My DD is 19, she lives away at uni - not too far away and will sometimes come home at weekends and she comes home in the holidays too.
She's in full time education during the week and works all weekend too. She does do the usual teenage thing of sleeping in late and going out drinking but not to excess. She still helps out at home when she's actually here.
Anyway my brother who has always been quite a joker always (without fail) says to her whenever/ he comes over usually in the afternoon - "so have you just got up then" - or he refers to her as scruff. She doesn't look untidy to me.
She's recently suffered through some minor depression and yesterday again when she came into the living room and he was there he said "have you just got up?", she did get a bit snappy and say "no, I haven't actually"
And I'd told him she was going to a buffet with her friends that night to which he said to her "oh you'll be alright because they do chips"
She used to be a fussy eater when she was little but she's definitely not now.
I could tell this comment annoyed her too.
When he left she told that she's fed up of the constant criticisms of her every time he sees her. I'm not sure if she's being extra sensitive because shes been so down lately and my brother doesn't mean it in a serious way.
Who is being unreasonable? I feel a little bit stuck.