To think if you have an all day wedding you should have food before 9pm?

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We've been invited to a wedding in August the invitation said that, despite the ceremony being at 1.30pm, there will be no food until the buffet at about 9pm?

AIBU to think that if you want to cut catering costs on your wedding day, you don't get married so early? It's seems really selfish to me to have an all day wedding with no food but I'd be quite happy if the service had been at say 4pm?

Maybe establish how much of a buffet the afternoon thing is. Get fish and chips if it's not enough?

A buffet for 200 sounds utter Lord of the Flies carnage!

At least they told you.

I went to a wedding a couple of years ago and the ceremony was at 2pm but the didn't come out until about 9pm. They didn't tell us the plan. I had a banana at about 12 and was bloody starving. Not sure how I didn't eat the carpet to be honest.

Food coming out of our ears at our wedding as a consequence!

Can you have lunch at 12 before the service? Thats when we usually eat anyway.

If you can't afford a big wedding then don't have one. Don't piss off your guests instead. They will remember it.

Why not just have a later ceremony? What is everyone meant to do for nine hours?

What about children? They can't be starved, that's just mean. There's only so many biscuits I can keep my toddler happy with.

Everyone will remember this wedding for the wrong reasons. It's courtesy to be nice to your guests.

green the afternoon thing is hors d'oeuvres at best.

raisah it's not even a posh venue and I agree about being talked about for all the wrong reasons- I'd be too embarrassed to even contemplate some of the things they are doing.

Things they are doing? Plural? Is there more?

That is awful but I know a couple of my friends have been to similar weddings so it definitely goes on more than you think.

Although dh and I haven't been to any weddings like this we always now take a car picnic, we've done it several times now along with other groups of friends and it works brilliantly. This is because most weddings we go to start at 12/1pm so between trying to get ready and arrive nice and early we get no time for lunch, then there is quite often a wait on the bride arriving, followed by possible over-running of service, photos outside the church then the drive over to venue followed by lots more picture taking.

None of which I have an issue with I hasten to add as weddings all go a bit differently on the day but so many we've been to have over-run so when they planned to sit down at 4 its actually been nearer to 6 and after no food since breakfast we would end up grumpy and hungry. So now a group of us all decide what to bring and after the ceremony while they're doing all the family pics we eat along the way to the venue! We can then enjoy the day ahead without counting down the minutes to the sit down meal or be involved in a mass stampede when the buffet begins.

Buffet, I've said it once I'll say it again: cheeky pisstakers are not friends. Don't go. Send a card and kiss this sham of a friendship goodbye.

I really could go on Santana but I'd out my self so I've gone with the abridged version!

I hate weddings with big gaps, especially if there's no food! I went to one like that and many guests popped home / out to get something to eat. It was just too long and everyone was hungry.

She charged people to attend a 30th?

There are other wedding stories?

Got to be a maccy d's on way to venue after church surely? I'd be hitting that, or taking own picnic!

We're very sorry we cannot come,
But I'll have an empty tum
If you do not provide a crumb
Before nine o clock doth come

Awww don't taunt us like that OP! You've name changed and everything!

Thanks expat you do talk a lot of sense.

It just really pisses me off that people think this kind of behaviour is acceptable.

I wouldn't go under these circumstances. How inconvenient.

Op you can't tease us like that.

You're safe with your name change.

Oh and I've changed my mind, I think you should go and do live updates. It's for the greater good.

If you could try to stay friendly too, for future shock stories, that would be appreciated

I mean, did you pay to go to the 30th birthday party? People only get away with being cheeky pisstakers when other people enable them to do so. 'Take a picnic' 'Get a chippy/pizza/etc.' I have a better solution: don't go!

Santana love the rhyme

santana sorry for the NC but it was necessary! The other things are really just variations on a theme (like charging for a birthday bash and extending the guest list to reduce costs and increase gifts) but are too specific to mention, just think money grabbing fuckers and you'll get the gist!

I agree with Norma, we need to hear more about this wedding.

No worries OP! Charging for a birthday!! Cheeky fecker. Have you tried charging her admission before she gets into your house?

expat fortunately we were on holiday for the surprise 30th party so missed it but those attending did pay.

I wonder though if it's all part of their grand plan.

They get married at 1pm and go for photographs with immediate family while all the suckers guests head for the venue to complete their endurance test until 9pm. Bride, Groom and selected others will head off somewhere for an arranged sit down meal and arrive at the venue to mingle with guests some hours later.