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Original poster

to think that 12 units of alcohol is excessive?

45 replies

DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 22:29

Especially when consumed on his own and after I specifically requested that he not drink too much since I need a decent nights sleep (he snores when drunk and we have had a few rough nights with our toddler who only recently started sleeping through)???

Honest opinions please, thanks!

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TigOldBitties · 11/05/2013 22:33

Can you put that in a more typical measurement, what was actually drunk?

Original poster
DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 22:34

5 strong ales

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 11/05/2013 22:35

Very inconsiderate to drink any amount if he knew it would lead to noisy snoring especially if you're sleep deprived as it is.

WorraLiberty · 11/05/2013 22:35

5 pints or 5 halves/bottles?

EarthtoMajorTom · 11/05/2013 22:36

Too much. My sympathies.

Lj8893 · 11/05/2013 22:37

Can he sleep on the sofa?

numbum · 11/05/2013 22:38

Depends on whether it's a one off or all the time

WorraLiberty · 11/05/2013 22:41

Google tells me it's about 5 cans

My honest opinion is that it's Saturday night and if he wants a drink then why not? It's annoying that it makes him snore...but then he might have snored anyway.

If I were him, I'd do the decent thing and sleep on the couch though.

Original poster
DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 22:43

oh yes he's been banished to the sofa. Thanks all, feel justified in the 'words' we had about it now. I need him to see that 'having a couple of beers' means a couple of beers, not 5 super strong ales!

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TigOldBitties · 11/05/2013 22:46

He's an adult, I think he can choose how much he wants to drink, I'd be mightily pissed off if DH told me how much I should or should not be drinking..

I'd sleep on the sofa but other than that I'd drink however much I wanted to.

Original poster
DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 22:52

ok fair point, but do you think that much booze is alot? I know I'd be throwing up if I drunk that much but he thinks its not very much.

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mamageekchic · 11/05/2013 22:53

12 units is about a bottle of wine. I wouldn't say it's excessive for an occasional saturday night.

mamageekchic · 11/05/2013 22:55

To answer your last post I would be a little bit drunk after that, probably talking too much and being a bit silly but I would be falling over/sick etc I'd also feel fine the next day.

Iteotwawki · 11/05/2013 22:55

It depends on how much he drinks at other times.

12 units on a regular basis and he's looking at damaging his liver longer term.

12 units but "only on the weekends" is binge drinking and likely to damage his health longer term.

12 units once in a blue moon is probably fine, as would 12 units spread throughout the week with at least 2 dry days.

Original poster
DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 22:55

Can we forget that it happens to be Saturday night? If it was a drinking occasion he'd have had more like 8 strong ales

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mamageekchic · 11/05/2013 22:56

*wouldn't be sick/ falling over

ginmakesitallok · 11/05/2013 22:59

A bottler of wine wouldn't make me sick or fall over. Not typical of a Saturday night, but not unusual either. Don't think this is just about tonight though?

sweetestcup · 11/05/2013 22:59

Doesnt seem that bad to me if its only the equivalent of a bottle of wine.

AgentZigzag · 11/05/2013 23:00

A bottle of wine's not excessive I would say, and I agree with Tig that I wouldn't like DH trying to dictate how much I was allowed to drink (aside from if I was drinking a bottle of spirits a night and it was causing problems).

Is it just about the snoring or is there something more controlling going on?

TigOldBitties · 11/05/2013 23:02

If its a bottle of wine (have no idea about anything to do with ale so was struggling) then no don't think thats excessive at all.

The only thing I think worth being annoyed about is the snoring but if he's sort of saying "I've had a drink but I'll sleep on the sofa" then no problem at all.

DragonMamma · 11/05/2013 23:03

If 12 units is a bottle of wine then I wouldn't think that was drinking 'too much' over the course of evening. If my dh said that to me I would assume he would mean don't have any more than the one bottle. I'd be a bit more relaxed after a bottle but not drunk/stumbling/being sick.

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DomesticGoddess31 · 11/05/2013 23:03

I am a bit of a light weight these days, I admit, but 12 units is more like a bottle and a third of wine and i would feel like death the next day. Anyway, the point is he said he wouldn't drink much and I think he has and he can't see it.

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squeakytoy · 11/05/2013 23:04

Do you sit counting the units while he has a drink?

Unless he is doing this every night of the week, yabu and controlling.

I snore without the aid of a drink..

DragonMamma · 11/05/2013 23:08

I don't think he's drunk that much. 5 cans is pretty tame for most men I know, irrespective of the strength.

I drank 4 cans Bank Holiday afternoon which was around 10 units and another wouldn't have been a problem. I was still able to cook dinner, iron uniforms and watch TV.

AgentZigzag · 11/05/2013 23:09

I apparently snore since I had DD2 three years ago Grin

One drink leads on to another doesn't it Domestic? He's having a bit of a night out, in. Everyone needs a bit of escapism sometimes.

Without minimising what you're saying, snoring is a relatively minor thing to be pissed off about when it comes to other peoples alcohol consumption.

Laid next to coming in steaming at 4 am, getting violent and puking all over the neighbours, it's an easily avoidable argument.