AIBU - No sweets or squash

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AIBU to not serve squash or give out sweets at a children's party?

Just wondering what parents would think of going to a children's party where there was only water to drink and just birthday cake to take home. For us that would be normal and I wouldn't think anything of it but just wondering if parents would be surprised at not seeing squash or sweets?

OP I have done a BBQ party, DS1 doesn't eat the buffet type party food.
We had sausages, homemade burgers, chicken kebabs, veg kebabs I also did a basic salad and a couple of pizzas.
For pudding there was berries and ice cream and fruit juice ice lollies, with birthday cake to take home.
Drinks were water iced with slices of lemon or fruit juice we didn't have any complaints.

Forevergreek and notso, thank you.

I may be posting in the wrong section so sorry about that but it's hard enough working this app out on my phone as it is.

Water at a childrens' party. The mind boggles. I can't honestly believe what I'm reading from some of you mums and the kind of politically-correct, health-conscious shit you would serve up to other people's kids.

If my child was invited to that kind of party I would send as a gift a 2-litre bottle of fizzy Vimto and a pound of cola cubes. Because twattish behaviour deserves a twattish reponse.

I don't think YABU to have nutritional standards for your children. Lots of people are saying there should be different rules for parties but in a class of 30, plus friends from elsewhere, there are often parties every weekend. So unless you are happy for DCs to trough sugar every week, you have to draw a line. We also never have squash or sweets at home, and say no to the majority of party invitations as the majority of parents do allow them to be an unlimited sugar fest. I don't think DD misses out as a result, though I'm sure most PPs would disagree! For what it's worth her party was a sit down meal of spaghetti Bol (with loads of veggies in the sauce OF COURSE) and cake to take home. No plastic crap in little bags either. Never thought of it as 'worthy' - each to their own, but DH has diabetes so want to give DCs best chance against their genes.

It's the equivalent of serving mineral water and Ryvita at an adult's party.

YABU about serving just water. What about pure fruit juice or sugar frr cordial. You could offer water too if you really want to but the point of parties is that they are a time for treats

The party is in July and you are planning beverages already?!

DS1's party is in less than two weeks and at this stage I'm idly thinking I'll need to go shopping. I'll probably decide what to serve while I'm in Sainsburys the day before.

I hate squash so I offer juice or water at parties.
plus lots of snacky foods.
it will be fine as long you offer something to eat.

AIBU?

Yes

NO I am not you are all nasty

I wouldn't have any problem with no sweets being served - I would think a lack of sweet things a bit joyless, but there are loads of treats you could have, no reason why sweets would be one of them.

I wouldn't serve just water, that seems a bit austere, and it isn't as though the only other option is squash; there are loads of drinks you could serve.
Nice jugs of fruit juice - diluted with water/ fizzy water. Juices like apple or mango or pineapple or grape are (imo) more refreshing if they are diluted, although citrus fruits don't dilute well, I find. Banana milkshakes made with fresh bananas would be a nice treat as well (they're my DD's favourite)

Jewcy
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I loathe sugarfree chemical laden headache inducing squash. Won't touch the stuff. Lovely Tesco Hi Juice with sugar. Plenty of sweets/cake/biscuits/ice-cream
then you won't have neurotic eating disordered obese kids

I don't think you can go far wrong with a kid's party so long as you put the preferences of your guests first.

As a party host it's not your job to police the eating habits of other people's kids.

forevergreek fair enough its your party and you have a choice what to serve - I personally think its really odd and also selfish not to consider your guests and what they might like - after all, there wouldnt be party without them.

This thread is bonkers. She's not suggesting a sugar-free bore-fest.
OP if you want to not serve sweets, don't, they're not essential. Having some nice food is what's important, and it sounds like it will be great. I'd vary the drinks because plain water can be a bit boring, but it sounds like you've already taken that on board.

Wasnt there a thread here once about a bridezilla who only wanted to serve sushi at her wedding reception to guests because thats what she liked?

And let's hope it doesn't rain for such a meticulously planned BBQ.

Have you thought about serving up cork kitchen tiles scantily smeared in organic, kind-to-bees honey? You could also ask the children to milk their own drink from a hand-reared goat in the garden. And then slaughter it for the BBQ.

I think people have smelled blood in the water, OP. RUN.

FWIW, I hate squash. I would have fizzy water, juice, milk and maybe chocolate milk. BBQ is great. I hate sweets and did as a child as well.

Now now Jewcy, we need kindness here, remember?

Nkffffffff...my feelings exactly.

...I would have a clown on meth to make up for the shit food and drink.

We also dont do sandwiches etc as neither of our children like them. Last party we did a tomato pasta, and pesto pasta. Then bowls of cheese/ chicken/ chopped sausages etc to add on top as they wanted. Everyone loved it, and as party was 4-6pm it meant at least they had all eaten.

Then birthday cake with ice cream for desert.

Thanks Lulabellarama. Bonkers exactly.

No, SirChen, AIBU is not for kindness. It is for truth. And this is my truth.

I don't see the problem in not having sweets. As long as there are a few other sweet snacks like biscuits and chocolate etc will it even be noticed? Or do you mean all things with sugar in it? Then YABU. I'm quite anal about sugar, and even I give out sweet foods for parties. Last party when DS was 4yrs, I gave out snack boxes with cheese and crackers, home made sausage roll, apple, raisins, carton of juice, a tunnocks tea cake, and birthday cake and mini pack of haribos in party bag.
If you can't bear sweets the party, how about some sweets in the party bag?

I think YABU about the squash too. It would be really boring with just water. Although my DCs only drink water and milk at home, at a party I would give out pure fruit juice and a jug of water. No squash though. Can't see the point of it.