To be annoyed at mil with regards to our dog dh says iabu but am I?

[concernedmate]

Mil and Fil are coming to stay for a long weekend, they have said to find dog kennels to put our dog in and they will pay.

I think they are out of order as our dog doesn't like being away from us, and who are they to dictate where our dog goes, they are not allergic or scared of dogs, they are just not keen on them.

We have an older dog who is not bother, she doesn't jump up or anything.

I said to dh I won't do it as she is part of our family, but he says as they are prepared to pay and not keen on dogs to make life easier we should book the dog in.

I know mil will make a song any dance every time she finds a dog hair on her clothes.

I told dh I would ask the mumsnet jury.

So wwud ? am I BU in telling mil the dog is going nowhere?

I agree with 5Foot5, although I do hope your DH squashed that comment immediately.

I'm actually more about the "ground you down" comment. At least the kennel request could, at a great stretch, be put down to cluelessness about dogs. But there's no way to spin what she said to your DH, that's just awful.

Ha x posted with 5foot and LadyClarice!

No WAY would I do it if I was ordered to!

If someone I had invited to my home said look hec, I am really worried about the dog, etc etc, I'd bend over backwards for them.

But a phone call and an order? Screw that.

I'd stand behind her and sprinkle biscuit crumbs into her hair and then let the dog loose on her.

Yanbu!! There's no medical reason and its easy enough to ensure the dog doesn't bother them. They can stay in a hotel if they are that worried.

I'd comply in the sense of keeping them out the same room but no way would a kennel be an option for a friendly no hassel dog!!!

This is the most unreasonable of AIBU threads ive read in a while. If MIL was genuinely nice about not liking the dog I would make an effort to ensure dog and mil were kept out of each others' way while she was visiting. And maybe make an extra effort to de-dog hair the room where she is staying.
But as she doesn't sound remotely nice, I would not do that either. She should simply stay at a hotel at her expense if she can't deal with the dog.

Wow what a cow!

I think if I were you I'd send the dog to the groomers the day before they arrived so he's sparkling clean, that way she can't do the exaggerated 'smell' thing ;)

I'd also be tempted to put the biggest bow I could find on his collar and lavish him with attention for the entire time they are with you.

Serious rudeness on her behalf and I'm very glad your dh now agrees with you.

I hate dogs really really hate them I'm petrified of most of them I do not have dogs in my house because of this if I invite guests with dogs I make it clear the dog is not invited equally as such I do not visit people with dogs.

That's the choice people who hate dogs have either avoid them and places they hang out or put up with them being around politely.

Your mil is rude overstepping basic decency and yanbu.

YANBU in the slightest.
My dogs x2 and cats x2 are all part of my family and would not be put in Kennels or catterys for any visitors comfort. Its their home as much as mine. Visitors know we have aminals and take it or leave it. I have had family stay in hotels and really actually prefer that now, less work and disruption.

Slippery slope I think. Tell DH to stop this nonsense with his mother PDQ.

I am not a dog lover in the slightest but I think your IL's have for a bloody cheek!

Fair enough if they'd had a traumatic experience or were allergic, otherwise I'd be telling them to jog on.

Tell them they have'nt had kennel cough vaccine and you would not want them to be ill. At worst they'll offer to pay for that too.

I guess they are trying to enjoy their time with you but the dogs are as much a part of your family. Maybe try and keep them apart if possible. Is there are a friend maybe who could have them to keep the peace. Good luck