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To be cross that I haven't heard from DP since he left the house seven hours ago?

57 replies

TreeTrimmer · 11/05/2013 13:27

I'm a bit miffed (and worried actually) that DP hasn't called since he left to go to work at half six this morning.

I can't get hold of him as his phone is out of signal (but text messages are being delivered Confused)

He's been where he is before, and I know in the past he's managed to call me by walking to a different area (not far at all) to get some signal.

I know he's busy at work, but he usually always calls early morning on the weekend. He's with a friend of ours and I've texted her and asked her to get him to call me, her phone's not picking up calls either (and no they're not having an affair Grin)

I know phones are crap and I understand that the signal is dodgy where he is, but it's not like him to have not called by now. I know I'm probably BU but I'm a bit cross and getting worried now. :(

OP posts:
gordyslovesheep · 11/05/2013 13:29

erm ...you sound a bit needy! he's at work

Cloverer · 11/05/2013 13:29

Is there a reason for him to call you from work? It's only lunch time Confused

SoldeInvierno · 11/05/2013 13:29

he's at work. Have you got nothing better to do?

HeySoulSister · 11/05/2013 13:30

Why do you need to call him??

Original poster
TreeTrimmer · 11/05/2013 13:30

Not needy really, it's just unlike him not to call so I'm a bit worried.

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landofsoapandglory · 11/05/2013 13:30

Blimey, why does he need to ring you from work?

trixymalixy · 11/05/2013 13:31

Eh? My DH has been out of the house since then too, I really don't expect to speak to him until much later on this evening if at all.

Is there something you particularly need to speak to him about?

Original poster
TreeTrimmer · 11/05/2013 13:31

I'm clearly being unreasonable then Grin

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LIZS · 11/05/2013 13:31

Dear me , dh often doesn't call or even have his phone on !

Hercy · 11/05/2013 13:32

Yes, you're being unreasonable. His phone has no/a bad signal (even if a phone gets signal for a second to receive a text, it can be a different story when it comes to sending one). And he is no doubt busy and doesn't have time to waste walking round to find a signal.

You know he's a work, you know he's working where there is a bad signal. I'm struggling to see why you would expect to hear from him at all, let alone be pissed off that you haven't heard from him.

HildaOgden · 11/05/2013 13:33

You're being unreasonable,and causing yourself unnecessary stress by overthinking this.He's busy,he's working,he is in a place that has bad signal.

Busy yourself with something else,he will be in contact later.It's one of the things that pisses me off with mobile phones the evil stressors of the 21st century ,people are now expected to be constantly available to take a call.How on earth did people survive before them?? .Well,they did,and without being stressed if someone didn't instantly answer them.(Sorry,I'll get off my soapbox now!)

Cloverer · 11/05/2013 13:33

You'd expect a child/teenager to check in if they're out for the day, but not an adult. If there is a problem you will hear about it!

TantrumsAndBalloons · 11/05/2013 13:33

Dear god almighty DH has been away since Wednesday.
I haven't spoken to him since Thursday night.

Why are you texting other people to tell him to call?
Don't you think it's going to make him think there's something seriously wrong?

Original poster
TreeTrimmer · 11/05/2013 13:34

And yes there is something I need to talk to him about, but you're right, it's not urgent.

I know it might be normal for other people's DP's to call from work but he works seven days a week, so he tends to call me during the day, that's all.

Don't worry, I've given myself a punch and told myself I'm BU. and just hoping his car's not in a ditch somewhere

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Cloverer · 11/05/2013 13:34

It's probably a bit embarassing for him to have you texting his friend to get him to call you too.

KatieScarlett2833 · 11/05/2013 13:36

No signal OP, not much you can do until he gets back in range.
I recommend Candy Crush for distraction purposes.

AnnoyingOrange · 11/05/2013 13:36

My dh works away a lot too. He tries to call me in the evening after work once a day. Never during the day as he is busy working

mrsjay · 11/05/2013 13:37

what are you worried about ? why do you want him to phone you you sound a bit anxious , My dd hardly ever calls me from work and when he does it is usually to say he will be late in for dinner, leave him alone he is probbaly out of range or busy. and texting the friend to tell him to call is a bit panicky don't you think I know if i was told to phone home by somebody else I would think something was wrong ,

Lj8893 · 11/05/2013 13:37

Umm your being needy!

The only time I feel I need/should hear from my dp is when he has to stay over at his work, so when he's actually finished work I expect him to give me a call before I go to bed etc. and as he never really knows what time he expects to finish work, I like him to give me a quick text letting me know when he's leaving work so I know when to expect him, or if he is really late I can just go to bed rather than wait up for him.

He does keep in contact with me throughout the day bu very sporadically and I certainly wouldn't be worried about not hearing from him at this time!

squeakytoy · 11/05/2013 13:37

if they havent got a signal, then they cant call... its not really all that weird...

mrsjay · 11/05/2013 13:37

DH* obviously

Original poster
TreeTrimmer · 11/05/2013 13:38

Ok ok, thanks, I know I'm being unreasonable but I'm just worried.

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mrsjay · 11/05/2013 13:41

but I'm just worried.

about ? does he have a dangerous job or something are you worried he is hurt or something

comedycentral · 11/05/2013 14:06

Yanbu (going against the grain) if you usually contact each other then I don't think you are being OTT at all by being anxious. I don't think your being needy either...daft suggestion. Surely it's normal to notice when someone acts out of the ordinary. FWIW I think he's totally fine Grin

ImperialBlether · 11/05/2013 14:09

I think you should call the police, just in case.