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AIBU?

To think this is not normal?

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TacticalWheelbarrow · 15/05/2013 16:07

My step sister (but we are very close) has been in a relationship with a guy for three years now. They have been living together for 2. Her DP lived a fair bit away but only a 45 minute train journey, he moved away to live with her.

In those three years she has never met any of her DP's friends or family. He goes home to visit his family regularly for a weekend but never offers to take her. He also goes down there for Christmas, New Year and Easter but yet again never gives her an invite. When he is with his family he never picks up the phone to my sister and will call her back a few hours later.

My step sister has asked to meet his family but he always says no and gets very defensive. Apparently his family is wierd?
It's all really dodgy, when someone from back home calls him he takes the phone call and if step sister or anyone is in the room he walks away and has the phonecall in the bathroom out of earshot.
He never talks about his family and if step sister or her family and friends ask him about them he becomes very guarded.

He is 6 years older that my sister if that means anything.

Is my sister and I right in thinking this is bloomin weird?

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TacticalWheelbarrow · 15/05/2013 16:30

I've been waiting to find out about this for so long I'm actually shaking with adrenaline. My husband will go mad if he finds out I've been snooping in their business because he doesn't want us involved in it.

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Onetwothreeoops · 15/05/2013 16:31

Just use 192.com you would need to pay for the complete address but if you put in a name and town it may give you enough information regarding other residents and an age range to narrow it down.

TacticalWheelbarrow · 15/05/2013 16:32

Ok I'm going to get the laptop and do a search quickly before DH gets home. I won't be able to post for a while as I don't use laptop to MN incase DH finds out my username. But I will come back after I've given the kids their dinner at 5! Thank you all for your help

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Squitten · 15/05/2013 16:32

Just look at 192.com and see what they show. I just searched for myself and they give you the name, postcode, I can see that my husband lives there too. Age is bloody wrong though - cheeky feckers!

StuntGirl · 15/05/2013 16:33

I agree it sounds suspicious and if it were me I'd be checking it out myself.

Omnishambolic · 15/05/2013 16:34

How old is he or does he have an unusual name, do you know whereabouts in country he goes at weekends? I have Ancestry.co.uk membership and can see if there is any interesting births/marriages/deaths pre 2005. PM if you want me to search.

AnAirOfHope · 15/05/2013 16:34

I would look on internet.

What does he say about his family?

StuntGirl · 15/05/2013 16:35

Squitten

Nancy66 · 15/05/2013 16:35

When someone is acting like they have something to hide....they usually do.

Years ago I dated a man who was also very secretive and never introduced me to friends or family after more than a year together. I suspected he had someone else. He told me I was: mad, jealous, paranoid etc etc.

Guess what? Girlfriend and a kid.

GiveMumABreak · 15/05/2013 16:38

He has another family - I agree with, but will not be joining spero in getting arse tattooed - she needs to get rid of him!

schoolgovernor · 15/05/2013 16:39

He works away from home and goes home at weekends don't you think?

UpTheFRIGGinDuff · 15/05/2013 16:39

Yeah,what they said.....

not marking place,oh no,not me

schoolgovernor · 15/05/2013 16:39

Sorry, for some reason I didn't see pages 2 + 3.

patienceisvirtuous · 15/05/2013 16:44

Thanks Tactical. It all turned out well in the end; I got rid of a lying cheat and now have a lovely DP.

Hope you get sorted.

quesadilla · 15/05/2013 16:48

Spero can we have that in writing?

Spero · 15/05/2013 16:55

But of course. I can probably fit Boris Johnson in too, my arse is reasonably capacious.

But something tells me I won't be facing the needle anytime soon.

FrebbieMisaGREATshag · 15/05/2013 16:57

Spero

Nancy66 · 15/05/2013 16:58

...what about Eric Pickles?

SquinkiesRule · 15/05/2013 16:59

not sure if I want the op to come back and say Spero is right, I think her butt getting tattooed might make for a good thread

Spero · 15/05/2013 17:00

nancy66 that is really rude

My arse is not that big.

wannabestressfree · 15/05/2013 17:01

It can be possible. He could be a compulsive liar and say he has a job elsewhere. What about looking at banking history?

shewhowines · 15/05/2013 17:02

I know two cases where there was another family. It's not that uncommon.

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idococktailshedoesbeer · 15/05/2013 17:04

Well it's clear he doesn't want his family (most probably his wife) to know she exists. But it sounds like she's burying her head in the sand and doesn't actually want to know the answer to me.

How does he feel about her putting pictures of them both on Facebook and Twitter? Does he even have social networking accounts?

Theselittlelightsofmine · 15/05/2013 17:13

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MummytoKatie · 15/05/2013 17:24

I'd say kids and access weekends from the timings rather than actually married / girlfriend.

Although it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest if he is still bonking his ex....

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