 21:16

she sounds like a normal kid going to pre school , getting upset is sometimes what they do ,doesnt mean they are bored ,cant she speak properly is that why they cant understand her ?

Ashoething · 20/05/2013 21:16

is this a stealth boast about your mega bright 3 year old?-yawn.

Sirzy · 20/05/2013 21:18

Pre school should be about children having fun and playing. If anything it sounds like she needs that to develop her social skills if she is struggling with the others.

There is plenty of time to focus on academic stuff later in life.

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 21:21

No need to be offensive!
Not a stealth boast, just wanted others opinions on whether it's reasonable to ask for occasional development opportunities tailored to her or is the view in early years that one model fits all. Other parents experiences appreciated. If it were a stealth boast I'd list all the things she can do-I chose not to.

getyour headout-no quite the opposite (no boast intended, just answering a question)

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getyourheadout · 20/05/2013 21:21

Grin @ Ashoething

Bearbehind · 20/05/2013 21:27

A stealth boast by saying I could stealth boast but chose not to - genius!

crashdoll · 20/05/2013 21:27

Yes, YABU. Children of 3 need some structured activity but they learn through play. She needs to begin to learn how to be part of a group and that she can't always do the activities she wants.

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Mimisrevenge · 20/05/2013 21:29

crashdoll-thank you. On reflection its a key aspect of her development we will try to help her with.

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LadyBeagleEyes · 20/05/2013 21:31

Wot Ashoething said.

WorraLiberty · 20/05/2013 21:33

10 hours is a very long day for a 3yr old.

She's bound to get bored at some point.

My kids always claimed to be bored at school but actually as they got older and were able to explain better, it turned out just some of the day bored them.

Have you had a word with the staff?

Takver · 20/05/2013 21:36

I wouldn't be keen if at 3 they were being made to do loads of sticking and colouring, though.

DD went to a childminder, so a bit different, but even when she started at the nursery class in school there was a lot of choice as to what activities they could do at any given time. IIRC (it was a long time ago!) the main things they were all expected to participate in together were circle time, sitting down listening to a story, etc.

I especially wouldn't be keen on lots of colouring in - sounds like an easy & cheap option with not much creativity for the dc.

usualsuspect · 20/05/2013 21:37

Shes 3.

She's doing what all 3 year olds do at nursery.