to wear a white dress to a wedding?

[ToothpasteKisses]

Have a friends wedding in June.

Have been looking at dresses online and my favourite ones are white. None are "bridey" looking dresses.

If you were the bride would that annoy you? Or is it a silly old tradition that only the bride wears white?

[Apparentlychilled]

Someone wore a white prom dress to our wedding (w black flowers on it). I wasn't impressed, though was too excited to get really narked about it on the day.

[Apparentlychilled]

And btw someone wore a white dress to my DF and DSM's wedding party (small wedding abroad, huuuuge party back at home). DSM kept insisting it wasn't a wedding, just a party, and she wore a black and white cocktail dress, but I was miffed on her behalf.

Don't do it.

[Sizzlesthedog]

My cousin wore a white dress with black trim to my wedding, didn't even think about it, until years later I heard someone said its " bad form".

Still doesnt worry me, I was the one in a wedding dress at the front of the church marrying DH. Not like anyone would get confused.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. As long as you don't turn up in a full wedding dress, veil, flowers etc and try to walk down the alse, can't see it being a problem.

[Tweasels]

I find this so very strange. I would have no problem no matter what colour anyone wore to my wedding, it's all a bit precious. i would never assume someine was out to outstage the bride, Surely no oe in real life does stuff like that. I've wore a white trouser suit to a wedding (they were fashionable at the time, honest). It didn't even enter my head that anyone would think it was odd.

What happens, if like several of my friends, you get married in red or another colour. Does that mean you CAN wear white but can't wear red or is white still unacceptable but red is fine

[ExRatty]

go ahead

go the whole hog...bring your own bridesmaids, arrive in a carriage etc

you really can't find another dress for one day?
ME ME ME ME ME ME

[MummaBubba123]

Don't do it. Whether it's inappropriate or not, you're likely to have niggling doubts and feel a tad uncomfortable about wearing it - which might spoil your evening.

[DailyNameChanger]

Feelings seem to run high about this but best not. I saw a beach wedding in Mexico years ago and one of the guests totally outshone the bride in a gold dress and accessories. Did anyone bitch about her? No they did not. They slated a slightly tubby nondescript woman in a non wedding dress style white dress! I think some people see it as bad for and others genuinely don't know it's not the done thing.

[notso]

I guess your story just reinforces people's view that a person who did it might be a bit attention seeking...

I think it's safe to say a wedding guest who wears a wedding dress to a wedding is more than a little attention seeking!

But really, people getting narked about someone wearing a non-wedding that is white need to get over themselves.

[notso]

non-wedding dress that should be.

[PowerPants]

Oh NO! I wore a cream trouser suit and cream hat to a friend's wedding once! I thought because it was a trouser suit it'd be OK!

I am ashamed.

[Helltotheno]

people getting narked about someone wearing a non-wedding dress that is white need to get over themselves.

Exactly. In fact this whole BS list of wedding dos and don'ts needs to be gotten over; at this point, I've seen everything at weddings, from black to white to everything in between, and even jeans, and guess what, the sky didn't fall in.

More to life...

[raisah]

Absolutely not. Asian brides traditionally wear red & the last wedding I went to one of the guests wore a red sari. It was heavily embroidered like a bridal sari & she wore heavy makeup so lots of people tbought tbat she was the bride. Lots of people disapproved of the wannabe bride.

[Pigsmummy]

No

[DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper]

Ha, Toothpaste, I bet you're regretting starting this thread now, right?

[EuroShaggleton]

I had never heard about this "rule" until a couple of years ago, and before that I had worn white to a wedding (although the dress did have a print on it, so not terribly bridal; and the bride at that wedding was a rockchick who wore purple!). My StepMIL, who I get on with very well, wore a cream dress to my wedding. I didn't care, but other people did notice and comment. And she does stand out a bit in the group photo.

[2rebecca]

I'd run it by the bride. I didn't wear white to either of my weddings so wouldn't have minded. I wanted to be the only one in a veil though so definitely no-one else gets to have a veil and I want the biggest bouquet.

[Bumbolina]

Just to throw this in to the discussion - my Mum was shocked that I wore green to a wedding as apparently that brings bad luck... she'd never heard of white being an issue!

[thebody]

Definatly not op. it's very bad manners.

[ToothpasteKisses]

HELLO

Just getting your attention.

I very much forgot about this thread. Already said about a year ago I'm not going to, but will still buy the dress because I like it.

I asked. Got my answers. Realised I WBU. Changed my mind.

Odd that people are still going on about this really. Let it go

[AintNobodyHereButUsKittens]

YABU OP, because you said "about a year ago" and made me worry I'd been suckered into posting into a zombie thread, and I scrolled all the way up to the top in order to find out you were just speaking metaphorically. I am now sulking, and looking for a phrase that expresses the triviality of my complaint. Middle class, first world problems doesn't even begin to cover it .

[Thumbwitch]

Bumbolina - green is the colour of envy, so it's meant to be bad luck to put your bridesmaids in green because it suggests they're envious of the bride; not sure about it being bad luck for a guest to wear it though!

[LittleMissLucy]

I think you are not supposed to wear green to a wedding, as a guest, but its archaic, and I don't know if people care so much about that one as the guest in WHITE.

[Mabroon101]

Oh God no. Don't. The queen wore white when Charles and Camilla got married and I've never forgiven her for it.

I doubt Camilla has either.

[Trill]

OP - people are not "going on about it" - they are "discussing the topic you raised. Thy can do so without you if you'd rather leave.

Even if the bride doesn't mind, would you mind all of the aunties looking at you and muttering?

I went to a wedding recently where a guest wore a short white sparkly dress. The top half could have been a wedding dress. I muttered and ask my friends if they had noticed, and I am not an elderly auntie. (the woman in question had shown herself at the hen do to be rather attention-seeky)

[Trill]

If it had been someone lovely we might have just said "oh, that's not a choice I would have made", but since we already believed her to be not-very-nice we were quietly mean. Because we are bitches.