Re the individuality thing:
I don't get why "individuality" has become pejorative when applied to schools. Being who you are has nothing to do with ability to learn or good manners.
Mostly we encourage children to respect others "individuality" be they skinny, fat, ginger-haired, gay, black, white, hetero-normative etc etc
Why on earth does being who you are (ie an "individual") equate to bad behaviour, or another fave MN word "entitlement."
One of the things Britain is most admired for is the tolerance of individuality and eccentricity, it is the reason for the success of our creative industries.
Why on earth is it important that in places of learning and exploring and discovering and trying (and exam factory-ness) that everyone looks the same?
It's just weird.