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to wear a white dress to a wedding?

155 replies

ToothpasteKisses · 06/05/2013 22:04

Have a friends wedding in June.

Have been looking at dresses online and my favourite ones are white. None are "bridey" looking dresses.

If you were the bride would that annoy you? Or is it a silly old tradition that only the bride wears white?

OP posts:
rambososcar · 06/05/2013 22:17

It's very bad form. Faster, I dare you to go in your wedding dress and come back and tell us the bride's reaction!

LetMeAtTheWine · 06/05/2013 22:17

Don't do it, it is really bad form!

GirlOutNumbered · 06/05/2013 22:18

I bought a white dress with a big coloured floral thing down the front. It didnt even cross my mind that it may be a problem.

I felt uncomfortable in it all day. I don't think my friend minded or really noticed, it was everyone else.

Don't do it.

olgaga · 06/05/2013 22:18

No, you mustn't. It just isn't right.

Think of the photos! The bride is the only one who gets to wear white. If she's not wearing white, wear what you like...

But don't wear white if she is.

Bumbolina · 06/05/2013 22:20

My sister, who looks just like me despite an age gap, bought a floor length white dress to wear to my wedding. To be fair it was a beautiful dress, and was silk with a painted flower going down it so not like my wedding dress. But, I did ask her not to wear it as our relatives have enough trouble working out which of us they are talking to, that would have just confused things!
She has her own wedding next year and she is thinking if wearing it for the evening... it is such a beautiful dress it deserves to be seen... just not at my wedding Grin

Cherriesarelovely · 06/05/2013 22:20

I wouldn't....no way. I remember someone wearing an ivory trouser suit to my brother's wedding. It was gorgeous actually but my Sil was understandably pissed off. I think you will get alot of disapproving looks and will quite possibly upset the bride making for an uncomfortable day!

Blessyou · 06/05/2013 22:20

My mum wore a lacy white number to my sister's wedding. But she is weird and has no idea of social etiquette. She's lovely, but completely oblivious and wouldn't be told. The photos of her and my dad, in his top and tails, look as though it's their wedding day.

ExcuseTypos · 06/05/2013 22:22

Unless you wish to come across as a desparate , needy, attention seeker, I wouldn't do it.

Fasterkillpussycat · 06/05/2013 22:22

Very tempted Rambo!

OP - I would avoid - even if the bride does not mind, it is not worth worrying about it when there are lots of other colours to choose from.

ArtemisatBrauron · 06/05/2013 22:22

Thread hijack! What about navy dress, navy hat-feathery thing, white jacket? Sudden fear has struck me after reading all this!

Fleecyslippers · 06/05/2013 22:23

My Ex MIL wore white to me wedding. With a white hat that had a white veil.

ExcuseTypos · 06/05/2013 22:24

Bless my next door neighbour did that at her DD's wedding.

In the photos she looks a bit Miss Havisham.

olgaga · 06/05/2013 22:25

Artemis navy dress and white jacket is not the same, don't worry!

Love the sound of the navy hat-feathery thing. You wouldn't see a bride wearing one Grin so that's alright then!

Ginformation · 06/05/2013 22:25

My SIL wore white to my wedding- she really was trying to upstage me (I found out later). It did not bother me, but everyone else commented on it.

ExcuseTypos · 06/05/2013 22:25

Artemis- navy and white is fine.

White and more white isn't.

karinmaria · 06/05/2013 22:25

Don't wear white! For a PP - a white jacket with navy dress etc is absolutely fine!

whatsleep · 06/05/2013 22:26

Sorry shameless thread high jack.... I am tempted by this for my DSisIL wedding.....is it also a no?? www.next.co.uk/g382174s4

SirRaymondClench · 06/05/2013 22:26

Amazed anyone would even think it's ok to wear white at someone's wedding.
As everyone else said Op, just don't do it!

selsigfach · 06/05/2013 22:27

Please don't, it looks so unbelievably desperate.
I would be giving you a dirty look if I were a fellow guest, let alone the bride!

Bumbolina · 06/05/2013 22:27

Whatsleep - that is a definite no...

HootShoot · 06/05/2013 22:28

I w

SweetSeraphim · 06/05/2013 22:28

You're going to though, aren't you?

olgaga · 06/05/2013 22:29

whatsleep I wouldn't.

Nice for a holiday but not a wedding - but I may be wrong of course.

meganorks · 06/05/2013 22:30

I wore a white dress to a wedding. It wasn't a glam eveing dress or long or vaguely bridelike. And was wearing a wide tan belt and accessories and a blue jacket at start of day. Already had the dress and only found out about the whole white dress thing just before the wedding and had nothing else to wear.
I might be tempted to wear the same outfit to another wedding but knowing the rules now I would just buy a different colour dress for any future weddings.

HootShoot · 06/05/2013 22:30

Should have been - I wouldn't whatsleep, even though it has some colour it does look bridal as it's long and strapless.

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