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Original poster

To be annoyed at mil with regards to our dog dh says iabu but am I?

111 replies

concernedmate · 19/05/2013 20:17

Mil and Fil are coming to stay for a long weekend, they have said to find dog kennels to put our dog in and they will pay.

I think they are out of order as our dog doesn't like being away from us, and who are they to dictate where our dog goes, they are not allergic or scared of dogs, they are just not keen on them.

We have an older dog who is not bother, she doesn't jump up or anything.

I said to dh I won't do it as she is part of our family, but he says as they are prepared to pay and not keen on dogs to make life easier we should book the dog in.

I know mil will make a song any dance every time she finds a dog hair on her clothes.

I told dh I would ask the mumsnet jury.

So wwud ? am I BU in telling mil the dog is going nowhere?

OP posts:
marciaoverstrand · 19/05/2013 20:28

God what a cheek, I have two small dogs who would pine away if put in kennels. Tell them to keep their money, stay in a hotel and visit them there!
Hope your dh supports you, mine would know better than to even ask tbh

LineRunner · 19/05/2013 20:28

So she doesn't like dog hair on her clothes?

I would hoover everything before their visit, show her where the hoover is when they arrive, and not put the dog in the kennels.

Can't say fairer than that. Smile

Hassled · 19/05/2013 20:28

What ArthurCucumber said.

I really don't like dogs but I wouldn't dream of expecting someone who's prepared to put me up to get rid of their dog. I have a very dear friend who wants me to come and stay - I'm stalling on account of her 3 dogs, but that's my problem, not hers.

Fairylea · 19/05/2013 20:28

Fuck that. Your dog, your house, your rules. Tell them to find a hotel.

They are so rude!

quoteunquote · 19/05/2013 20:29

buy(or borrow) a couple ferrets, once experienced no one will complain about a dog after they have been kissed by a ferret.

GoblinGranny · 19/05/2013 20:30

If I was that worried about a relative's dog, I either wouldn't visit at all, or wouldn't stay in the house.

pictish · 19/05/2013 20:30

Yanbu - they are outrageous to expect it, and your dh is a soft lad to go along with it.

Pascha · 19/05/2013 20:31

Good grief. They should stay in a hotel. Your home is your home complete with dogs.

maddening · 19/05/2013 20:34

From an asthmatic who is allergic to dogs - yanbu.

I could understand an allergy sufferer making this request but it would be futile as the place would require deep cleaning to make it feasible for them to stay (well for me anyway as v allergic).

I wouldn't personally make such a request and would just find alternative accommodation myslef whilst trying to ensure that my host didn't take offence by being explicit that it was soley to do with my allergy. It would limit the number of visits I could make (with antihistamines couldn't stay in the house for more than 30 mins - would have to do outings really) due to cost so would probably have them round to me more often.

Original poster
concernedmate · 19/05/2013 20:38

thanks guys dh has now agreed it was him that was BU.

In laws come once a year thank god as they live a long way away.

Definitely not scared, they just don't like the smell, hairs etc etc.

They insist on staying with us as they only here for a short time and want to spend as much time as possible with the kids.

OP posts:
ChaoticTranquility · 19/05/2013 20:39

I would put your pil in a kennel before the dog!

^^This...YANBU

LEMisdisappointed · 19/05/2013 20:39

That is so unbelievably unreasonable of them - if they don't like it, tough, let them go to a hotel - cheeky bastards! With the best will in the world, many dogs loose weight and get anxious when they go to kennels - why would anyone put a dog in kennels unless it was necessary. No no and thrice no - it wouldnt even be a discussion in this house!

Ginderella · 19/05/2013 20:39

YANNNNBU!

Two things - your DH needs to grow a pair and stand up to his DM.

Secondly - the world does not revolve around your MIL and a few dog hairs - and perhaps you should tell her that before PIL turn up.

Cheeky feckers!!

Fairylea · 19/05/2013 20:52

I'd wash their towels with the dog bedding.

But then I am evil :)

glenthebattleostrich · 19/05/2013 20:58

YADNBU

I am allergic to dogs and cats, their fur triggers my eczema and asthma and all my family have dogs and cats. They either don't allow them in the same room as me or we meet away from their homes.

I would NEVER ask them to throw the animals out of their homes for my convenience.

Stropzilla · 19/05/2013 21:01

I'm not a dog lover. Can't stand them. Even I think they are BU! I have stayed with friends who have dogs, I'm happy for the invite and it's my issue not theirs. I'd never ask them to kennel their beloved pets. And if I did they'd lovingly tell me to remove my head from my ass and quite rightly so. Suggest you say the same.

silverten · 19/05/2013 21:05

God I hate dogs but even I think it's rude to expect you to send the hound to kennels.

If they'd asked really, really nicely if you'd possibly consider it, that would be a bit better.

My parents used to have a massive smelly dog, we simply didn't stay with them because of it.

digerd · 19/05/2013 21:08

Dogs pine being away from their family and home. If a friend who your dog knows and has often been to their house would have the dog, perhaps OK.

But YANBU to refuse to be forced to send dog away because pil don't like dog's hairs and the smell. Your DH and his parents are BVU.

Poor dogSad

fanoftheinvisibleman · 19/05/2013 21:09

Not a prayer I'd go along with that!

Fair enough if it is their house and they don't want the dog there but there is bog all chance of my dog being shipped off out for anyone.

poorpaws · 19/05/2013 21:18

I agree with Stickyg your pil should go into the kennel. I wouldn't move my two dogs out of their home for anyone, definitely not. I'd also be furious with DH.

ENormaSnob · 19/05/2013 21:18

I hate the smell of dogs and dog hair but I think yanbu at all.

I would book a hotel before I suggested someone kennelling their pet because I was visiting.

They are very rude and unkind.

flanbase · 19/05/2013 21:20

yanbu How can they tell you what should happen in your house. Your dogs are part of your family. I agree on putting them in a hotel

PorkPieandPickle · 19/05/2013 21:23

YANBU

I absolutely hate dogs, hairs, smells, slobber and I'm scared of them. So I don't stay in people's houses with dogs.

How ride of your IL's. They have no manners. Let them get a hotel.

Cluffyflump · 19/05/2013 21:25

I am Shock at their rudeness!

Good luck with their visit.
I have a feeling you're going to need it Wine

cees · 19/05/2013 21:29

YANBU