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AIBU?

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To expect to bed fed?

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changeThatNameRightNow · 17/04/2013 09:05

We live in Asia. DD(3) had a nasty accident last night. She broke her wrist and elbow, and needed wire putting in both, under GA.

Doc saw her this morning, couldn't discharge as he hadn't seen the X-rays taken before he came to tell if surgery went well. It is 4pm here, he still hasn't come back. Spoke to nurse, who first said to expect him at2, now 7. Discharge after that usually takes 2-48!! Hours, because they won't discharge until the insurance has gone through.

I have been given nothing to eat or drink since we arrived, at 5 pm yesterday. DH came for a bit pre surgery last night and also this morning. Last night was too much of a stress/ rush for food for me to be a priority. He came this morning with some coffee and a sandwich from the cafe (which only sells sandwiches, and horrible ones at that).

Dd is 3 and freaked out. I can't leave her but I am so hungry! DD also hungry, her lunch arrived (kids meal) covered in chilli sauce, and they wouldn't replace. DH coming back soon once the baby is awake, and will bring food but , well, AIBU to think the hospital (private) should give me ksomething, and replace DD's lunch?

Also no sleep last night, as only chair provided, which is fine but in conjunction with no food I am getting pissed off.

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changeThatNameRightNow · 18/04/2013 00:48

She's out now vicar, and it is tomorrow! I'm fine, I'm sure shell be fine. Will go home if there's a problem. Thank you though

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DupontetDupond · 18/04/2013 00:55

Thought from your OP that you fancied notching up a shag with a tennis champ...

whethergirl · 18/04/2013 01:05

OP don't go to work - you're emotionally and physically exhausted, you'll be worried about DD the whole time...just take the day off, it's completley justified.

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changeThatNameRightNow · 18/04/2013 02:16

Going in late. Hospital phoned, they forgot to give us her antibiotics (even though when I picked up her meds I asked if there should be antibiotics too, they said no...)

Thank you for your concern. She's much perkier this morning, and I feel much better after some sleep and a coffee. :)

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Gigondas · 18/04/2013 02:40

Glad she is on mend but grr re meds faff .

MidniteScribbler · 18/04/2013 03:29

Glad she's feeling better, and I echo that YWNBU to take the day off. I often joke that I'll be surprised if my DS makes it through his youth without breaking something.

With regards to my experiences in hospitals, if you grab the person with the catering cart, they're usually a bit more willing to help out, rather than the already overworked nurses who really do have too much to do than be making cups of coffee. I've never been expected to be fed, but the catering staff are usually a bit more willing to make an extra cup of coffee, or hand over a spare pack of sandwiches or dinner that hasn't been used if you ask nicely or drop the right hints.

LindyHemming · 18/04/2013 07:16

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christinarossetti · 18/04/2013 07:20

Poor you. Parents don't get fed in UK hospitals either as a rule (I did when I was breast feeding, but that was only because they had extra).

Glad that you're home and that you dd is on the mend.

pooka · 18/04/2013 07:44

I would actually expect a private hospital (here) to feed the adult too.

Dd had her tonsils out at a private hospital last year. We were both fed, and I had a pull out bed.

Ds1 spent 2 nights in (NHS) after asthma attack. I stayed with him on a pull out bed. I wasn't fed, but was able to go to the canteen while he was at the hospital 'school' or could have gone at any time since the nurses were there. He had decent food.

When ds2 had a blood transfusion as a newborn outpatient I was fed because I was breast feeding him (and he obviously didn't need a meal because he was only a month old). Again, there was a pull out bed.

I really do see the ability to stay comfortably-ish with your child in paediatric unit as something to be encouraged and supported and while the food was better/more choice at the private place, the care received was, I think, just as good at nhs (having seen child in same ward when ds1 in post tonsillectomy). Makes me proud. Only thing is, dd wouldn't have been able to have the operation as quickly and since dh has bupa via work, that's why we went private.

crabb · 18/04/2013 07:48

Thought from your OP that you fancied notching up a shag with a tennis champ...

Good call, DupontetDupond!

schoolshoeblues · 18/04/2013 09:13

Hi. I'm in India. You need to tell them in no uncertain.terms that you and your daughter need proper food. Demand to see a dr. Start yelling. They will usually concede because you are a foreigner. Do you have a driver?

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changeThatNameRightNow · 18/04/2013 09:23

Ha ha re federer! No, no driver.

She's feeling much better today. Came home from work a little early, but she's asleep. :)

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BegoniaBampot · 18/04/2013 09:44

you sound much better today OP, hope your daughter makes a full and speedy recovery!

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