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AIBU to expect having painless sex 6 months after c-section?

32 replies

LaMaga · 18/04/2013 15:42

I had sex with DH missionary (6 months after c-section) thinking it would be fine and I got very into it and now I am paying the consequences (lots of pain in the scar area). AIBU to think I should be able to have to enjoy sex like I did before baby (all positions I like)?

And to 'top it' my baby kicked me in the scar area whilst BF. Any advice?

OP posts:
OkayHazel · 18/04/2013 15:53

YABU to expect to be miraculously healed.

You'll be fine and able to have a fulfilling sex life again eventually, but it is going to take more time for you evidently.

Take it slow, be gentle and look after yourself. It can only get better from here!

onefewernow · 18/04/2013 17:34

Hmmm... I didn't have this issue, and had three sections.

Maybe get it checked?

Original poster
LaMaga · 18/04/2013 17:35

Thank you Hazel I was naive enough to believe all the 'I could dance as soon as I left the hospital' c-section ladies...

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MotherOfNations · 18/04/2013 17:36

Same as onefewernow. 4 sections here and no problems.

mrswoz · 18/04/2013 17:37

I am almost 7 months on from my 3rd section. Sex doesn't hurt, nor did it at the same sort of timeframe after the previous sections. This time round has taken longer for it to feel normal again that's for sure.

Is the scar hurting at any other times? you sure it was the scar? Do you know specifically which part of sex was painful? (not being nosy just trying to help narrow it down, as I'm sure there are others who will have had the same trouble!)

GirlOutNumbered · 18/04/2013 17:37

I've had two, last one 7 months ago. I do get some twinges, but not during sex...

CookieLady · 18/04/2013 17:44

I've had two c-sections. Last one was six months ago and I've not had any problems with scar during sex. Give yourself a not longer and if it hurts again during sex or any other time see your doctor.

CookieLady · 18/04/2013 17:45

*a bit longer.

Original poster
LaMaga · 18/04/2013 17:55

I wonder if it was the position, having DH on top of me. But then I was on top and had maybe about 5 or 6 orgasms Blush Orgasms are contractions of of uterus, so, perhaps that it's the problem? Adhesions?

The pain was so bad I had to take strong painkillers and I usually don't take painkillers. The pain was in the pelvic area/ around the c-section scar (it was worse when DH was on top and after sex).

I actually thought I was recovering well, because I didn't have any scar pain prior to this.

OP posts:
Oodsigma · 18/04/2013 19:56

4 sections, last one 6 weeks ago, only pain I have is from a haematoma and is v specific area.

Original poster
LaMaga · 18/04/2013 20:20

of the uterus.

Oodsigma You had 4 sections, I always though women could have only up to 3 children by c section. Maybe you are stronger than other women.

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MotherOfNations · 18/04/2013 20:24

There's no limits these days MaLaga. The old rule applied to the vertical incision I think. I'm having my 5th section in October.

MotherOfNations · 18/04/2013 20:25

Sorry autocorrect changed your name.

Oodsigma · 18/04/2013 21:38

Yes no limit now although I was encouraged to stop at 3. Lol at strong though , I'm a wreck during and after pregnancy.

Rosduk · 18/04/2013 21:50

I had a c section 4 months ago - crash section- unusually huge scar. I don't get any pain although the occasional twinge

HollyBerryBush · 18/04/2013 21:57

I had 3 C-sections, and I never had any problems. And probably started intimate relations far earlier than advised

Flojobunny · 18/04/2013 21:59

I had a section 4 yrs ago and still twinges if caught in the right place.

MakeHayNotStraw · 18/04/2013 22:03

Nothing useful to add (I didn't have problems with my section scars) apart from 5 or 6 orgasms??? I want me some of that!

LookingForwardToMarch · 18/04/2013 22:04

Maybe have it checked?

Had one 8 weeks ago and no problems dtd since week 5.

valiumredhead · 18/04/2013 23:07

People heal differently, mine still twinges occasionally 12 years on! You had major abdominal surgery, if you had had a hysterectomy you would be told to lift nothing heavier than a kettle for 6 weeks and to take it easy etc but because we give birth we are meant to snap back into shape and for there to be no pain, which is not the case ime.

MotherOfNations · 18/04/2013 23:17

I was pregnant again 3 months after my first section and again 6 months after the Second. You'd think if anything was going to cause problems that would.
I would get checked just to be on the safe side.

TarkaTheOtter · 18/04/2013 23:46

5 or 6 orgasms? Crikey.

valiumredhead · 19/04/2013 15:43

Your section gave you 5 or 6 orgasms? Confused

valiumredhead · 19/04/2013 15:44

Oh I see, I have just re read properly.

Szeli · 19/04/2013 15:51

When do folk have sex after sections? I'm going insane now after 3 weeks (longest we've ever gone) and the nurse said at least 8 weeks wait was needed. Why?

OP I'd have a word with your gp, get it checked out. That seems extreme xx

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