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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to wear a white dress to a wedding?

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ToothpasteKisses · 06/05/2013 22:04

Have a friends wedding in June.

Have been looking at dresses online and my favourite ones are white. None are "bridey" looking dresses.

If you were the bride would that annoy you? Or is it a silly old tradition that only the bride wears white?

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LetMeAtTheWine · 06/05/2013 22:30

Navy and white I would say is fine.
White maxi dress from next, definite 'no' (IMO)!

LetMeAtTheWine · 06/05/2013 22:31

Sorry, that was for Artemis and Whatsleep

whatsleep · 06/05/2013 22:33

Ok thanks, ...have messaged my Sis (il) as we are quite close so I know she will be honest. And fwiw my MIL Wore a White dress to my wedding and it didn't even occur to me to be bothered!

Yonionekanobe · 06/05/2013 22:34

I wouldn't, but then I normally check what colour the bridesmaids are wearing too in case of looking like I'm trying to blend in - have been to a few recently where bridesmaids have had a colour theme but different dresses.

Vatta · 06/05/2013 22:35

We went to a wedding 4 years ago where one of the guests wore a White dress (knee length, lots of embroidered flowers, so not at all "bridey").

People still bitch and laugh about it and how inappropriate it was.

Seriously please don't wear White - I wouldn't even wear a White jacket or shawl with a different colour dress, it can really upset/annoy some people.

TooMuchRain · 06/05/2013 22:40

Agree that it looks needy and would really avoid (I went to a wedding once where one bridesmaid/matron of honour turned up in black and the other in white!)

miemohrs · 06/05/2013 22:40

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Helltotheno · 06/05/2013 22:47

Oh come on!!!! So now we can't even wear a white cardi or shawl with a dress of a completely different colour??? Well colour me stubborn if I ignore that one completely, people can be as upset as they want. Good lawd all this tradition stuff really goes overboard sometimes....

specialsubject · 06/05/2013 22:50

it is really bizarre, isn't it? As long as you don't turn up in the top-of-the-toilet roll frilly frock, no bride with a brain should mind.

but evidently a lot of people think otherwise.

ParadiseChick · 06/05/2013 22:50

Anything other than a white dress.

How many white dresses are there out there? I'm struggling to see how it of the whole world wide web they are only white dresses that you w want to wear.

Sharptic · 06/05/2013 22:50

I wouldn't mind. A guest at our wedding wore a white dress, I didn't care and neither did anyone else, as far as I know!

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ToothpasteKisses · 06/05/2013 22:55

You're going to though, aren't you?

I'm not sure if you're referring to me as a couple of people hijacked.

But if it's to me then no I guess I wouldn't now, but probably will still buy the dress and wear at some other point.

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TravelinColour · 06/05/2013 22:59

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patienceisvirtuous · 06/05/2013 22:59

It would never occur to me to be offended if a guest wore white at my wedding. How silly. Especially if it was nothing like a bridal dress.

Evidently most people think it's a massive no no tho OP. Back to the drawing board?

candyandyoga · 06/05/2013 23:00

Good to hear you have taken comments on board! Save the white dress for another time like you said and wear something else to wedding.

As for the other poster and the next dress link - no, no, no!

HootShoot · 06/05/2013 23:01

Specialsubject - we had a guest turn up in a white dress and I didn't notice, but obviously others did as I had a couple of comments about it after the day. I personally wouldn't want to invite criticism from others so would avoid wearing a white dress. White accessories are fine I think.

KansasCityOctopus · 06/05/2013 23:04

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Cherriesarelovely · 06/05/2013 23:06

But why would you? It's the ONE colour to avoid, there are so many others that you could wear!

trixymalixy · 06/05/2013 23:07

When my aunt got married to her 2nd husband she wore an ivory lace dress with a handkerchief hem. Her stepsister turned up in exactly the same dress!!

The stepsister was mortified, but what was she thinking?!?!?

No OP, I wouldn't do it.

I have worn a white trouser suit to a wedding, but I knew the bride was wearing red and had asked her.

Floggingmolly · 06/05/2013 23:09

Ridiculously attention seeking.

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper · 06/05/2013 23:09

As a bride, I wouldn't mind. I wouldn't have noticed! In fact, maybe someone did turn up to mine in white, I have no recollection. I just remember everyone looking fabulous, because I was so fabulously happy.

However, I wouldn't turn up to someone else's wedding in white.

As everyone else has implied, the bride is the least of your worries. She's going to be totally preoccupied. The guests on the other hand, have plenty of time to be standing around quaffing champagne, noticing things.

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ToothpasteKisses · 06/05/2013 23:10

But why would you? It's the ONE colour to avoid, there are so many others that you could wear!

I'm asking for opinions on whether it is an out dated tradition. I'm not saying I am wearing white to wedding and fuck what anyone thinks.

I just saw a dress I really liked. And I've already said I'm not going to wear it so.....

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AintNobodyHereButUsKittens · 06/05/2013 23:14

I bought a short white dress to wear to my own wedding reception. The shop assistant (Jigsaw, where they will normally kill their own mother to get a sale) got the wrong end of the stick and was horrified. I had to explain very carefully that I was the actual bride before she'd sell me the dress.

RiotsNotDiets · 06/05/2013 23:16

One of my guests turned up in a dress the same colour and a very similar style to my bridesmaids dresses (she had actually seen the dresses beforehand as well) That pissed me off, I think my head would've exploded if someone turned up in white.

I'm surprised to hear other posters saying the bride will be too happy to care. maybe this is why my marriage didn't last very long!!

Anyway, YABU and even if the bride didn't care the other guests would rip the piss out of you.

WheresMrMonkey · 06/05/2013 23:17

Whilst pregnant I went to a wedding in a cream dress but with red accessories, and the dress was short, in no way did I look like a bride, throw another colour in and as long as its isnt floor length I say go ahead!
I couldn't tell what anyone was wearing at mine until I looked at the photos

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