To think if you have an all day wedding you should have food before 9pm?

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We've been invited to a wedding in August the invitation said that, despite the ceremony being at 1.30pm, there will be no food until the buffet at about 9pm?

AIBU to think that if you want to cut catering costs on your wedding day, you don't get married so early? It's seems really selfish to me to have an all day wedding with no food but I'd be quite happy if the service had been at say 4pm?

If you ask anyone about weddings they have been to over the years - few will remember details about the bride's dress, the flowers, the table decorations or what colour the bridesmaid dresses wore.

They will,however, remember the weddings where they were bored, didn't have enough to eat and paid extortionate bar prices.

All those planning a wedding - please take note.

wow

strap some hula hoops to your leg.

If there's only one meal, and it's a buffet, why have evening guests at all? Couldn't everyone be invited for the whole day and the buffet be earlier? This makes no sense.

Are the bride and groom the kind of people who go all day without eating? DH and I have friends like that and we have to eat before we go, and bring our own snacks if we're visiting overnight. They probably think we're greedy and fat but it's better than starving! Once we had nothing to eat with them from breakfast until 9:00 at night!

Drive in between the church and reception?

This is extraordinary! You could just spend the cash you would have given them on crisps and hand them out in the car park. I dare say people will be so grateful you'd end up being bought the odd drink and may up quids in

We are still friends - I don't think they did it deliberately they just didn't think. It's a shame because Lady Slatternly is right - all I remember about that wedding is being very hungry and stranded miles from anywhere with no prospect of food.

LSH my only excuse is I was fairly young. I didn't expect gifts though. My family have never been grasping when it comes to this.

I'll make up for it with this wedding party when we get round to it

It's a tiny village church, I doubt it could hold anywhere near 200 so all day guests are not an option. The more I think about this, the more it annoys me.

I think you should have the best wedding your budget allows but you shouldn't increase your guest list in order to reduce you costs per head and increase your cash donations.

Definitely not going unless something drastically changes.

200 sounds grim. I'd boycott and spend what I would've going there on a nice day out.

I just don't get why not serving the food until 9pm keeps the cost down? is it due to the bride and groom hoping people will have gone home and so they can cater for less people?

Feign tummy bugs all round on the day It's not like they've laid on a set meal so it can't affect the budget.

ivy it means they only have to serve one lot of food for both the evening and day guests and even then it's the same sized buffet what ever the number of guests so it's a huge cost saving for them and we'll all be fucking starving.

I'd go to the service, and skip the reception. They'll see you at the wedding and (hopefully) appreciate that you've made the effort to share their special day.

They won't miss you at the reception, and perhaps will be glad not to have to cater for you. Sounds dreadful, btw.

Do you know the couple well enough to speak to them about your concerns at how late the food will be served? Is it possible they simply haven't thought it through very well?

My SIL did this. Booked the hotel function room all afternoon but couldn't afford to provide food until 8pm after ceremony at 1ish. DS1 was 2 at the time. We went to a restaurant for lunch in the end as tbh, there was naff all else to do either. I have photos of other guests, and the bride, sitting around eating Greggs sausage rolls. Classy. At least your invite warns you in advance! Is the wedding somewhere where you can disappear for a bite to eat mid afternoon?

"Talkinpeace Sun 05-May-13 20:00:21

A vote for BUCKET loads of delivery pizza : 30 of you get together, each put in £ and get a truck load."

Well that's just the guests funding the food. The B&G will mingle happily, helping themselves to another slice of ham and pineapple!

early I have tried to express my concerns but it's water off a very selfish duck's back- she just won't listen. In her mind, it's their big day and people wont even notice how long it is until the buffet. Not going to the reception isn't an option, it would be noticed- I really is all or nothing and right now I'm going with nothing.

Why not have the food from 7 and invite the evening guests for 7? 9 is a bit late to eat anyway.

OP and you have to go and report in.
Take pom bears. A big red multipack and a green one.

am PMSL at eating the south side of a north going horse and water off a very selfish duck's back :o This thread is brilliant

I am being thick but they will have to feed everyone anyway - so why not feed all the guest earlier? The everyone is feed and that is that?

What is the difference between a day guest and an evening guest? surely they are all at the wedding and then afterwards all will get feed?

The trouble is she has hide thicker than a rhino and, in hindsight, has previous on this kind of thing- think charging people asking people to make a dontion to attend her husband to be's 30th birthday party at the local village hall..........

Buffett - tbh she sounds really crap at organising events and not a very social person or welcoming - so if you don't go to the wedding and she takes the hump then will it really be a loss of a friend? Plus if she has a hid the thickness of a rhino then she just may not notice

Shame it's not pot luck- I could say I'll take dragon's butter!

Shit, they're not even paying per person for a decent buffet? A set price and presumably a set amount?

Think I have been to similar and it was awful. Really really awful. Think about 4 plates of dry curled butties, 2 trays of chicken legs and a tray of pork pies and sausage rolls. It was hideous.

There is no redeeming points about this wedding. Not a prayer i'd be going.

These days DH and I always take a packet of sausage rolls in the glove box when we go to a wedding. I would probably go, but take a picnic to eat on the way as others have suggested.

We had a 12 noon ceremony and a 3pm dinner (ceremony venue quite a distance from the reception, although in our defence we put on transport to the ceremony and then on to the reception) and I still look back and think 'we should have done canapes'. We did have a free bar though so there were a few casualties along the way. The canapes may have reduced the fallen.

I think the concept of 'It's ur day hun' is just odd really - I don't understand how anyone could throw a 'do' and enjoy themselves when all their guests were miserable. Surely the enjoyment comes largely from looking around at all your pissed guests having a whale of a time?

Absolutely stupid thing to do. People will be talking about the wedding for all the wrong reasons. It wont matter that they had a posh venue, all people will remember is that they were left hungry for a very long time.

My cousin did this & didnt serve anything until 8pm & it was a very hot day and people ended up going to the pub down the road for refreshments. They wouldnt serve any drinks either, people got angry & started to abuse the parents of the bride who were more interested in the wedding gifts.

My brother had a late afternoon ceremony followed by a joint meal for both day & evening guests. You dont leave guests waiting almost 6 hrs for dinner. Say if there was a diabetic or pregnany guest. Very bad mannered.