I really wish I could stop doing this, but I genuinely dont know how.
For example, DP was holding our youngest whilst in the kitchen and I was washing up. DP was talking to him in a excited, animated way and I thought man he's loud! Turned round and saw that his face was right my DC's ear and poor DC was rearing away from the volume. I said (evenly) "You're a little loud."
Dp puts on dc's coat, twists his arm back to get the second arm in, DC howls. I say "stop! You're twisting his arm!"
DP was doing dinner and was handling a food DC is allergic too, I set up some hot soapy water and explain that for damage limitation, he needs to put his hands straight in the water and wash the offending item off so's not to spread it to other places. I look back to the kitchen and see that he puts down the offending item and starts opening all the cupboards, and does he wipe down all the handles afterwards? No. This exact scenario has happened twice, so its not a learning curve apparently.
Because of this, two things happen - he gets pissed off with me 'criticising' him. And in fact, I dont blame him. This happens several times a day.
Second of all, it means I nearly always think fuck it, I'll do it myself. It'll get done properly and I wont be called a nag.
So Ive had words with myself. I told myself to just let him do it, whats the worse that could happen? But I just couldnt stop by and watch my sons ears hurt from bellowing, his arm twisted and pained, and allergens wiped over places that dc touches which equals an itchy, swollen teary child.
This is 3 of many things.
How do I stop? I dont blame dp for getting pissed off, Im sick of the sound of my own voice, and its not like he hasnt had years of practice!