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Original poster

To take dd to a wedding tonight with suspicions of slapped cheek?

29 replies

Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 12:29

Slapped cheek has been doing the rounds at dd's school the last few weeks!
Dd yesterday had very rosey cheeks (unusual for her), a mottley kind of rash on tops of arms, legs and chest, a sore throat and a slight temp!

Today cheeks still look on fire but not really any other symptoms apart from a slight mottled type rash on arms!

We are invited to a wedding tonight!
AIBU to take her? Do we need to stay home?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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outtolunchagain · 04/05/2013 12:32

Stay home , very dangerous to pregnant women, every wedding I have ever been to has always had at least one pregnant woman there

MildDrPepperAddiction · 04/05/2013 12:32

You prob shouldn't take her. Along with the risk if spreading it she may not be feeling too hot. Do you really want to drag her along?

Could you get a babysitter for her?

Passmethecrisps · 04/05/2013 12:33

I am inclined to think you should stay home. It does sound like she has got it. How long is it infectious for?

Err on the side of caution. Stay at home.

Arion · 04/05/2013 12:33

Slapped cheek can be very dangerous for foetus under 20 weeks (friend is primary school teacher and came into contact at 18 weeks).

Anyway of getting to a walk-in centre to be sure? If it is, I personally wouldn't take child as you don't know who may be early pregnant or compromised immunally.

Original poster
Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 12:35

Yes Babysitter is no problem!
Thanks for the advice, ive been googling all night/this morning and still was on the should i shouldnt i!
Decision made! She will stay home! She will be gutted tho Hmm

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Kormachameleon · 04/05/2013 12:35

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tasmaniandevilchaser · 04/05/2013 12:40

Stay at home, surprised you're asking actually. I wouldn't consider going. I would be very surprised if there wasn't a pg woman at the wedding, you may not know about it, it may be too early for them to announce it. Having had various health scares in this pg, i wouldn't knowingly inflict that stress on someone. If nothing else then you won't be spreading it around even more, giving it to other children at the wedding. I'm assuming 'we' means DP and you, can one of you go and one stay home with DD.?

tasmaniandevilchaser · 04/05/2013 12:41

Ah x posts, hope your DD can have a nice treat tonight Smile

BreakOutTheKaraoke · 04/05/2013 12:45

I came into contact with this while pregnant. Contracted parvovirus as a result, giving me a very stressful time for the remaining 22 weeks of my pregnancy, fortnightly scans, bleeding which they couldn't be sure was related, and being induced 3 weeks early due to DDs head being smaller than expected and not growing any more (again, may not be related, but could be). Don't risk it.

BackforGood · 04/05/2013 12:47

Glad you've decided. Mosre amazed you even had to ask.

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Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 12:48

Its going to have to be a BIG treat to compensate!
Shes so sad about not going Hmm

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Madamecastafiore · 04/05/2013 12:48

You would be incredibly selfish to take her. I had an awful week waiting to see if I had immunity after coming into contact with it at 8 weeks pregnant.

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Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 12:49

Oh and does anyone know when they stop being contagious?
Im hopeless!! Confused

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Tincletoes · 04/05/2013 12:50

I thought that once it got to the rash stage you were no longer contagious? Isn't that the biggest problem with slapped cheek, that you aren't actually displaying the symptoms when you are the most contagious?

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Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 12:53

Thats what ive read Tincletoes! Thought people on here would be more wise than me to help!
Backforgood that is why i asked!!!!
Seems the majority think its safer to stay home so thats what will happen!
Thanks everyone

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Fayrazzled · 04/05/2013 12:53

If she has slapped cheek and is displaying the characteristic rash then she is almost likely no longer infectious. Slapped cheek is infectious 4-20 days before the rash appears. However, I think in your situation I'd still keep my child at home. First, in the outside chance she did pass the virus on to a vulnerable person and secondly, because she will probably not be feeling herself anyway.

Bad luck.

ilovepowerhoop · 04/05/2013 12:53

slapped cheek is at its most contagious before the rash appears and once it starts to spread to the arms/body it is no longer contagious.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Slapped-cheek-syndrome/Pages/Symptoms.aspx

DeskPlanner · 04/05/2013 13:03

Probably not infectious any more. But very sensible to keep her home. If you had taken her you would have spent most of your time telling people the most infectious time is before the rash.

I never understand why people are funny about others asking questions in here. That's what MN is for. Sometimes you know the answer but you just want someobe else to agree with you.

elfycat · 04/05/2013 13:08

My daughter had this and it turned out I was one of the 50% of adults who hadn't had it. I had a 50% chance of catching it and I did. Nasty flu-ish illness with very painful, arthritic type joints (knee, ankle, elbow, wrists and fingers) which lasted for about 5 weeks.

Very nasty illness, and I wasn't pregnant so no other worries except writing my essay (lots of painkillers so I could type). Adults don't necessarily have the red cheeks. Just letting you know in case you get it and wonder what the heck is happening.

Hope you don't though! And hope DD feels better soon.

SillyTilly123 · 04/05/2013 13:10

My dd2 had it last week. Took her to docs who said that she is fine to go to school as once rash is out its no longer contagious. I would take her.
(dd1 and dd3 have also had it since, think its definitely doing the rounds)

quoteunquote · 04/05/2013 13:57

When the rash spreads down the body and legs the infection is in the third stage, and you are not infectious just itchy, antihistamine tablet, paracetamol, for as long as the rash lasts, is what I was told by the doc, we went through a lot of cream. lots of tepid baths.

she will be safe in about three days.

It is really dangerous to pregnant women, you are more infectious before the rash appears, but until it's on it's last bit you are not safe.

Original poster
Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 15:29

Thank you everyone!
And hopefully i wont Elfycat although knowing my luck Wink

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FarBetterNow · 04/05/2013 15:34

I've never heard of it - but have now googled it.
I expect there will be a jab for it soon.

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Poppykat1 · 04/05/2013 16:57

Thats the thing FarBetter! For something that can be so harmful to some people it isnt talked about really! Im assuming its kind of the same as chicken pox which is widely known about!
I had heard about it but only really looked into what it was when i got a letter from dd school a couple of weeks ago about it!

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LeonardWentToTheOffice · 04/05/2013 17:24

Ds had it and the last stage was soooo itchy he cried - he's 10 Sad Def recommend piriton handy and aqueous cream seemed to cool it - it seemed to work through body starting cheeks, body, thighs, legs ending feet.