to think this is just bloody rude?

[ginmakesitallok]

We're taking family out for dinner tonight. Do wanted to go Italian, I thought it would be a bit expensive so we booked local place instead. Dbil texted to say we couldn't go to where we'd booked as he thought owner is an arse. So we book Italian instead. Mil then says, "oh, can't we go somewhere nicer?"

I was brought up to believe that if someone is taking you out you are just grateful and don't moan about it? (Italian place is lovely, mil just thinks it's wrong to pay for some pasta and sauce...)

Yes, appallingly rude IMO.

Are you paying? Cheeky snatches. They should be grateful you are being so generous.

Take me, I'm very appreciative Is puttanesca on the menu?

Kind of rude, but you're family so I wouldn't think so. Although if you're not that close then yes it's rude.

Leave your mother in law at home and take me instead. I always appreciate a good Italian.

Tell MIL it won't be a jar of Dolmio and a pack of dried pasta :o.

Yes, very rude - and actually I had this conversation recently with DS2 who was wingeing about the choice of restaurant PILs were taking us to recently. I pointed out if someone is buying you a meal then you eat it and are grateful - but then DS2 is 14, not an adult.

Yes we're paying, and taking 10 of them so not going to be bloody cheap. When mil mentioned that she thought it was silly to pay for pasta I'm ashamed to say I replied, "well, you're not paying are you?"

No ice cream for mil....

Wouldn't be ashamed at all to have said that, gin (love your nn). I'm usually v. pro the MILs (I'll be one in 3 weeks) but that is just plain bad manners.

I would have been tempted to say the same!

What did she reply to that?

I'm usually pro mil too, she's usually Fab. She didn't say anything, just asked what time we were picking her up.

ha ha ha cracking answer

So what time are you picking me up?

Back of 5 kitty, where are you?

We're paying as it's partly for dp's birthday and partly to celebrate a wee windfall (much of which will be spent on dinner)

Yes dbil will have steak, and they'll order wine and they'll all have starters AND dessert...

Is it too late to book the local Pizza Hut instead??

Nope that is just plain rude!

Personally I'd just be happy someone was feeding me!

So you are paying for dinner and doing taxi service? You are saints.

very rude! if they dont like it, they dont go! simple!

As suspected he's had steak....

Why on earth would you waste even a penny of a windfall on such ungrateful people, let alone spend most of it on them?